Comments by "DavePazz" (@davepazz580) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. None of that changes a woman's image from not being seen as appropriate long-term relationship material into becoming that in a man's mind... "Deep lack of self confidence" is what feminists say to console themselves for the very poor life choices they made...
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  2. Who do you think entitles men to "do whatever and it's fine"? Women themselves... they reward men with multiple partners because (obviously) those are the men that women go after and sleep with. So contrary to what you believe, women are totally fine and ok with the top percentage of men sleeping with multiple women... and these men still have a perfect right to place whatever requirement they wish on women they want to get serious with.
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  3. Being "good looking by birth" means absolutely nothing to most women... men with status get their pick of women. Men don't "sleep around" because men don't control access to sex... women do. And whatever body count he has makes absolutely no difference to what he would want in a female... just like a woman barely making $25,000 a year is still perfectly within her right to desire a man making a lot more money than that. Her own income level is totally irrelevant to what she desires a man to have... same thing applies to body count.
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  4. The only reason it's a "huge exception" is because the vast majority of men don't bother to really maximize themselves financially, socially and physically... they are content with being just average and settling for an average life. This video assumes men have been working hard all their lives and by 50 should have reached a very prominent level in whatever they have dedicated their careers to... it's not about just sitting around being lazy/broke/overweight and a slob, then magically expecting to become super attractive to women just because of a birthday. Nobody really thinks that here... So pointing out the statistics of average guys really doesn't mean anything here... statistics also tell us the large majority of the population is overweight/obese and terribly out of shape eating a terrible diet - it doesn't make fitness and good nutrition videos useless or inconsequential.
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  5. But for the majority of men, it is about "not hustling more"... sure, there are cases where this isn't applicable, but don't tell me most men can't improve even somewhat in this area by working smarter and harder. You seem to be placing way too much emphasis on being "extremely well looking"... if your bank account/career and social status are on point (which are largely workable), believe me, women aren't going to even notice too much more about your physical self (provided you do a decent job of looking after yourself). It's not necessary to look like a male model in his 20's for a 50-year-old man to attract women... trust me on that. Your question about "demographics" plays into the social status side of the equation... Any woman (even in her 20's) will gladly present a high status, successful man to her friends... of course, it also depends how you've "spread out" that status - it's very possible to be making 300k a year and even own a tech company but failing to create the proper image of status. I've just seen too many guys achieve exactly that to believe it's flat out undoable and not possible to happen (not that I'm saying every single man in the world can have the exact same result).
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  6. There are just too many factors that go into that statement than just the difference of birthday years... Obviously, if a woman in her 20's presents a high-value man that looks like he's ready for the retirement home and now qualifies for social security, that would look bad and would never really happen anyway... But there's a lot of leeway before looking that disparate... my experience has been as long as a couple looks more or less similar in ages (and they appear to be genuinely into each other, that is also key), nobody is really going to care one way or the other. One of my cousins married a guy who was almost 20 years her senior... sure, at the time they first met and started dating seriously, people pointed out the difference and would say things like "He's too old for her..." But now they've been married more than 30 years, it's all water under the bridge... they have 3 kids (all of them grown), nobody really even knows nor cares about their age difference (in fact, you could hardly tell there is much of one now just by outward appearances, if any). Of course, this is an exceptional case, and I'm not saying every man on Earth can or will achieve what my cousin's husband did... but my outlook isn't based on the statistics of "average" people because the only thing that tells you is where "average" ends up in life.
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  7. Look at it this way... the large majority of the population is overweight (or obese), have very bad diets and are well out of shape all-around. So if I pull out "statistics" on the overall general population, things aren't going to look pretty at all... most people will have some bad health risks leading to certain causes of death and this will affect the mortality rate. Being overweight or obese will mean that the raw numbers will show the majority of people will have diabetes and suffer all sorts of physical ailments related to this condition (and others)... This will be the fate of most "average" people based purely on these numbers... So, does this mean all of us are obligated to end up with the exact same fate as the majority? Absolutely not... we could actually take action for ourselves, exercise regularly and eat a much better, more healthy diet. Taking these steps to become actually "fit" with no excess body fat alone means you have already put yourself into a "non-average" category, as most people simply choose not to be physically in good health. There are videos here on YouTube about diet and exercise... are these videos "lying" to people and creating "false hopes" they will not end up like the majority of the population which are unfit and overweight? Again, absolutely not... Now, you already know that no specific end result in life is ever 100% assured... it is possible to drop dead young even though you have a great diet and exercise, because other factors also play into the end result. But it really doesn't matter... everyone should be trying to avoid the "normal" outcome and doing all they can to be in the best shape they can be, just as every man should be doing everything possible to maximize themselves financially, socially and physically. The guys that do this do end up with much better overall results in life, including in the romance dept. and I've met quite a few of these "exceptions" to the rule over the years to know it can be done...
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  8. Back on the market after a marriage, and after a divorce which very likely they themselves initiated... There is no "hypocrisy" whatsoever since men aren't women and women aren't men... it could only exist when judging men with other men and women with other women.
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  9. That's what feminists say to make themselves feel better...
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  10. Because women don't value men's bodies anywhere close to how men value women's bodies... plain and simple.
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  11. How so?
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  12. Almost everything in life regarding human beings is "transactional" to some degree... please don't kid yourself.
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  13. All men look as women as sexual objects, just like all women look at men as "success" objects... it's just how it is and always will be. Caring about someone "as a person" within a relationship only happens after the initial stage of just barely meeting and developing interest... nobody become physically attracted (or drawn) to a person after finding out how they are "as a person" - you must first have initial attraction, and this is based largely on a woman's physical appearance (and a man's status and wealth-level) You can't skip to step 2 without step 1... that's not how this works. You're right, the majority of men do "age badly" (as do most women too btw)... the truth is only few men ever "maximize" their sexual attraction power by dedicating themselves to being as financially powerful as possible, getting the best physical shape as possible, maximizing their social presence as possible, etc. But the few men that do all these things well enjoy a lot of success in the dating market and have much more/better choices in women overall than men that don't... These days, there is no real benefit to being a "younger" man because (despite your last sentence) the truth is as a whole, "younger" men are actually having the least success with women than almost all other groups.
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  14. I'm just repeating back your logic here...
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  15. Gene Simmons of KISS never had any 6-pack and was physically hideous... yet had dozens of women lining up outside his dressing room after concerts night after night all across the world during the band's heyday. btw, these women weren't there just to shake hands if you know what I mean...
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  16. Except that men can't be "promiscuous" because men don't control access to sex... women do.
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  17. A man's virginity literally has no value whatsoever...
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  18. Tiktok is full of older women who supposedly "didn't need men to stay around"... these aren't very happy women today.
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  19. A man that doesn't want to be exclusive can only afford that luxury knowing full well he can get another woman to replace you easily... in other words, he's a man that multiple women find very desirable. So the solution is to find a man that is not also desired and chased by multiple women... one that only you want and no one else. The problem is women can't bring themselves to desire men no other women want... so it's a catch22.
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  20. No...
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  21. It doesn't matter until it matters...
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  22. Most men separate the "casual" from the "serious" when it comes to women and relationships... generally speaking, the standard of woman for a casual, short-term flings is way lower than for a serious, committed relationship type of woman. Men usually aren't judged or scrutinized too much for the women they have very casual relationships with (most people around you probably will never even meet them or know who these women are)... but when a relationship turns official and serious, most men are now going to care very much that the woman he chose to be his partner has a really good image because now she is a reflection of him and his life choices. Not to mention such a woman is going to be involved far more deeply in your life than any casual, short-term sex partner ever would be... And in such a situation, I don't hesitate to say most men wouldn't want to get serious with and show off to the world they chose a woman with a past that suggests she's an abject failure at relationships... Now, it's possible you're a very casual guy and none of his fazes you... the more partners a woman has, the better or it's totally all the same for you, but that's not how most guys feel.
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  23. Not "unsuccessful with women", but unsuccessful relationships with such women... Mind you, women with high body counts are very good for casual, short-term relationships... the type of relationship where you just need your physical needs to be met, but you don't want to involve yourself too much with that woman or her other issues (usually, high body count women have a lot of crazy things going on). The type of woman where you couldn't care less that she's got a couple of other dudes in rotation... you're even grateful she has other men because she can dump her personal problems onto them instead of you (hopefully). For those situations, such women are ideal... But given that so many high body count women are such a way, they are not good for anything more than what I described... Low body count women (or virgins) have a much different way of relating... they seem to value and appreciate a guy more, usually they are more humble and have a lot less drama and baggage in their past. Just from personal observation, it would be an easy choice as to which of the two would be the smarter choice for a long-term relationship...
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  24. They do? Then why have the majority of young men basically abandoned the dating market from lack of dating opportunities? If what you're saying were true, then all these "young bucks" would be totally thrilled to wake up every day with so many women throwing themselves at them... Yet the number of these guys who are virgins or have very little sexual experience is much higher than previous generations of that age group... so there's a huge disconnect between this popular notion you're repeating here and reality.
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  25. Without a big bank account or high status to go along with it, it doesn't matter...
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  26.  @bob-lk5et  This isn't a porn actor audition...
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  27. A "hypersexual sex crazed fanatic" is probably about less than 1% of the total male population... This comment of yours is very incoherent...
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  28. No woman "craves" men's bodies anyway... the need for security and stability overrides all that.
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  29. Are you kidding with this? Everything you said here is as* backwards, starting with the fact that the large majority of men do not have anything even close to a "high" body count... most men are either virgins or have very limited sexual experience these days. The only men that are actually enjoying the dating scene are the top 20% of men... this small group of men are basically sleeping with the majority of women, and they have plenty of sexual experience. So when you say like "Women do not want a man with a high body count either" I know it's total bullsh*t because nothing in actual real life backs up these words... Stop trying to turn men into women because they are not and never will be...
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  30. "Cheap" men don't get women at all...
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  31. It's been statistically proven that women cheat more than men do...
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  32. But in a more "equal and fair" society, do men also prefer women their own age over younger women? Both would have to be true for this to be the case, and that's where this idea falls apart for me... That said, I don't really look at this from a strictly age perspective in the case of men's desirability... it's just more true than not as a general rule that the more time a man has accumulated in building financial resources and attaining status, the more success and choice he will enjoy in the dating market.
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  33. As long as the older man is getting sex, he is not being "used"... he's getting exactly what he wants. Men aren't women... so stop projecting a woman's mindset onto a man, that's not how this works.
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  34. Nice fairy tale, but it's never going to work because all the things you just listed women don't really care about... What they do care about are other factors... and if a man has these other, more important factors, they won't give 2 sh*ts about his "body count" and other such nonsense...
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  35.  @ubaidbutt9709  Am not looking for a wife, but I regard women as they regard themselves...
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  36.  @ubaidbutt9709  Frankly, I don't care what other people do... but a wrong concept is a wrong concept regardless of whatever boundary I may have.
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  37.  @ubaidbutt9709  Beating around what bush? You asked about what I'm "looking for in a wife" and I answered am not looking for a wife... then you talk about "boundaries" which makes absolutely no sense to ask in the context of this video topic of conversation. So now I'm "beating around the bush"... what little trap have you set for me, huh?
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  38. "Optic" for the status and financial situation mostly...
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  39. The truth eventually comes out one way or another...
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  40. Because there is no need to...
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  41. why isn't her trusting you by sharing that highly personal history considered as treating the man as highly valuable? Usually, a woman will reveal this information if she is really into you (assuming you are formally starting to have some kind of relationship with her) because she wants to be seen as being "trustworthy" and open... But it really makes no difference to the overall outcome if that number she reveals is high... In addition, her getting "freaky" with Man X on a one-night stand, but not doing it with you yet is not as simple as finding you "attractive". She may be more willing to do sexual things with men she'll never see again, but not as quick to do them with a man she truly cares about. Not exactly a glowing endorsement for her as being serious-relationship material...
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  42. First of all, still relatively few women overall have "big jobs" (despite how the media portrays the situation) and make any significant amount of money... Second, of the women that do have such jobs and money, they still demand a man making more money than they do and with higher status before they will even show interest in taking them seriously enough to date or have any kind of sexual relationship with them... I have no idea what you mean by "freed to exercise their bottled-up sexual selections"... no such thing exists, as women are totally free to pursue any men they want to regardless how much money or what job they have anyway. And they will always gravitate towards men with money/high-profile careers and social status... you can ignore the obvious if you wish, but no evidence exists to prove otherwise.
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  43. I mean, does one necessarily need "proof" as to why one would get nervous standing on a ledge in a very high place? Or if a certain food looks and smells rotten, why we would be averse to eating it?
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  44. Just like the same "hypocrisy" of women desiring a man who makes a much better living (money) and has a much higher social status than themselves... no difference. A woman living on those "morals" should remain living the life only on her own income level and never be with any men who make more money or who has a higher status... Evaluating a woman so strongly on her sexual past makes sense only if he's practicing what his expectation is. Wrong... just like in the previous example, his own actions have absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with the expectations placed on the individual he ideally wants. Consistent, open respectful communication and reciprocity are far greater indicators of a successful marriage than a spouse's prior sexual patterns. A woman's prior sexual patters will always matter a lot regardless...
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  45.  @internetprincess788  Generally speaking, grown men that don't have 2 pennies to rub together are not attracting women or being offered sex by women on a regular basis... or at all.
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  46. So, let me get this straight. If you are a man, it's still perfectly fine to have tons of crazy sex with lots of women and not care about where she's been, however, if you genuinely want to be with a woman as a long-term partner, suddenly her history is cause for concern. So, let me get this straight... if you're a woman, it's still perfectly fine to make as little money as possible with no real career, however, the man you genuinely want has to be making more money than you do. This sounds petty and hypocritical to me. As should the scenario I laid out... but I'm willing to bet that one doesn't concern you so much. Are we still in the cultural mindset that a woman is only as valuable as her sexual naivete? Are we still in the cultural mindset that a man is only as valuable as his earning potential and social status? That somehow engaging in sex with men is bad but the men are considered studs for getting with as many chicks as possible? That a woman beating up a man (either in real life or in movies) is considered "heroic" and she is seen as "strong", but if a man lays one finger on a woman, he's seen as a "coward" and "weak"? Are we still purely objects to you? Are men purely objects of resources to you? There is no room for nuance with this idea. There is no consideration for women who fell in love and give themselves to a man, or even multiple men, who turned around and abused and neglected them. Because that hardly ever happens... and women were ones who chose these men in the first place. But likewise, there is never any consideration from women for guys who just had bad luck in their careers, had a failed business or two or lacked the personality to achieve social standing... so please don't start on that. If a woman gets mistreated by her previous lovers, doesn't it make sense that she may be wary of jumping in the sack with someone who could potentially be just as bad? It would indeed... but when have women ever made sense? Most women would do the total opposite if what you said here... Can you understand that some women have learned to be more discerning and to take it slower as a means of self protection? Yes is understandable... still doesn't change anything stated here however. Maybe we aren't as willing to jump into kinky sex right away because we need you to prove that we will be mentally and emotionally safe with you because another guy failed us; even if we are WILDLY attracted to you, we have learned to be cautious. Too bad it had to take a bad experience to finally keep your legs closed... And it's going to take a hell of a lot more than paying for two or three fancy dates to earn that trust. That should've been the case right from the beginning...
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  47. Clearly we are light years away from a society where we are all in the right mind set to see just how shit everything is and that we need to start over and not worry about what reproductive equipment they have. That's never going to happen because our "reproductive equipment" is hard-wired to a certain mindset in properly using that equipment... and guess what? It means men and women will have very different instinctive approaches in the reproductive game... i.e. what is considered "valuable" and "desirable" for one will not be perfectly identical to the other. Are there double standards that suck for both men and women? Of course! Actually, they aren't "double" standards at all... My earlier examples weren't meant to show another double standard on the other side, but rather to show that men and women have different standards because men and women are not equals to begin with... each one has certain strengths or weaknesses relative to the other in many aspects and this necessitates having different standards for both. For example, why is a woman considered "strong" if she fights a man (or beats him up outright) but a man is considered "weak" if he beats up a woman? Because of the natural size/strength advantage men have over women... a man using this advantage against a woman is seen as a misuse of his power as a man, therefore, shows lack of judgement and control. Likewise when it comes to sex, women hold a very big advantage over men in terms of sexual power... even an average woman can rack up multiple male partners without even putting effort into doing so, while men would struggle to keep up with even half (assuming he even makes it that far) the number a woman could manage to reach. Because of this increased sexual power, it should be obvious that women will be held to a different standard of sexual comportment than a man would and be shamed (just as a man would be for hitting a woman) for misusing this power in a manner that doesn't benefit her or society. Regardless of what a man does sexually, it does not change a woman's standard one tiny bit... even if a woman existed that could beat up 100 men, she would still be perfectly in her right to prefer men that don't fight or beat up women regardless of her own actions in this area. And likewise, it makes absolutely no difference what number of partners a man has, he is still perfectly within his right and there is no "contradiction" whatsoever in his preferring a woman with no sexual experience. One action doesn't change the other's behavioral standard... they are mutually exclusive. What the hell do you think feminism is supposed to be about?! Originally, about simple things like equal pay for equal work and other basic rights... But today, it's all about retribution... Dismantling that shit! Wrong... because having different standards for men and women is just basic common sense. But some people don't care about that. They want to keep the fucking status quo. The "status quo" (when actually followed) in this case actually benefits both men and women, only you don't realize that yet... believe me, that last thing you want is all this so-called "equality" you're referring to. This video also doesn't address the fact that a lot of women didn't have the right male role models growing up. Because frankly, it doesn't matter... When women don't like the quality of men available to them, their first priority is to keep looking... they don't lament about the parents of the men that are present and available to them right then and there. They're instead just looking out for number one (which is what anyone would do)... Fathers were either completely physically absent, physically present but emotionally unavailable, flat-out abusive, or in the case of purity culture within conservative Christianity, the property of their fathers rather than real people. And now we have the opposite situation, we have more totally "independent" women... And look where that's gotten us... more divorces and less stable marriages than ever before. At least when daughters were the property of their fathers, the potential suitor had to impress the father first and foremost before he was even allowed around his daughter... and men are a much better judge of other men's character than any young woman is. Since we no longer do this, women choose for themselves, and the rest of your comment is indicative of the results... I would love to be in a relationship with a man who is emotionally intelligent, loves the living daylights out of me, shares household chores with me equally, is excited to grow with me as a person, and doesn't lord over me the fact that, statistically speaking, he's going to make more money than me. Doesn't seem like I'm going to meet anyone like that here. Life is competition where good outcomes aren't assured for anybody... you seem to know what you want specifically, but you have to also focus on what you would personally offer to such a man to keep him happy and satisfied in the relationship. Too many women completely overlook that aspect of things...
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  48. Comparing women to a piece of clothing is first of all misogynistic, like he's saying women are objects and it's also harmful and insensitive. No, just that this theme was obviously way over your head... There are kids on YT as well. If they see this, they're gonna draw the wrong conclusions! From a "psychologist" no less. You know this isn't a children's channel, right? Either way, he was correct in his analysis... Then he says, men can have sex with anyone they want and it's not a big deal because women sleep with him. Uh... I can say the same, saying the man also slept with the women. How does that not make him the cheap one? For 2 reasons: 1. Men don't control access to sex, women do... men have to do the right things and earn sex while women simply have to "grant" sex - big difference. 2. A woman that grants sex to a multitude of men is obviously getting nothing out of these men (no commitment) and obviously, they see no need to hold onto her whatsoever... this makes her "cheap". A man (on the other hand) who is able to attract and sleep with multiple attractive women is proving& he's *attractive because women don't choose to sleep with unattractive men in high numbers... A virgin woman has value because she's untouched... a virgin man is simply a loser that can't get laid - end of story. Are you saying women can only have sex if they are committed? No sweetheart... women can have sex anytime and with anyone they please, and as often as they please. Just don't expect to be regarded as if you made different choices in life... be a grown up and accept that. What about all those single women out there? Do they have to wear chastity belts only because it would hurt your fragile feelings if she slept with anyone else while single? The only one with "fragile feelings" here is you when faced with the truth... Why don't you do it instead and leave single women be with whomever they want? Similarly, why don't you leave videos like this one alone so you won't be hurt by the truth? And as I said before, women can be with whoever they want, nobody is stopping them from doing this... if a woman wants to get run through by half the city, be my guest. Just don't expect to be treated or thought of as if you had made the opposite choice... that's not how this works. Women are not prizes to be won. If you feel like paying for something for a woman makes them like you more... you're just wrong. You're also wrong because that's not even what he meant in the first place... This is not a transaction and if you look at it that way, then you still gotta grow up past puberty. Do you really not understand what an "analogy" is? Please go back to high school...
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  49. I'd say the answer is that it doesn't matter... just focus on your own development and improvement in life.
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  50. When a woman is seriously into a man and values him, she will volunteer information about her sexual past to him... he need not be curious. You're purposely painting a very negative picture of men wanting to know a woman's sexual past... it's exactly the same of women being curious about a man's bank account and earning potential. Both of these matter...
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