Comments by "DavePazz" (@davepazz580) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. What you conveniently leave out is that women control access to sex... men do not. Almost any normal woman can go out and attract the sleep with hundreds of men without any effort and in a very short time... but only very few men could go out and attract and sleep with women on any kind of regular basis. The simple truth is the large majority of men will never be able to have more than 1 or 2 sexual partners in his lifetime, whether he likes it or not... and a good number of men will never be able to find a long-term partner in his lifetime. What about that that "oppression" huh? Women believing all this modern feminism bullsh*t is what is really ruining this world today... wake up and stop with your silly nonsense.
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  2. It depends what you mean by "care"...
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  3. It would actually be a red flag for a man not to assess a potential partner this way... Just accept that men aren't women, and therefore, don't have the same exact priorities or find the exact same qualities desirable in women as women look for in men...
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  4. No, they aren't...
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  5. Well, what a man "wants" is ultimately irrelevant anyway because women are the ones that decide whether to get with a man (whatever age) or not... And no, men don't need to "show off" anything... every man wants an attractive female partner regardless of anything.
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  6. What you said was "Men are looking for a hospice wife"... I have yet to hear any man utter these words and indicate this is what he's looking for. Most men today are barely getting even one female partner every once in a while (if they're lucky), let alone even thinking about getting "multiple" partners... this really isn't an issue for today's man. And while you're worried about what 50-year-old men want and when they left their "ailing" wives, the vast majority of divorces today are initiated by women... It sounds like you're referring to Hugh Hefner or some international, old playboy in your last comment... those guys make up maybe half of 1% of the male population at most.
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  7. If what you're saying were true, then at least some men would admit this to others at least in private at least once before... but I've never heard it. Generally speaking, most men (the older they get) understand they are alone in the world anyway... they have no "fears" of dying "alone" because they long realized the idea years before. It sounds like you're projecting a woman's mentality onto men... and as I always say, men aren't women. "Love, intimacy and companionship" have absolutely nothing to do with women initiation the large majority of divorces today... it almost always comes down to finances - women become disillusioned when they realize the man they married isn't making enough money as she thought he would, which leads to her social standing getting no upgrade. So women want to get out of the marriage to try again with another man soon after... only that rarely works out, as second-time marriages have an even higher failure rate than first ones. But the point is there is much more fear of a woman wanting to leave her husband than her husband wanting to leave his wife overall... this pretty much negates your previously mentioned talk to men "leaving their wives when they are ailing".
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  8. Another perspective I'd add is that men are the ones that ask women for marriage, not the other way around... which means marriage would be his idea, not hers - so naturally, most men wouldn't want to seen as "going back" on their initial promises and want things to just remain the same rather than breaking up their family. Men that go back on their word (or constantly do this) because of wishy-washy "feelings" aren't really respected by other men... so there is a strong social hold men are generally bound to on things of this nature and (understandably) don't want to be seen as "weak" by going back and forth on major life decisions. And this explains why men would revert to acting like "pitiable victims" once a woman files for divorce... Of course, not every woman filing for divorce is a monkey brancher... but the stats are the stats, and the large majority of women filing for divorce today list some type of financial factor as the main reason. Now, I'm all for a woman filing for divorce from a man neglecting his main responsibility, which is to do all he can to provide a good, comfortable home for his family and to support his children well so they can thrive in life... for example, a well-to-do guy gets married then suddenly decides to quit his job and just relax on the sofa while his family goes into financial ruin. Nobody would blame a woman for wanting to leave such a man and situation... But I seriously doubt this is what's really happening to drive all these divorced initiated by women... The women that stay in marriages despite being "invisible" for the sake of their children are actually doing what they're supposed to... once you have children, they are the priority for a long time (not a 100% priority every minute of the day mind you, but mostly).
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  9. But you'd have to have some type of evidence to prove this being the case, not just a sneaking suspicion... As in the case of women initiating divorves, the majority of them do report back stating financial issues as being a reason.
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  10. What I meant by "evidence" isn't related to court documents, but at least something someone said or did to directly infer such an attitude... Finacial issues aren't the wife's fault per se... that's not where I was going with that - I simply said I seriously doubt all these women are initiating all these divorces based on the man being a bum and not fulfilling his obligation as a provider. And I say again, a wife leaving her husband because he's either a bum or very negligent in providing reasonably well financially for the family (i.e. putting his family in financial peril and in a bad situation) is fully justified. So I'm not saying the wife is always the "evil" party... But gathering from what's reported back from former wives, money was the primary factor the majority of the time... and I have a hard time believing that all these cases were because the husband was just a flat-out bum (or even most).
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  11. Yes but taken as a whole, some consistent factors appear...
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  12. It's a different standard rather than a "double" standard...
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  13. If that's all they have to settle for...
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  14.  @stacyjohnson9685  Cash is always important to any woman no matter what age... please don't think otherwise.
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  15. Doesn't make any difference... he's still right.
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  16. So basically, you're saying women are just men without penises... fascinating.
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  17. Looks like you missed the point...
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  18.  @xzpmy  Very, very few overall... it's meaningless.
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  19. the women care about men's sexual history just as much as men do about women's No, they won't... Women aren't men... which means women have an entirely different set of "priorities" they look for in a potential serious partner, you may think you care about a man's body count just as much as a man does a woman's body count, but it's impossible to and nothing in practical real-life experience indicates this stance. You're trying to create an "equivalence" here between a virgin (or very low body count) woman and a virgin (or very low body count) man... but the truth is those two do not "equal" each other in significance and they actually both mean different things. A woman's "default" position without any sense of control, self-esteem or awareness is a very high body count... Whereas a man's "default" position without any sense of control, self-esteem or awareness is zero women and zero body count... a man needs self-control, self-esteem and awareness to get any body count whatsoever. But this idea that men and women are perfectly identical, mirror-like reflections of each other is just feminist indoctrination nonsense... If a guy has had many sexual partners (or even has multiple kids from those partners) it's potentially a warning signal that he cannot be the committed partner the woman may be looking for. No, what it actually means is a lot of women find him attractive... and as I said earlier, women aren't men, they instead want men that other women want.
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  20. I didn't "mansplain" anything, I just told you basic commonsense logic, and you are essentially saying men and women are identical given your final conclusion... Women need "self-esteem" to date, but it's nothing like the type that men need... the two aren't even comparable. Even the most "average" woman will generate a ton of male interest once she just outs herself out there, which is a far cry from the experience of an average man... just "putting himself out there" is basically useless and there are more than enough stats to prove this. There is no "uncomfortable truth" about this so-called "concern for men's body count" because it's a flat-out lie to begin with... If women were really that concerned about men's body counts, then we'd have the opposite situation in the dating world that we have right now... we wouldn't have just 20% of men sleeping with 80% of available women while the other 80% of men (which are either virgins or very low body counts) remain ignored, dateless and sexless by the majority of women. But instead, the same men with the luxury of dating/sleeping with multiple women keep attracting even more women... these are the only men really enjoying themselves in dating today and I don't see any concern by women for their body counts whatsoever. So please spare me this false concern for incels... "learn how to treat a woman right" basically means "Go back to kissing a woman's ass and inflating her ego in her friend zone while that woman goes back to lusting after the man already sleeping with 20 other woman" - please gain at least some self-awareness. The "millions of single moms" had nothing to do with "promiscuous men" (no such thing even exists since men don't control access to sex in the first place) it's because most of these women have no idea how to keep men these days because they don't know what it means to be a real partner (plus not knowing how to choose a good man to start with)... women are overwhelmingly the ones filing for divorces these days, so this alone means they are the ones breaking up families.
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  21. "Burning desire" has little to do with the physical...
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  22. Correction... many guys with high status do nothing and women approach them. Looks are mostly inconsequential to women...
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  23. Apparently, they do...
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  24. It's not an "assumption" that women are the gatekeepers of sex, but a basic reality... I don't understand how you would think otherwise. The fact that women feel they "invest more" in an emotional relationship as opposed to a brief, casual fling doesn't really change anything here... it's not going to make a man think "Well I'm luckier than that last guy, all he got was exciting sex with no strings attached at the end!" That's not how this works... men gauge a woman's worth on her sexual history, nothing will ever change that. Nobody is talking about "putting women on a pedestal" or believing them to be "angels"... but like it or not, people do "rank" people (either consciously or subconsciously) and this is always going to be based on things we may not particularly like, or feel is "fair". And btw, it's not that "Men think that it's only them to have fun with casual sex"... women can have all the casual sex and fun they please, and nobody will stop them from doing so. Just don't turn around later and expect to get the exact same treatment and regard as a woman who made very different life choices... that's not how this works.
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  25. I'm sure they were "turned down" for other reasons...
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  26. About what?
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  27. That's great and all, but I've seen plenty of very average-looking guys (which is my own opinion) have one-night stands with younger women... while plenty of much physically better-looking guys don't get the opportunity to. I'm not saying looks don't matter at all but it's greatly exaggerated and it's all relative anyway... all the one-night stand guys that I've seen are very socially connected, have status within their peer group, etc.
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  28. But what you can't say is every single guy who has been involved in one-night stands with these women has looked like a male model... it's virtually impossible. Like I said, from there it's all purely subjective...
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  29. No, women do not care "about this too"... that's a bunch of nonsense. If they really cared that much, then it wouldn't be the top 20% of men attracting and sleeping with over 80% of women... and these men are far from being good little virgins, in fact, most women are essential sharing these men sexually. Meanwhile, the men who are actually virgins or have very limited sexual experience continue to be ignored by the vast majority of women... they certainly don't have beautiful women breaking down their doors to get at them because they have very low body counts, that's for damn sure. So please save these theatrics for drama school where it belongs...
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  30. No, the key to a successful relationship is to first make the wisest possible choice in partner... and for men, paying for what some previous guy enjoyed totally for free is the most unwise thing to do. So if the previous guy didn't pay full price for that woman, then why should the next guy? That's a question I know you won't have a logical answer to... And the point of this video wasn't for men to "ask" this question... when a woman is seriously into a man, she will in fact, volunteer this information about her sexual past... the man shouldn't even have to ask this, she should be the one to bring it up. If she doesn't, it means she lacks value and/or isn't serious at all about that man... simple as that.
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  31. I'll listen to experience (both of myself and of others) thank you very much... As I said already, a woman that doesn't volunteer such information over time simply isn't serious about the man she's with... end of story. I'm not taking about casual friends, guys you randomly meet on the street or co-workers just making time pass... those are the ones you shouldn't reveal the intimate details of your personal life with because such information bares no impact on your casual relationship. But a man you're supposedly really into and want to bond with for life, such details matter strongly as he has a perfect right to know what kind of woman he's getting... just as the woman has a perfect right to know about his financial situation. Once you are no longer strangers to each other or just casual friends, and are moving into "serious" relationship territory, it's no longer about "me" but about "us"... your private lives become your partner's business. And you're wrong about a few things here (typical bitter feminist tropes as usual)... It's not about "competition" but (as I said the first time), the man will realize if those other guys you casually gave your most prized asset to didn't want to keep you forever, then why should he? Why should a man see you as anything more than the previous guy did? And that's really on you, because you permitted the previous man to basically just use you for sex... your own personal desires and urges make absolutely no difference to anything. The same exact way women don't want men that other women likewise don't want, men don't want women for relationships that other men didn't want to hold onto either... You can't shame a man's basic instincts out of him with these silly feminist tactics... men instinctively value purity in women they want to permanently hold onto (as opposed to one that used up all her value on others before you) - nothing you say will ever change that.
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  32. Seems you missed the point...
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  33. If he cheats, then you obviously didn't do a good job of selecting men...
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  34. You can choose who you want to have a relationship with and who you don't...
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  35. Nonetheless, it is the instinctive way men value women... the truth about body count always come out one way or another. Just like women instinctively "rank" a man's value (and therefore, his worth in her eyes) based on his wealth/career and social status compared to other men, so do men rank women based on how they regarded their own bodies in the past... Just a fact of life we all must accept.
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  36. Women control access to sex, men do not...
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  37. Sure, as long as you plan to spend the rest of your life alone...
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  38. And if a woman "truly cares for you", things like a man's personal income, ability to financially produce, social status, etc. won't matter one little bit, right? Women will look upon and feel about men making very minimum/average money with no status exactly the same as they would respond to a financially successful man with tons of status... right? I own a bridge in Brooklyn I'd like to sell you if you seriously believe this... That's really just an old cliché you find in Disney movies "if someone truly cares for you"... we all know the truth is that people will always gravitate the most towards people with certain qualities, which naturally means these qualities are found to be more attractive or "preferable" than others... If you think the "married with children" is just a silly old "doctrine" that's fine for you... however, ask most women (even the so-called "successful" women) and they'll eventually admit to wanting that as well. The "pressure" women feel for this purpose is actually a good thing, because women definitely have a natural "time limit" on achieving these things optimally... Nothing is more depressing for a woman that waking up one day and feeling "ready" to settle down and have kids, and realizing it's not so easy to obtain past a certain age, and that she should have started the process way sooner. Quitting focus of finding "Ms. Right" and enjoying the moment is sound advice for men, not for women...
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  39. Quit reading Cosmo... are you serious? If I were actually telling you what Cosmo advises, I'd be telling women to go ahead and live the "Sex in the City" lifestyle... even after getting ran-through by a hundred men, a very wealthy and powerful Price Charming will come into your life at age 40 and take you away to live happily ever after. 50% of women without children "by choice" huh? And all 50% couldn't possibly be happier with this choice huh? I still own that bridge in Brookly if you are interested...
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  40. Sounds like you have some growing up to do on of your own... These silly feminist shaming tactics won't work here...
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  41. Which "advise" exactly?
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  42. Same way a "mature" woman caring about a man's bank account/job/career and status than how he matches up with her on shared goals, interest and life in general... Though I have yet to hear any "advice" given here... he's simply explaining a man's primal nature and priorities in action, which (unless you are a man yourself) you'll never be able to understand or relate to.
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  43. Nah, he's right...
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  44. It's not a double standard... but rather, a different standard based on unequal powers, natural strengths and weaknesses between the genders.
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  45. Men want virgins who are also sexually confident and freaky. Make it make sense No, they don't...
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  46. A woman wanting a taller guy is like a man wanting a woman with bigger boobs. Both are physical attributes. However, choosing to sleep around is a choice.* And so is the type of man you want... physical attributes don't change anything. However, choosing to sleep around is a choice. Only for women... men don't control access to sex. Not something you have no control over. Men have no control over a woman agreeing to concede sex... it's a woman's choice, not a man's. A young woman who is a virgin would naturally prefer a man with self control. A man with true "self-control" is one that has succeeded with many women... men with genuine lack of self-control attract no women at all (a.k.a. a virgin guy). The problem here is you think a man is simply a woman with a penis... that's not how this works. She has every right to ask for a virgin man. Everyone has a "right" to ask for anything they want... this includes sexually experienced men preferring to only seriously commit to a virgin woman - no difference. You think only men are bothered by the sexual history of women? Yes because there is no real evidence to suggest that the vast majority of women care at all... despite these lovely words of protest from you. It applies to a woman who keeps herself for the right man too. Except there is no evidence of this being the case out in the real world... She also cares a LOT about who might/ might not have been in his bedroom. So basically, you're saying such women (because they are virgins) have actually become men in how they think and what they look for in the opposite sex? You don't realize it, but that's what you're saying here... a virgin woman is not the "equivalent" of a virgin man.
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  47. A woman wanting a taller guy is like a man wanting a woman with bigger boobs. Both are physical attributes. Except that you'll never hear a woman say she wants a short, little man... ever. Men of short physical stature are never "idealized" in any way whatsoever by women... not in media or anyplace else. Whereas "bigger boobs" are ultimately inconsequential to a woman's overall physical value... much of the most physically "idealized" women actually have small breasts. So your comparison is flawed here... However, choosing to sleep around is a choice. Not something you have no control over. Except that only women have this "choice" since women control access to sex... men do not. A young woman who is a virgin would naturally prefer a man with self control. For men, "self-control" = having an abundant sex life... it means he's had the discipline to create a good life for himself, he's progressing and is becoming successful - this draws women into his life, not the other way around. A man with true lack of self-control is getting zero women being interested in him and zero sex... virgin men are essentially proving they aren't attractive by the mere fact that no woman has offered them sex - these are the guys with lack of self-control. You're confusing men and women here... women need self-control to avoid having a body count, but men need self-control to have a body count. She has every right to ask for a virgin man. She has a perfect right to ask for anything she pleases... just as any man has the exact same right regardless of his own body count. One has absolutely nothing to do with the other... You think only men are bothered by the sexual history of women? It applies to a woman who keeps herself for the right man too. A glance as dating and sexual activity statistics easily proves this wrong... She also cares a LOT about who might/ might not have been in his bedroom. Nothing in the stats proves this either... Love can come with jealousy and insecurity. Applies to any human, regardless of gender. Yes, but the specific things they get jealous or insecure about vary between the genders...
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  48. Lets be real, this girl is right, you men sleep around since puberty with very young girls that dosen’t know better and are desperate for your approval and love, very often they didn’t even have a father. None of this was "real" to begin with... your premise is way off. Most men these days are either virgins or have very low body counts... only the most desirable, wanted men have been privileged with any kind of "high" body count "since puberty"... Respect this young girls and even protect them and probably there will be more virgin women by the time you want to marry them. It's the job of women to sexually "civilize" men, not the other way around... men don't control access to sex, women do. But NO you don’t do that so stop complaining. Nobody is "complaining" about anything... Women will simply be treated according to what they permit themselves to be...
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  49. True... the assumption here is that men have had enough time to really make something of themselves by 50.
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  50. Everyone looks at the world in a "transactional" way in one form or another... don't delude yourself.
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