Comments by "Misha Skripach" (@MishaSkripach) on "Jordan B Peterson Clips" channel.

  1. must be the UK
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  2. She was with the man who did not care to confirm his feelings on a piece of paper. She was right to break up after waiting for 10 years. Guy who are 100% in it propose and offer marriage straight away.
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  3.  @Christian_Bagger  This just shows overdiagnosis. Lack of social skills within overall normal functioning should not receive a diagnosis but a social disapproval prompting the parents of every socially unskilled child to work on social skills more. Nice excuse for every parent who did not do the job of raising socially competent person out of their baby: diagnosis for the big baby.
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  4. The one who takes money for dnner frm a woman is not a man.
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  5.  @MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan  The question is how determined the mother is. Actually, this relates not only to sons, but to daughters as well. All kids are different, so the mother must make different effort to ensure that each and every one of he kids gets to the good social skills level. She must not accept the child who is antisocial. However, modern psychologists (not Jordan, he is an exception) teach to accept a child whatever and however he is. This is wrong! The mother;s job is to mould a person, and the only way to do it is to withdraw love for antisocial behaviour (still loving, but this should be unknown to the child!) showering love for good behaviour. It is a tough job, to reject your child for 20 min is not a nice task, but sometimes a useful one.
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  6.  @MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan  PAVLOV law applies to any mammal, let alone a human.Any dog, any cat can and should be trained to get social skills. Same with kids, and should be mastered by age 4. This is only done by reinforcing desirable behaviour and punishing undesirable. There is no other way to do it. A parent simply must create conditions in which antisocial behaviour cannot take place. Example: instead of giving earplugs for tantrums in noisy environment, placing inti such environment for long, without ear plugs, and wait until being there becomes ok for the child, several hours if required. I actually live in a real world and I brought up three lovely people, who did you bring up?
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  7.  @happybeach777  No, most are good. The proportion of bad parents equal thwe proportion of kids with ASD and ADHD together. As these are the result of the parenting exercises.
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  8. how do you know he is fluent? Did you ask 12 native speakers to test him?
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  9. @ if you are so knowledgeable, have you brought up a kid who CAN speak? To be able to decode the word, the child must have the enviroment where decoding this word is vitally important. For example, if a cookie will be given ONLY if the word is decoded. If the cookie is given anyway, there is no motivation to know the word.
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  10. The fashion of raising kids entitled to everything, telling then that they can become whatever and whoever they set to, telling them they deserve everything - ruined all those people. Nope, a child cannot chose to be whoever he wants, there are strict limitations dictated by inborn qualities. A boy cannot be a girl, a stocky girl cannot be a ballerina, a person with brown eyes cannot have blue eyes, a kid struggling with maths cannot become a scientist, a slow child cannot win a race... It is time to put a stop on lying to kids.
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  11.  @naisyjohns  Not "so". Autism is simply a name for lack of social skills, so it does not explain anything. You don't have social skills untill you get trained. If you mother refused or could not train you, you now have to do it yourself. Step one - Dale Carnegie How to win friends r ad and leart by heart and soent 1 year living by the book.
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  12.  @frequentlycynical642  Most parents have those skills. Look at any playground, find the nicest kids, come up to their parents and ask them how they did it. Not tolerating yucky behaviour from your child is all that is needed. NEVER tolerate from your son anything his girlfriend would not tolerate.
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  13.  @jomdizon6930  Never let your don do anything that would make him repulsive for someone else's daughter.
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  14.  @AegeanAzure  Exactly!
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  15. They throw tantrums about things they did not like for the single reason: because their parents allow them to. We all have things we do not like. However, good parenting is about training the child to react to whatever they dislike, within social norms.
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  16.  @ledacedar6253  The whole issue is that these are kids in families where no restrictions or discipline would be applied to a kid. They are allowed to eat what they want, do what they want, stim as they want, disturb others as they want, throw tantrums as they please. They would not even be forced to sit still for a hair-dresser. This is all because their mothers are scared to upset their treasure. So, by definition, no diet can be sustained in such a household, as if the treasure demands candy, candy will be given.
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  17. His stylist badly needs to be fired... Otherwise, Jordan is great!
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  18. As soon as you leave him hungry for a couple of days, his balance of importance of things will magically change: he will notice his mum, what she is doing, where potatoes are, and how to peel them.
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  19.  @Gokiburi777  in a straight relationship, a woman gives her life, her health totally to her man, she risks dying, risks becoming incontinent, risks being left alone and ruined, to love the offspring of the man who left her, for the rest of her life, care for that offspring. What is equal in a relationship with a person who is prepared to die to give you your offspring? Nothing less that ALL you have. So, unless you are prepared to give everything, it is not equal, as your health stays intact, and woman's health is always given to a man.
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  20. Specific language impairment, when not compensated, leads to auti. signs and the diagnosis then is incorrect. This is at least how it is in the UK. The child has secondary withdrawal, behavioural issues, ets.
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  21. So , you automatically assume that this is not a case of lacking intelligence, but a diagnosis? So you persuaded the businessmen docs abotu it, too? They are only too happy to register one more.
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  22.  @DrRenee1  People with better drawing abilit always get confused by ugly drawing in tests, don't worry, every artist has that.
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  23. What is the exact title? How to find it?
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  24. Nobody cares whether a mere noob agrees with the great man Peterson.
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  25. this means misdiagnosed.
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  26. Exactly. And no punishments for stooopid behaviour and freedom to throw tantrums.
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  27. you are not autistic, but misdiagnosed, it is a disorder
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  28. Perfectly put. This all starts with the mother telling her boy "you deserve everything" and trying to make him always happy and always with high self esteem, irrespectively of how poor his actual performance/achievements/behaviour is. It all starts with the mother trying to protect her male baby from "trauma".
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  29. I left a separate comment for you. Anyone who IS INVITED deserved the inviting party to pay for the event. I hope, when people invite you for a birthday party, you do not offer to pay your share for air balloons and sausages? That's why some losers cannot ever find a woman, as they do not understand the basics.
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  30.  @galenschultz3239  No, it is the parents' job to create an environment for a child where breaking any social rule will always consistently result in a very unpleasant outcome of the child who broke the rules.
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  31. @ phrase: That means children have to learn the underlying rules themselves. NO. PARENTS ought to MAKE THEM LEARN
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  32. Dale Carnegie book - how to win friends, memorise it and learn to live by that book.
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  33. nobody should put a chair back for the whining little boss.
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  34.  @georgehancock2307  Nope, he must voice what he wants or will not receive anything. This is how it should be.
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  35.  @johnrickard8512  Reading to them when they don't understand the meaning, is not useful at all. Echolalia is only fine up to age 2. No, a person who does not understand speech, cannot have any ideas.
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  36.  @chilloften  Thank you!
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  37. This means insufficient guidance on behaviour from the mother. The child is not allowed (NORMALLY!!!!) to move things without permission. Should NOT be allowed.
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  38.  @gg_ingy  If you do not teach the child that he has no right to a particular object, the child will have to end up autistic, as he will be totally afraid of the outside environment where he is not the boss and cannot pick and choose things., timings , activities and communication. Any unhealthy routines should be immediately broken by the loving mother: no chance to put toys in lines (never give more than two objects available for play, unless the child uses them in a constructive healthy way), any rigid (so unhealthy) preferences must be NOT satisfied, and the child should be firmly steered towards normal behaviour. The best explanation is given by Jordan Peterson in his videos about parenting. By age 4, the child must be trained to be likeable and a joy to be around. This is the parents' job. Failing this job, the developmental pathological pathway is ensured. It is not yet too late for you. Remember, all the behaviour of any 3 y old is exactly what the parents allowed and affirmed. Take every behaviour that you think is abnormal (you call it autistic symptom) and weed it out in accordance with Pavlov law.
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  39. Bad parenting. Punishments are not organised properly.
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  40. Absolutely right. The whole diagnosis is.
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  41. Have you got kids?
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  42.  @laraedreira7780  Yes, of course it does. Because real commitment is only checked when the woman gets pregnant, has consequences such as infections, incontinence etc and is then bound by 2-3 kids and ill health often, but the man is free to go. Before you have kids it is not even a relationship, it is a childs play.
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  43.  @laraedreira7780  I am not saying that it is easy. But you have no idea whether your husband is committed to you, until you successfully conceived, gave birth and breastfed his child, until that child has been ill ... You simply have no idea.
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  44.  @laraedreira7780  You will see. I am not saying that your man will necessarily leave you, he might not. However, you simply have no idea whether your bond is one of strength or of convenience. If you are together for 17 years, it means your fertility is already next to 0, and when you both try, you are likely to have to face tragic disappointment. Then your odds of having a mutation are extremely high. How do you know how your man will meet having to console you aborting the second or third trisomy baby? And so on and so forth... life together has not yet begun? sj far you two are rehearsing only. It might be all right, however if a woman is nearly 40, the likely hood of happy life with a kid is vanishing... More divorces happen with kids than without. If your relationship already made a choice of being able to withstand the nature for 17 years, it is not promising at all? A truly loving couple would not be able t be together for so long without longing to have a little copy of their love.
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  45.  @laraedreira7780  You don't have data to have such an opinion. Wait until you are 55 and rethink our dialog. Eclipped logic does not help yoy. No, I do not think family and reproduction is the main thing, same as oxygen is not the main thing in your life. But without motherhood a woman is like without oxygen. And no man who truly loves his woman would not want to jave a child by her. The relationship between a man and a woman is not real and not full when they are childless. If he did not want to see a child born by you, for 17 years, it is not love, it is free sex.
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  46.  @laraedreira7780  No, not at all. Of course you are entitled to your own WRONG opinion, it does not make it right. .I know what motherhood is and you don't. You also don't know the love of a man who wants to have grandchildren with his woman. Like someone who is blind from birth, and of course does not consider his life handicapped or unhappy but other people who have vision know what he is missing, you just cannot understand how narrow and shallow your life is, and of course 20 years on the pill change a woman psychologically into an not-fully-woman. No, a true heterosexual love is not the relationship between two people, but two people who have offspring. If a woman is childless, her use by date for any woman come at about 45, then she will be discarded. You will see it for yourself. First you need statistics for oncological diseases in childless women, then make a list of all childless women ofer 55 you know , and count how many are married and how many are single. You also do not have any childless close friends over 55, who would open for you the tragedy of childlessness in marriage. You need data. Find 10 old ladies who would confirm that they are happy to have been childless. It is not possible, every old woman will tell you what the reality is.
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  47.  @laraedreira7780  I have far more data, because I can compare the state of being a mother of my loved man children, seeing them blossom into loved and cherished men, with the state of just a woman who is in love. You cannot make such a comparison, so listen to more experienced women: if love+motherhood is 100%, then just chldless love us about 3%. NO woman who raised a child would want to be childless. Same way as who has vision will never want to cover his eyes forever, even if he has to see good and bad scenes. No, love about a man and a woman is loving, living, having offspring. A childless living together is not a full relationship. As you are too young to have your close friends being over 55, you yet have not heard them confessing in the tragedy of childlessness to you. So far your husband's empty mate is still attractive, but not for long.
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  48. @laraedreira7780 I have far more data, because I can compare the state of being a mother of my loved man children, seeing them blossom into loved and cherished men, with the state of just a woman who is in love. You cannot make such a comparison, so listen to more experienced women: if love+motherhood is 100%, then just chldless love us about 3%. NO woman who raised a child would want to be childless. Same way as who has vision will never want to cover his eyes forever, even if he has to see good and bad scenes. No, love about a man and a woman is loving, living, having offspring. A childless living together is not a full relationship. As you are too young to have your close friends being over 55, you yet have not heard them confessing in the tragedy of childlessness to you. So far your husband's empty mate is still attractive, but not for long.
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  49.  @laraedreira7780  When you see a person standing on the edge of a cliff unaware of the imminent fall, would you not share your opinion that he needs to immediately step away? I know more about life, we are not equal. My daughter is happily married, she is the fruit of my love for a man. So I am in a position to tell you now to live to avoid tragedy, and you are not, simply because of age and experience difference. No, no woman regret having kids, but they feel sorry for you so keep the truth away from you, same as you are not going to brandish your good 20-20 vision in front of someone who has never been able to read the optometrist/s table. I do listen to advice of more experienced people, solicited or not. These are people professionally fulfilled and who have grown up happy grandchildren. Maybe 30 years later you will be able to tell me something helpful, but now now. Keep learning girl.
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  50. When you see a person standing on the edge of a cliff unaware of the imminent fall, would you not share your opinion that he needs to immediately step away? I know more about life, we are not equal. My daughter is happily married, she is the fruit of my love for a man. So I am in a position to tell you now to live to avoid tragedy, and you are not, simply because of age and experience difference. No, no woman regret having kids, but they feel sorry for you so keep the truth away from you, same as you are not going to brandish your good 20-20 vision in front of someone who has never been able to read the optometrist/s table. I do listen to advice of more experienced people, solicited or not. These are people professionally fulfilled and who have grown up happy grandchildren. Maybe 30 years later you will be able to tell me something helpful, but now now. Keep learning girl.
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