Comments by "Lorri Lewis" (@lorrilewis2178) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1.  @ThatGuyz82  I'm not having sex with someone I barely know AND I'm not having sex with someone I have no emotional bond with. Women want an emotional bond AND sex together. Casual sex is more costly and risky for women than for men. You guys are all over the map. You don't want a woman with a high body count, yet you expect women to have sex early on before there is any bond or established relationship. You can't have both.
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  2. You couldn't be more wrong.
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  3. I would never have sex within 12 days. Are you kidding me? I'm not having sex with someone I barely know. Ridiculous!
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  4.  @ThatGuyz82  If you want a lasting relationship on a solid foundation, the first thing you do is get to know the person. Statistically, the marriages that last are "best friend" relationships. You need to like them before you love them. Then the emotional bond follows and comes before a sexual relationship. In the days when couples were celibate before marriage, do you think there was no emotional bond by the time they got to the altar?
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  5. You're telling us a sob story without telling us what you SAID to her.
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  6. The analogy of going on a date doesn't work - it suggests a man asks you out because he's expecting sex at the end of the date. I thought a first date was a chance to get to know the person to see if you even have enough chemistry to go on a second date. Women want to feel their man loves the whole of them or else they start feeling lonely in the relationship. The women who complain about sex say their husband pays zero attention to them EXCEPT when he wants sex - that's never going to work and you can't ask women to put up with it.
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  7.  @chrish2112  Some women never wear makeup at all and have no plans to start.
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  8. So, you are saying you think very little of yourself.
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  9.  @Lilith-9223  The whole thing is delusional. He starts by admitting women are killing it in the workplace more than men, and never once stops to consider that men themselves have blighted their own prospects by falling behind. It's NOT that women are all looking for rich men, but they sure as hell expect someone who has their shit together. Fewer men are in that category now.
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  10.  @Christine-j7n  It's so weird. The irony is that they complain about women with high body counts too. There's a guy who made a comment on another video who complained that he can't get the beautiful women he wants, but the ones he's not attracted to keep trying to get with him. This is exactly what these guys complain that women do. Insane.
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  11. "Men are the prize." 🤣😂😆🙄
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  12. "Romantic" love isn't love though.
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  13.  @nateo200  Meanwhile, there are plenty of husbands and wives who are both doctors and who get along just fine. Your aunt indeed sounds awful, but she doesn't represent most women doctors. Most of the women doctors I've to are lovely people.
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  14. She should have asked YOU to take on the risk of pregnancy and childbirth. The US has a higher maternal mortality rate than it should, but YOU will never have to take on that risk.
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  15.  @kangarooninja2594  No one should be disrespecting anyone, but men disrespect women a million times more. There is a big difference in the responses men get on social media vs. women. Women get death and rape threats from men on a regular basis. I had to flag a comment to me on YouTube because a man said he wanted to violently rape me. He said this not once, but twice. I bet that's never happened to you.
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  16. You don't speak for all women, thank goodness. Since when is it "rebellion" to make one's own decisions as a fully grown human being?
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  17. Maybe other guys lied to her about their intentions and she didn't realize she needed better boundaries. Maybe she learned from that and decided to change, and the timing coincided with you meeting her. Some women didn't have parents to teach them anything about protecting themselves. If you think she owes you sex sooner based on her past, you are wrong. If you think she doesn't get to change, you are wrong. Maybe she doesn't think of you as a "sucker", but as a refreshing change.
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  18. Correction: Such is the life YOU made. It does not have to be that way.
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  19.  @Gnomesmusher  So, she clearly told you that what happened was hurtful to her, and she decided to never let it happen again . . . and you're MAD that she learned the lesson? You actually think she should turn around from that bad experience and let you use her and hurt her too? She doesn't owe you access to her body at the drop of a hat just because she made that mistake once. Men are not the logical sex.
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  20. Strawman argument. Just because this guy hangs out with women in the top 1% financially, does not mean the vast majority of women are trying to get there. Most women just want a well-paying job and aren't concerned about being the boss, just like most men aren't the boss. The number one field that women go into is the healthcare field. Most women aren't going to marry and have kids before they can provide for themselves. There were generations of women who did that. They couldn't leave abusive husbands once there were kids to support. Not only did they suffer, but so did their kids. You're failing to appreciate the risk women take to marry and have children if there's no safety net in terms of being able to be self-supporting if necessary. It puts women at the mercy of their husbands and women KNOW this. It's a lot harder to get an education after children have arrived, and even more so if you're trying to shield yourself/your children from a negative or dangerous home environment.
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  21. Most women outlive their husbands, so what possible difference would having once been married mean? Many older women are moving in together to support each other too. This is not some unsolvable puzzle.
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  22.  @gailainsley6939  Yeah, if a guy broke it off with me that soon because of sex, my only conclusion would be that he wasn't the least bit interested in who I am as a person. If you're in it for the long haul, you want to know the person. It did sound like the only goal was sex.
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  23. Why do I know so many divorced/widowed women in their 60s who are in brand new committed relationships with men in their age range?
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  24.  @jobunny919  Exactly. After my grandfather died, my grandmother lived alone very happily and did all the things she loved. It was only when she got to her 90s that an illness she had in her 20s, started affecting her brain. She had a paid companion for a few years, and when that wasn't enough, she moved into a nursing home. That is the same progression whether you are a man or woman. Besides, most married women outlive their husbands anyway.
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  25.  @monty5961  Good lord. You seriously missed the point. He said she wasn't equal to him because she COULDN'T chop down a tree. She should have said he wasn't equal to her because he COULDN'T do pregnancy and childbirth.
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  26. By the time a woman is ready to break up with you, she has probably spent an ice age trying to fix whatever is wrong within the relationship and been ignored. She's already done her grieving. Typically, men who say they were blindsided eventually admit they didn't take her complaints seriously enough. Women are very patient until it proves fruitless.
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  27. You live on a different planet. In most marriages with children, you have two people with full-time jobs, and the woman is STILL doing the lion's share of housework and childcare. And then men wonder why women get so tired.
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  28.  @jobunny919  My grandparents had a happy marriage where neither felt taken for granted, so she did grieve. However, once the grief softened, she lived a full active life going out with friends, having a dog, and doing all her favorite hobbies. It's a good thing she enjoyed herself because she lived 30 YEARS longer after his death!!! However, I've heard plenty of widows feel like they retired after becoming widows because their husbands were a lot of work for them. Plus, they had to take care of their husbands for years while their health declined. My grandfather died suddenly, so my grandmother didn't have to do that.
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  29. Generally, a husband will say they were blindsided by their wife announcing she wants a divorce. The wife will say she tried to tell her husband for YEARS that there were problems. Her pleas were not taken seriously, or he promised to deal with the problems and never did. The wife is disappointed again and again. Most women will make repeated attempts to fix the marriage. If nothing ever changes, she sees the handwriting on the wall. The husband's disinterest is all the information she needs. At that point, women reject the "sunk cost fallacy". They'd rather not spend the rest of their lives being miserable. This is WHY women initiate most divorces. There are exceptions and sometimes the roles are reversed, but what I explained is the most common scenario.
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  30.  @Raymond7779  First of all, this idea that women can't find men in their 30s is funny. Do you know the latest thing happening with senior citizens? Senior men who are single are finding out that the senior women they're dating DO NOT want marriage. Senior men want marriage more than senior women. Once a woman has done the husband/family thing, they're over it. There have been several articles written about this. Secondly, lots of women don't care about having a husband or children.
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  31.  @Raymond7779  LOL. The senior women have their own money and don't need to or want to marry. Lots of women are just plain tired of men. They've found through experience that men end up being a detriment to the peaceful lives they've created for themselves. They realize they are usually less happy when they're in a relationship with one.
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  32.  @psychacks  I know this is an older video, but I'm surprised that you as a mental health professional are not aware of studies showing that the closer the couple is in age, the greater success of the marriage. I didn't even go out of my way to look that up. I ran across it by accident. If I recall correctly, even a small age gap was less successful than if the couple was the exact same age.
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  33. Well, women don't to morph into callousness after ONE man breaks their heart. It happens after many. And even then, they just write men off rather than looking for revenge. Anyone who becomes a cold hearted player after just ONE heartbreak is too weak to be on this planet.
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  34. "Behind every marriage proposal is an ultimatum." What bullshit. The happy marriages I see around me happened because BOTH wanted it. No one had to demand anything. If you need to give an ultimatum, you're already with the wrong person in the first place.
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  35. Lots of older women move in together. This is not rocket science. You aren't really worried about women; you are just hoping things don't work out for them.
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  36.  @Mike-dz4vqgoiajdpgoiadj-9  I disagree that all women expect a man who earns more. They usually expect one who has something going on for himself and isn't just doing nothing with his life. There are more men NOT in the workforce at all than ever before. THAT caused the pool of eligible men to shrink.
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  37.  @beowulf_of_wall_st  You literally just said a man who will treat you right is a RARE THING. That's why men in general are not a prize - good ones are all too rare.
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  38.  @psychacks  Oh come on! That answer is beneath the intelligence I assumed for you. The point is not that we are ASSUMING women are going to fall prey to abusive husbands BECAUSE they aren't financially independent. The point is that financial independence is a safety net IN CASE. This is coming from the daughter of an abusive father and a mother who couldn't leave. My father showed no signs that he was abusive during their courtship or the first year of marriage. He didn't show his true self until after I was born.
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  39.  Rambo, John J.  So if the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, you're telling us that YOU can't be trusted because of YOUR past.
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  40.  @georgedang449  I love when Red Pillers pull numbers right out of their ass. No citation? Just make it up! :face-blue-smiling:
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  41.  @Metalbringer92  No human's "usefulness" ends at their reproduction abilities. Anyway, who's asking you to do stuff for free? Do you mean handyman tasks? We always pay handymen for their work.
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  42. Well, good for you for taking care of sick family members, but statistically that thankless task usually falls on women. And there's a study that shows more husbands leave their wives when they become seriously sick (cancer) than vice versa.
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  43.  @aqua6613  And keep in mind that most STD testing does not test for Herpes. It's no death sentence, but people assume it's included in testing.
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  44. You have to use a movie as an example because real life doesn't support your point. How you can believe the feminine symbolizes "chaos" when men are overwhelmingly behind ALL forms of unnecessary violence (wars of conquest, murder, rape, domestic violence) on this planet is rich. Millions of young women apparently have the discipline to study and graduate from college in greater numbers than men and hold down demanding careers, while more men are wasting away doing absolutely nothing. You have admitted this before. So to imply that women don't have the discipline to wield power is literally crazy. Most women work full-time AND have the risks of pregnancy and childbirth AND take on the lion's share of child raising, yet here you are, a single man pontificating about women not having discipline. We are just trying to live our lives and there's nothing easy about it.
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  45. Lots and lots of women write that same sentence, except substitute the word "women" for "men".
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  46.  @orangeandslinky  The fact that your answer focuses on vows rather than issues in the marriage is concerning. So I will ask . . . did your wife ever tell you there were issues in the marriage that bothered her?
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  47.  @joaquin67  Re-read your second paragraph. A woman following your advice who left a toxic relationship would need to find another man in order to survive long-term in life - because her "small boat" isn't going to give her enough security. Men gloss over the danger women put themselves in by depending on a man. I'm not telling anyone what to do, but I do get tired of red pill men glossing over the very real dangers women face. My father was abusive and my mother couldn't leave for too many years even though me an my siblings begged her to get a divorce. She had no clue on her wedding day that he'd turn out to be abusive. When a woman puts herself under the control of a monster with no way to support herself, it emboldens him to continue with the abuse.
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  48. The vast majority of women aren't on Only Fans or making money via their looks. Most women choosing to forgo relationships are doing it for two reasons. 1) They can support themselves far better than women in past generations. 2) Self-supporting women are unlikely to put up with toxic relationships. There are legions of young women who've written off relationships entirely. Mostly, they savor their TRANQUILITY and are wary of getting with some guy who might destroy it.
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  49.  @hanooi7450  You obviously know NOTHING about the conditions that can happen in pregnancy regardless of weight. Pregnancy and delivery by their very nature carry a risk. Women were going through all that even when obesity was rare. And with all the abortion restrictions, it is even more dangerous in those states because if the woman starts to miscarry, but not all the way, she can become septic and die. Normal procedure is to do an abortion if the fetus wasn't expelled, but doctors are terrified by the new laws, so they are allowing the women to go septic before intervening. There's a big lawsuit over it in Texas. Five women were put in great danger - one has permanent damage and one almost died. The others had to leave the state to save their own damn lives.
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  50.  @georgedang449  It should be obvious what I meant. He has chosen to live in a limited way because of ONE woman. That's a CHOICE he made. He could have chosen otherwise, but he decided to extrapolate his ex's behavior to all women.
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