Comments by "Sammy B" (@sammyb1651) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. Just imagine a "relationship" where one party has to constantly remain primed to subdue acts of disrespect, lest they lose their partner's love, while the other party can behave in ways which are piteous and STILL be loved regardless.  Not only that, the culture tells them THEY'RE the one that's settling for less than their worth, too. Yeah, it's a hard pass from me.
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  2. This sh!t is hilarious. When it comes to dating, women HATE it when they have to consider anyone other than themselves.
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  3. Men: Women DO NOT care. End of message.
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  4.  @joygibbons5482  That isn't sexual neediness. It's ANY form of neediness. Ideally they want someone who exhibits zero needs (of her) but provides endlessly for her wants and needs without question or qualification. Even to the extent that they ANTICIPATE her needs and she doesn't even have to point them out. "I shouldn't have to tell you!" etc etc. Women fight tooth and nail to avoid any performative burden on their part. Which going back to your point is explainable biologically (virtually everything is "explainable biologically") but ultimately results in utterly pathetic asymmetry in a relationship.
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  5. To be honest, it's all a bit of a false dichotomy really. The women who do land their "high value" target eventually get unenthusiastic about him also. It's only a matter of time. Women are constantly in a cycle of becoming unhappy about something. As men we need to stop taking any of it particularly seriously. Starting with them.
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  6. Awesome testimony! And really good to see you appreciate the rarity and value of it! Genuinely happy for you👍
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  7. 2 important codicils: 1. Irrespective of where you are in the totem pole, she's still always going to be looking for "better" anyway, so just don't wife it. 2. If you are top 1% 5% (whatever), she's STILL only looking for the FANTASY of the top 1% man. Not the reality. HER fantasy. Ie theres a very good chance she'll want to divorce you anyway and just retain the resource element of your status. Women petition to divorce high value men every day of the week. So ONCE AGAIN, just don't wife it.
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  8. 🤣Facts. Plus-in case it wasn't glaringly obvious-they're telling you what they want because that's all that matters (to them). And that doesn't change at any point during a relationship.
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  9.  @sarahrobertson634  Derisory response, Sarah. You're stopped engaging intellectually so I've already won the argument. Getting schooled here as anyone with two brain cells to rub together can see. Very best wishes to your son by the way. Hope he doesn't lose his kids-and you your grandkids in the process-just because his wife shares his mom's values! 😀
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  10.  @sarahrobertson634  Lol! Tell me you've lost the argument without telling me you've lost the argument. Incidentally-just because I'm curious-you stated quite coldly that women can simply replace men who insist on an apology with those that don't. As a response I thought it was very admirable in its honesty, however I couldn't help but wonder; are you content for your son's future wife to bin him off like that if he stands on his principles? For someone more obsequious I mean. Perhaps take his kids and home from him in the process? It's one to conjure with isn't it, I'm sure you'd agree?  Also, do you think over the longer term the phenomenon you described simply makes for worse behaviour from one sex? I mean it's nice to get your own way and not feel like you have to atone for your errors/apologise, but if it you keep getting away with stuff it can kind of make you a sh!tty person. Over the long run. I don't know, but certainly if I were you I think both of the above hypotheticals would give me pause for thought. Certainly I think they'd make me a modicum less smug in any event. Submitted for your thoughts.
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  11.  @modickens1272  How they make MEN feel is irrelevant. There's an important distinction. They are very careful (or I should say, deliberate) about how they make other women feel. Observe how they are very careful about the feelings of female friends.  In regards to men, broadly speaking they take the view that a man should not have feelings. They see a man's proper function as being caretakers of THEIR feelings, but not vice versa. A women will blithely make a man responsible for her happiness while fighting tooth and nail to deny any responsibility for his. It flows in one direction and one direction only. Women are different by degree, and it's silly to say they're all alike in every sense, however one thing you would do well to remember is the following. When it comes to relationships, the ONE thing that EVERY woman has in common is the unshakable belief that she SHOULD get things her own way.
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  12. Thats a worst case scenario. A more common scenario is the woman (happy or otherwise) inserting herself at the centre of the relationship and making the relationship about her. That's the VAST MAJORITY of heterosexual relationships and it's soul destroying for most men.  Women think it's perfectly reasonable. They will stare at you like you've got two heads if you question the dynamic. The truth however is that it's purely extractive behaviour that hollows the man out.
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  13. Yup. Willing to bet most men have at least one of those stories!
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  14.  @sarahrobertson634  TL;DR. It's a population level discussion. You've made the classic female error of personalising it. It doesn't matter what you want or I want, so we can dispense with all that. The fact of the matter is women (net) want more money/resources/services than they're prepared to pay for themselves. In short they consume far more than they produce, so the surplus comes from men (net). Once upon a time that surplus would have come from a male directly, within the confines of a relationships, and would have been traded for attention and other reciprocal benefits. Now it's been outsourced to government and is extracted indirectly via taxes on pain of criminal sanction. It still comes from male labour though (net), just without the reciprocal benefits. So all things being equal, applying your logic, men should be able to opt out of that if they decide it doesn't benefit them. You can pay all you want to make up the shortfall if it makes you feel any better personally. Or women could opt to receive less in govt benefits/services for crap they don't need or don't deserve. It's exactly the same argument re: entitlement to attention. Women won't go for that though. Either receiving less or paying more for their sisters. And so your whole argument fails for rank hypocrisy.
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  15.  @alyssawoodman  Video is about women in case that wasn't astoundingly obvious.
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  16. All straight facts and very well formulated! I have some horrible news though. The woman who is looking for you to "prioritize her needs over yours" is 90% + of the female population. I would say it's anywhere between 90% and 98% in fact. So while the methodology is sound, the odds are abysmal.
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  17. This is a common refrain but it isn't exactly right and it needs to be put to bed.  You have to remember how terrible they are at work. I'm not being facetious here-really consider it. HR didn't exist before women entered the workforce. In the past there were just a few personnel roles in companies-they dealt with holiday/payroll and other sundry admin functions. Because women complain and moan endlessly however HR is now an industry in its own right with vast phalanxes of people ministering to women's workplace-based complaints. In fact it's one of the few growth industries in the West, scandalously. You have to consider who the ultimate "boss" is. Ignore line managers and people you have to suck up to. Ultimately the real boss is the employer. Thats who cuts the cheque. That's all that matters. And to the employer they behave fairly appallingly. So it isn't very different at all really.
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  18.  @sarahrobertson634  abject fail.
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  19. "Where have all the good men gone?" =Where are the men that offer me most benefit-and if I'm scrupulously honest-significantly more than I am able or prepared to offer that same man.
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  20. His channel used to be well populated by female viewers (if the comments section was anything to go by), but they've mainly scarpered now. They liked the original content that highlighted mens shortcomings but as soon as he turned the spotlight onto behaviour that didn't reflect well on them they all disappeared. Lol.
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  21.  @otimismoedoenca6749  No article. It's just observable reality.
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  22. LET'S GO BRANDING!
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  23.  @theironson1043  Cheers! I've reached very similar conclusions to you IronSon. Happily though it does make me immune to their tactics. I could predict with certainty she'd turn to shaming. Only I'm not remotely shamed as I have zero interest in qualifying myself to her as a female. Ultimately what I tend to do is point out the proximal/distal conundrum. It's completely unassailable. In other words, just because they can do something in the short term doesn't mean it's ultimately good to do something in the long term. So she can easily get rid of a man who expects an apology? Great. No doubt that makes her feel like she has the upper hand. But what about when her son's wife does the same thing? He's lost his family, home (and possibly takes his life) and she's lost her grandchildren. Great outcome. It's the junk food argument. Yeah tastes great and is easy, but harms you in the long run.
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  24.  @rayzerot  In fairness, denying kids a mom is a pretty harsh step. I know single moms are happy to do that re: fathers but surely we're better than that?
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  25. Same.
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  26.  @knowledgeispower200  Brutal. But expressed with beautiful clarity.
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  27. A woman will constantly point out your faults while you're busy overlooking hers. Basically.
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  28.  @Zxcvbueisn444  🤣🤣🤣That is BEYOND tragic!  (Not you...the bit about her emailing you a load of solicited "endorsements" from people who've never experienced the realities of dating her).
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  29. As far as being child free is concerned, women are at liberty to do whatever they want in my view. As soon as they have a child however, they should be held to a higher standard. The indirect misuse of men to pay the tax burden of single motherhood is scandalous. And the denial of a full time father figure to a child is an outrage. Frankly it's abuse.
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  30.  @michelstronguin6974  Yeah I understand all that perfectly. It's essentially just the: instant gratification vs deferred gratification lesson repackaged. Nothing new under the sun.
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  31. The short answer is: no. The client essentially paid for a lengthy preamble, outlining the issue (which he will have already understood) but there's no real good news for him here. It would be so exceptional as to be vanishingly unlikely. Best strategy would be to just start doing things to please himself anyway. Allied to improving himself generally. If she responds positively to that great. If not (more likely) at least find solace in the reason that he's doing it and be less defeated when she rejects the new deal that's on the table. Only other option is to carry on being the taxi tbh.
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  32.  @mealovesyu  No, I think I'll keep making the generalisations, thanks. Pattern recognition is valid and extremely useful as a learning tool. A fail from you. Must try harder.
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  33. To be fair-although the theory expounded in the video is completely sound-the practical reality is women know they can offer zero value and men will still wife it up. Including high value men. You see it constantly. They know they can get a lot for not very much.  No incentive to change.
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  34. That, Sir, is a win!
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  35. Enjoy the numbers game if it's in your favour! Have at it! It'd be silly not to! Won't help you when it comes to relationships however. Women aren't looking to date a HVM. They're looking to date their fantasy idea of a HVM. Not the reality. However good you look, it won't stop them projecting their own fantasy onto you. He's better looking, richer and more charming than you and he has zero expectations of her.  And it won't stop them rinsing you when you inevitably fail to live up to that.  If Tom Brady can't make it work (and he can't) then you'll be extremely lucky to do so.
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  36. Damn that was a very real comment!
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  37. 1:06:26 This was the most naive, low-resolution thinking I think I've heard on the subject. I was actually astonished to hear it coming from a person who is supposed to have studied intersexual relationships in depth. If women have a never ending laundry list of requirements in a mate....and men have very few requirements of a mate....who do you THINK is more likely going to be adjudged "at fault" for causing the end of a relationship? Women need more emotional labour, more attention, more resource investment and they place themselves (and their happiness) at the centre of a relationship. Quite simply there is a metric sh!t ton more things men can "get wrong" in the eyes of a woman to cause her to "not be happy" than vice versa. I was blown away by the ignorance of the basic premises this particular comment highlighted.
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  38.  @fiveleavesleft6521  It always amuses me how women have an issue with the concept of someone 'giving them away' on marriage. Or vows that ask them to obey. Yet they're perfectly content with the convention that expects a man to get down on one knee in a grovelling position in order to propose to them.
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  39.  @Dreweybaby  I think it's more than just societal reasons that this goes unacknowledged. At the end of the day, it IS kind of embarrassing. I mean you're basically having to honestly self-reflect and accept that you're asking for more in your partner than you're offering yourself. Yes, it might make for better harmony within a relationship but it also means you're having to humble yourself, and reject all of the self-serving validational nonsense that panders to vvomen. I think you underestimate how much vvomen want to live in a fantasy land OUTSIDE of relationships. It's every bit as strong as how much they want to live in a fantasy world inside of them. At the end of the day, they want to believe the popular narrative whereby they're constantly applauded and hyped for doing nothing. They're hugely ego invested in that. That becomes untenable if you've basically accepted you're the 'lesser' contributor to a relationship however.
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  40.  @DeltaV64  Ironically, she'd probably find that very attractive.
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  41. Which is logical when you think about it because her framing of things is that the relationship is all about her in the first place. Men need to understand that this is basically the default position for women. And it's very toxic (needless to say).
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  42.  @LisaCulton  The decor SHE wants. He's literally not bothered.  Before she decides to change it again. And he's STILL not bothered.  Stop being so excruciatingly dishonest in your posts. PS well done to her for paying for 50% of her literal shelter from the elements. How selfless and heroic of her.
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  43. Using this analogy I'd say they're dream catchers. Then dream enders. `In that order.  For instance they're not going to go for the attitude Orion is endorsing in this video. They benefit most if a man dreams. Thats why they want (to receive) romance and emotionality. They want to catch a man dreaming a beautiful dream-they encourage it. They don't want a man dreaming a moderate dream with rational thoughts about her and objectively scrutinising her behaviour.
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  44. While I don't doubt your first clause, I'm virtually certain they're disposed to disrespect men of any stripe with the goal of getting their own way.  I'm not saying she wouldn't resist the urge for longer with someone she thought was "superior", or that it would manifest in the same way, but I don't think being "higher" than her is a panacea. I think men tell themselves that as cope.  Women care about themselves FAR MORE than they care about their partner and that-at its heart-is the single most significant factor in determining her behaviour.
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  45.  @legiontepes3474  Well said. As if insulting your comment invalidated your point anyway. It's a general issue. Thats the whole point. The content creator wouldn't be making the video if it wasn't a general issue. MOST men can relate to it. It was just a very standard, feminised, ad hominem response from RobbyRaccoon and one that no longer works in 2025.
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  46. If you have to "hope" (said more than once I note) then you probably wouldn't. "Hope" isn't a plan. Nice sentiments but ultimately of little practical benefit to your man.
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  47. And even if there WAS a point, no explanation would be owed.
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  48. "Loyalty to your feelings" is basically just another way of saying inconsistent. Or disloyal.
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  49. 9:30 You're fundamentally mistaken in this. It's actually one of the hardest things they can do because they aren't programmed to care about a mans wants or needs. They believe he should exhibit zero wants and needs and attend to hers instead. Abundantly. This whole thing flounders once again on the men="human doing" principle. They don't see men as human beings, they have a perspective of entitlement to mens labour, sacrifice etc. You see it as "easy" because you're self-extrapolating and seeing it through the male lens of service. So you see it's actually enormously difficult for them. Otherwise they'd do it. Obviously.  That's the cold, unpleasant and insoluble reality. Plus, the practical reality is women know they can offer zero value and men will still wife it up. Including high value men. You see it constantly. They know they can get a lot for not very much. Back to square one with this one I'm afraid.
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  50. The "lawyers hourly rate" thing is a silly red herring. That metric only applies when you're at work doing billable activities. It doesn't (for instance) apply when you're sat on your ass at home/going to the gym/going on a date. You don't earn $1300 per hour sat on your ass at home. Indeed part of the time you're actually at work you're not even doing billable activities. So we can dispense with that nonsense.  What IS important is how busy you are relative to the free time you're left with. That's the only thing that really matters when calculating the economics of it. If you figure you work too hard to waste precious free time with conventional dating (and you can afford to pay to play) then that's your entire equation laid out.  It doesn't come with an hourly-rate metric unless it directly reduces your productivity/billable hours at work. And even then that's probably only if you're self employed rather than salaried.
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