Comments by "Denise Bacher" (@denisebacher5040) on "Danielle Kirsty" channel.

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  2. Not that my mom has ever shared this but I am sure she was abused as a child. Her mom died when she was 10 and, because her dad was battling tuberculosis, she and her siblings were put in foster homes with different families. Her family wouldn’t let her in the house ever. She even had to use the bushes outside to … And this went about a year ( winter was especially bad she said) that went on and then her uncle petitioned the courts to get custody of all the kids. And I think that man or one of her brothers SA her. I do know she got physically abused by her uncle. Anyway you’d think she would break the chain but no. So I was abused in all possible ways. Sexual, physical, emotional and verbal. That all began around 5 years old. And I learned then to not complain because the abuse was my fault, said my mom. And if I complained to my dad I was tearing the family apart and she’d physically and verbally abuse me. By 9yo I decided all I wanted to be in life was a good mom. A mom not like mine. And I like to think I achieved it. When my mom was asked why she let me be abused she said “I thought it would make her stronger.” Stronger. Well I was strong enough to not be her. Oddly, my sister, who wasn’t abused is my mom. Her daughter and grandkids hate her. And her son has attempted suicide a couple times because of the trauma she inflicted. One of his times he told her he was going to do so she said “Well do it right because I’m tired of this.” EDIT: I also wished I could fly away from my life. I dreamed about it so often for while I truly thought it was true. Jeanette is better off now. Even if you don’t believe there is a Heaven ( I do), the abuse is over. Now if only someone could help Angela leave this world.
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  8. I had given birth to my youngest and went back in for my 6 week checkup. Saw a new midwife ( I hardly ever saw OB/GYNs) and the whole exam was just her and I. No nurse. I didn’t think anything of it because it was a woman so I let down my guard ( I had been sexually abused from 6 to 19yo by family members so I was hyper vigilant around men). My guard should have stayed up. She did the pelvic exam then started on checking my breasts. As she’s doing so she starts stroking my stomach down to thigh with her free hand. Keep in mind I am 34 and have had other babies and had many breast exams. Both hands are used for an actual exam, using just the fingertips. She also pinched my nipples to check for lactation, but did so in a more sexual way ( hard to describe but I got the same feeling off her doing so as my my husband). She then shifted to the other side and started on my breast but not standing alongside my breast area. No she was more at my hip area and she decided then to also “check my kegel muscles”. Yep. Slid to fingers in as she’s “checking my breasts for lumps”. She kept asking me to squeeze her fingers. Over and over and over as she is doing this and argued with me when I complained I have never had this kind of exam. “Have you ever been middle aged and given birth to a child? We lose strength in our pelvic muscles with age and childbirth.” I told her, as I started to have an anxiety attack, “I’d like you to stop now.” I told my husband about it as we drove home ( he had brought me to the exam because we didn’t have childcare for the baby). Him knowing my history said I should report it if I didn’t feel it was right. I wrote an email complaining about the exam and never saw her again. I do not know about if she continued working there, but I was glad I didn’t see her again when I went in to talk about birth control some 3 months later ( I was on the pill for breastfeeding moms but had stopped breastfeeding because I had become depressed and went on a anti depressant). Maybe I should have checked to see that she was removed from practicing, but I was thinking I may have overreacted, and I wasn’t seeing her so I let the matter go. Except mentally I didn’t let it go because at random times I’d replay it and get that same sensory reaction I did when thinking about my past experiences.
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  14. Hi, Danielle! I hope the week is wonderful!❤ I worked 8 years as a security guard. And you’d be surprised by how many coworkers I worked with are just like this POS. One even raped me ( Yes actual penetration). Twice. At work. After the first time I went to call my daughter to break down to her. She even answered the phone. But he walked in and said “What are you doing?!?! Telling someone what a wh*re you are?!?!” I told my daughter “I have to go.” And I tried to appease him to get him to leave ( like Edwin he drove around but his patrol area was a whole county whereas I was stuck at a county park). He raped me again and told me “Wear sexier underwear next time.” I had just barely started at this job and I was trying to keep it because I was a single mom of a 15yo. So I said nothing. Did nothing. I sure didn’t tell my 15yo. I just couldn’t burden her. And every other site my company sent me to was full of sexual harassment or guys molesting me. My last 10 months with the company I worked with guys who did that crap all the time. And reporting it did NOTHING! Another gal who worked the site said “Now you know why I fought to work graveyard. I don’t have any of the guys around me. They are downright disgusting and management doesn’t care.” She left the company soon afterwards. October of ‘23 I went on an to I anxiety meds. All the rape stuff flooded my brain non stop. Jan 2nd of this year my main harasser/molester tried to kiss me and I had enough. Had to go on medical leave. I have a therapist. Now I’m unemployed and I sob because all the jobs I get offered are security jobs. And all because the companies who are supposed to make businesses and other sites feel secure, are filled with guys who shouldn’t have ANY power. BTW I am suing that company.
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  20. I never understand stalking your exes. Someone doesn’t want me I may look at their Fb or IG to see what is new in their life, once in a blue moon. But going to their house and following the em around? NOPE. No way I spend that much time on the loser ( because he left me). Crying is all they get out of me. I did know a gal who could NOT get over her own version of John. She stole his keys at his work and made a copy to his set ( she then dropped them somewhere for someone else to find a turn in to lost $ found) . Then she let herself into his appointment. Took a tape of him and his new gf getting it on so she could critique it ( not kidding - she asked others to get involved in it). She was in his place one time when he came home with his gf. She snuck out of the place and then when they were inside late at night she used the key to let herself back in and stood by his front door while he and his gf were “distracted”. She eventually got over it and started dating someone else and when HE ( ex) found out he sought her out for a booty call and she gave in. Slept with him while dating and engaged with new guy. Even the night before her wedding night. Then kept cheating with him until the marriage was over. And that shit went on between the two of them for a couple years. He’d date someone and she’d get crazy jealous. She’d date and he’d hit her up for sex to keep her on the hook. Last I heard they hadn’t seen each other since her second marriage. I think because he was afraid of that husband. But she never remained loyal to that husband either. SMDH
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  21. It’s funny ( sarcasm) to me that I got reported to CPS for 😱 piles of laundry in my front of my washer ( sorted and on the floor because I had a stackable unit in a closet - an apartment - so no laundry room ), dishes in my sink ( NOT ALL OVER MY HOUSE GROWING MOLD, just in my sink) and the smell of urine ( my youngest at the time was potty training and this was before pull ups so sometimes she had accidents on the carpeting). All of it was “unsubstantiated”, but then we were reported 13 years later because a cable guy came to install different cables to our condo and he went into my daughter’s room and her kitty litter was “OVERWHELMING”and there were dishes and garbage nearly everywhere. It actually was bad, but she was a teen and I was at my wits end to get her to clean her room. Rest of the condo was clean but we get a CPS visit for that. Last visit for them was when I asked my primary care doctor for a referral to a therapist or psychologist because I had chronic depression and PTSD from my being abused from around 2 ( when my mom burned my finger with her cigarette - I’m 59 now and still have the scar) to all the sexual, physical, psychological and emotional abuse from 5-19 years old by multiple family members. And that my husband left me. My doctor was very sympathetic and said I’d be getting care as soon as possible. HOWEVER his referral lady reported me to CPS for all the abuse that happened to ME but said I was inflicting it on my daughters. That I was allowing their stepfather ( they didn’t have one) and my sons ( I only had girls) to SA them. That I put out cigarettes on their skin ( I NEVER smoked) and other things I told my doctor. If my daughters weren’t at my sister’s house they were going to be removed!!! And this vile, evil, horrific woman is ACTUALLY abusing her kids and she gets to keep them. Oh and I NEVER got any warning they were coming out. Just BAM there they were.
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  41. I was there at the beginning of people getting on the internet to chat with others around the world. I had guys hitting me up, no joke, to film myself urinating. I am serious. And the panties. I never did it, but the way it works is you get a PO Box and they send a check and you send the “product”. There were also guys who would pay you to wear under things they bought and you then take pictures of you in them and send them over the net. I would be on AOL talking with other mom’s of toddlers and get private messages like that. The moms and I would crack up and be shocked at the perversion. And usually it was someone who came into the “room” you’re in ( different servers to take you to different areas of AOL). So these pervs would see us talking about bottles or our kids not sleeping through the night and think “I’ll message the lady talking about her 22 month old not sleeping through the night. She seems like she’d film herself weeing. “ 🤪 And I COMPLETELY, WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree that we do not know if Sharon agreed right to the end. Maybe, at the time he starts beating her, she said “Stop, I don’t want this!” But we will never know. Because we have only HIS word. I’m just glad he doesn’t exist in our world anymore. Edit: Danielle I listen to a LOT of true crime, but you are without a doubt my favorite in this. Because I know you have true compassion in your heart for the victims. And empathy for the loved ones left behind. I am praying for you that 2024 is heaps better than even 2022 ( which makes it leagues better than this year). Have a blessedly wonderful rest of the year, recharge and come back when you are ready. We will be here waiting happy in you having spent time on YOU. And Daisy.
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