Comments by "Natalia Alfonso" (@nataliaalfonso2662) on "Psychology with Dr. Ana" channel.

  1. I thought the point was that flaky people are making everyone else lonely. But good that you’re not hanging out with them. Flaky people and future fakers are life destroyers
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  2.  @Prod-MellowDrama I mean…. I don’t think survival is extrinsic Is it? lol. Don’t people ENJOY…. Eating food and breathing air and having water?
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  3. This book is a Bible and should be required reading
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  4. We all owe everyone so many things. That’s what’s so weird. When did that bizarre saying start and gain traction? How do we not owe people kindness, honesty, manners, integrity, self-regulation? Then what is anything?
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  5. LLLLEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE WTF?!?? He hates you He literally just told you he hates you. He wants to see how upset he can get you. That’s hatred LEAVE. Leave or know that you hate yourself even more than he hates you.
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  6. Probably
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  7. Tism.
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  8. Good for you
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  9. @ correct
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  10. Your mom probably had AuDHD as well and was never diagnosed. I highly encourage you to not have kids. Just bc you think with all perfect circumstances you might be able to be a good parent doesn’t mean it’s true
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  11. You are correct and I’m so sorry for the types of people commenting on this thread. Mansplained reiterating exactly what you said… Neurotic woman engaging in volatile reactivity to that’s man’s tone deafness…. Angry man attacking neurotic woman…. Onward and onward. Good for you for having not engaged. Truly. You made your point correctly and deftly and left it at that. Hell really is other people.
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  12. Oh wow what’s it like to have family to talk to?
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  13. @ nope. Tism often leads people to mirror social norms without question. Also dual tism couples have the highest rates of DV.
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  14. Their diagnosis is their responsibility to fix. Not an excuse. But just remember that the vent diagram between adhd and cluster b personality disorders is ALMOST a perfect circle. It’s not a perfect circle!!!!! But ALMOST.
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  15. It is in these cases. That’s the thing. It’s wildly unhealthy maladaptive behavior. But they’re not listening to those facts either. Lmfao.
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  16. BPDs are not people to have in your life. The splitting is not something anyone can survive
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  17. Let’s all remember that as soon as any abusive, self victimizing, social cue misreading, empathy lacking type of person leaned about DARVO, they will now forever accuse everyone of using DARVO against them. Just like it happened with gaslighting, and with narcissism….. The more we learn about how people are victimized, the more abusers see themselves as the victim and use the terminology for it.
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  18. It is asking too much if the mannerless and unraised. M Not of real people though. Let’s bring back snobbery and only speak to the correctly mannered.
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  19.  @derinwithaq5811  it’s a very common trait of AuDHD with ASPD tendencies. It’s a horrible trait. HORRIBLE. Hope you meet the person to put you in your place soon.
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  20. Excuse me. I don’t think extroverts miss introverts ever. Lmfao. That’s not what this is about. Tons of introverts can be extremely lonely bc there’s no depth of connection and extroverts can always go out and socialize.
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  21. You probably still are not always like this.
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  22.  @D64nz  very good!
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  23. @ we need to disavow ourselves of this notion that “online community” is the same as community. It isn’t. No one here will take you on when you’re old and frail, no one here is going to visit you at the hospital. This isn’t community in the sense of “we need community.” Yes it’s the online community. It’s can be good and beneficial in many ways. Anyone can be part of many online communities that are funny and informative and entertaining and enriching. That’s not an actual community. People have to understand that walking away will absolutely often leave you with literally ZERO community. And that’s it’s still worth it. Necessary actually
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  24. Why do you say he was covert?
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  25. This is very relatable to me.
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  26.  @kunserndsittizen2655 many people don’t.
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  27.  @allyrose6437 but he’s your bf?????
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  28.  @Cybertech134 you’re insane 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I mean she me definitely insane for being with someone as a servant and free SWer for over half a decade without marriage….. But I mean…. It’s funny. You guys are getting wives, servants, hookers, therapists for free…. Without any legal commitment. So yeah why would YOU want it lol. But then again why would she want it when the guy wasn’t a husband to her? But that’s why it’s not advisable to be together more than 2 years without an engagement.
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  29.  @bunk95 I believe she was, yes. A lot of women are. And they don’t realize it.
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  30. Yeah nutjobs abusers always try to pretend what they do is okay.
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  31. Have you had a brain scan to prove you’re autistic? Bc tons of autistics are running the world into the ground. And tons of non autistic people keep thinking they have autism bc they cannot deal with an autistic society, ACTUALLY THOUGH.
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  32.  @cecilyerker right but also? The OP is assuming all those ridiculously socially inept people she’s referring to aren’t actually autistic. When tons of them are and have never been diagnosed. There is a HUGE uptick in the population of autistic people and there will be more in the future. There are myriad reasons for this. Sure, more diagnose now. But I am not referring to more DIAGNOSED autistics. People started having kids later and later in life; that lends itself to autism. More autistic people started being able to survive longer, and even reproduce. That leads to more autistic people. Healthy neurotypical spur off parenthood more, which can be good but also can lead their kids to be autistic, while NDs often have way way way more kids befofe even being ready. So more NDs reproducing and more NTs waiting too long to reproduce thus causing more and more autistics. Then there’s the fact that society in the past was designed and operated in ways more therapeutic to brains, either NT or ND. I’m not saying anything was great or good or perfect! I’m saying peopleMs daily lives had a better balance between strict routine, high manners, and yet also tons of free time to explore individual passions or whatever…… interests…… but in a tactile visceral way that is GOOD for the brain. Not online in social media room scrolling in ways that exacerbate all terrible AuDHD traits and even INDUCE SOME in previously NT people.
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  33.  @endlesssorrowfb700  it does for Elon musk. And for Donald Trump I guess, though I do believe they have to pay for food from the kitchen.
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  34.  @eärendil_1  has your tism been confirmed by spect scan?
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  35.  @cosmictraveler1146  good one?????? 🙄 Really can’t read social cues, huh? Sick burn babe. You really got me.
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  36. Wish everyone would understand why for so long, all that mattered was a woman making ONE PERSON like her. And then that person could be liked or hated or whatever, as long as he was successful. That’s how everyone had a decent quality of life, financially. No one can if incompetent women get ahead bc they’re likable but competent women cannot.
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  37. Oh older people are the worst with that. Tons of dementia.
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  38.  @chasegioffreda6856  “all life is suffering. Our job is to be a happy participant I. That suffering.” Once you keep pretending that your life is somehow above the suffering, you doom yourself to never knowing happiness or joy. And certainly remaining unenlightened.
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  39. Siblings are often demons. Don’t talk to her anymore.
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  40.  @alyssapinon9670  they’re not GETTING THAT WAY. It’s why all literature about liars and manipulators and evil men from CENTURIES AGO always talk about how wonderful they are at charming people. Even millennia ago in many cases. I just don’t think people read enough.
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  41. Do you mean the opposite of what you wrote?
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  42.  @Squishbiscuits  thhhiiiissssss
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  43. How old are you that you weren’t on the phone all the time? Bc while that life of “school” and “tv at home” was very common, we used to be on the phone ALL THE TIME. Literally constantly talking to friends.
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  44. People that can’t read social cues can still hate consequences. People with empathy processing disorders still get mad at consequences. People with alexithymia can’t even perceive that they were acting angry and rageful and spiteful and resentful because they can even process that they were feeling those things. But no one is allowed to even write on FB what kind of spectrum disorder is present in people that do this their entire lives and truly truly truly would pass every lie detector ever by claiming to be the victim. People don’t want to talk about it. Even when the richest man in the world perpetrating coups of the most powerful nation in the world still plays victim and says it must be bc he has this type of spectrum disorder. Even still people won’t admit what lacking empathy and social cue reading actually means IN REAL LIFE.
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  45. I have never seen a bunch of people behaving horrifically and thought “that’s the right way to act!” But I am aware I am in the minority. But obviously if someone understands majorities are seldom correctly, then one avoids acting like then
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  46. What’s the business for then?
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