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  1. ​@CoalHastings yeah thanks man. Sitting and whining won't change anything I guess.
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  2. I have a similar horror airport story from a couple years ago but definitely less horrible than what you went through. 😅 Hoping it'll be the worst iteration of such a story for me though! 😄🙈 Great video again, thanks! 👍🙏
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  3. Cole, if you've always had sleep problems get checked out for sleep apnea just on the off chance you have it. I discovered mine in my mid 30's. I cannot understate how life changing it can be to understand it and sleep for a full night.
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  4. Sometimes I go to the library closer from home and bring my color books with me, while putting the phone away. It was a relieve and helped me to be disconnect from the problems of this world. And... felt relaxing like if my Brain was opening up with new ideas and creativity. What clears my mind the most? is when I go outside and stay away from my messy bedroom and computer at home.
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  5. Thank You So Much For This Cole
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  6. ShreddedNerd has an excellent video that goes into detail about internet politics effects on people. It's a long one but worth it.
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  7. This is what i literally needed to hear and i know everyone says this but honestly Ive just been scared to just say hello to people, even the ones that I do appreciate and ones that appreciate me back and I almost use every excuse under the sun to not talk to people and feel weird but I ve also observed in other people. Its such a simple thing to greet people and almost everyone appreciates it, yet it doesn't really happen as much anymore. From now on I'd like to be a bit more intentional and be the "weird" one it would probably mean that I'd have a sense of community and find others like me :) Thanks again for the great advice Cole!!!
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  8. Not really, for non native speakers it's actually super helpful
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  9. Let me help bro
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  10. FIRST :) thank you for acknowledging this and being honest and open (and also self aware enough) to share about it I also have been feeling the same way myself, as someone who’s watched self improvement videos for YEARS almost every other day if not daily - at a certain point you have to take action and stop focusing on other people’s journeys (as inspiring as they might be) and embark on your own. Also the fact that there’s just SO much content out there it can be overwhelming and like you said a lot of the times repetitive Excited to see what you post on this channel and always appreciate the authenticity!!
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  11. Just subscribed, good content and good topics
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  12. If you do finish your book, you should narrate an audiobook version, you've got a really nice voice.
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  13. Thanks for the advice, I was really anxiously dependant with my ex gf but now I have a new partner she's helping me out to change and to be independent emotionally and in addition to your advice, I'm feeling better 😊
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  14. I’ve had these thought processes so often lately. I love this and have so much respect you having this “conversation”.
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  15. This is spot on. 25 and my wife is pregnant with our first child. Time to buck up because it’s not going to get easier. Over the last few months I’ve felt a transformation happening within me. It’s still a process, but I find myself always taking that extra step. Stop with the excuses and leave everything on the table. Subbed
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  16. U are improving without a script tho ! gg
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  17. Just spent my whole day reading Steve Jobs' biography, finished it and watched this video right after. Completely agree, the brain rot of shorts and reels doesn't entice my brain at all. Books are my go to these days
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  18. While I dont personally believe this stuff as I never have felt, seen, or experienced all these coincidences you speak of. Certainly theres things science can't explain, maybe that's for now or forever. But then you get to renouned scientist like Max Planck, a nobel prize winner in Physics was a Lutheran. That things are too precise to be left to chance and randomness, hence a higher power. Again, it's not my cup of tea but definitely gets one thinking
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  19. Worked at the first job I ever had for 9 yrs. Till I was 26. Once I got a new job it was incredible how much I instantly grew more confident and mature. It was one of the main reason for my getting a new job. Great video
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  20. Keep up these unscripted videos, Cole! So proud of you! 🔥
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  21. I think im one of those people who is an extrovert with social anxiety and Ive labelled myself as an introvert as an excuse to hide behind and self-isolate. Its seriously affecting my mental health so I need to work on it
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  22. Simply put.... Mark Manson's.... subtle art of not giving a f..... Great post❤
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  23. Really great topic Cole! You highlighted a lot of why I feel put off to the modern self-improvement guru content. The harsh and assertive advice always felt too formulaic, as if there is some hard set path to “win life”. You never win life, you just keep enduring until it’s over. That endurance takes different forms of experience and heights of joy and despair for every single individual. It’s all nuanced. That’s why I prefer more intimate sit down talks like this if anything from a “self-improvement” person, which we all are in our own way. We’re all on the hero’s journey. I much would rather read a great canon novel or mature film than a self help book or finance bro reel. Life is just people’s stories. And your own. The only consistent conceptual thread of my ever evolving philosophical framework is empathy. For myself. And everyone. Preciate this new channel it’s probably more my style haha. Keep it up!
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  24. I remember the first couple times you talked about psychedelics on your channel and the idea of a collective consciousness & higher power, God, etc. I was at a similar point in my life where I was diving into Eastern philosophy religion, more broad concepts of spirituality, and I thought it was super cool that you were talking about it more. I actually remember I had taken acid and I opened up YouTube and you had literally just released a video about psychedelics minutes before that. I just smiled to myself and was like, "well, I used to call this a coincidence." Now, as you say, I call them synchronicities. Life is so amazing man.
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  25. The way I see it, when you say you’re on “Self-improvement” you put this incredibly unnecessary burden on yourself to always be “improving”, which prevents you from enjoying the simpler aspects of life or even things that are just for fun such as video games or days out with friends, which ultimately destroys your fulfilment in life because you never give yourself a chance to just relax. I believe taking things slowly, allowing yourself to enjoy life and learn new things as you go along is the key to living a life you can be truly happy with rather than constantly needing to be “better”, which stops you from ever getting a proper chance to stop and smell the flowers, from enjoying the present moment. You end up chasing things like cold showers, nofap, money, women, journaling etc thinking that they will change your life when in reality, it’s the self discovery and reflection you get from living your life and learning from your mistakes is actually what truly helps you to improve. Take life at your own pace and figure out what works for you and who you are. That’s how you grow as a person, in my opinion.
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  26. Bro you just showed us how language learning looks like, initially its a lot of mistakes, checking translator, asking and kinda embarassing yourself but you can improve very fast if you won't give up.
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  27. Can resonate a lot. Especially the reassurance. If I think someone is ignoring my message I spiral into depression. As soon as they get back to me I spring back to normal. Sometimes I tear up because it makes me realize I'm worthy of being responded too. One thing that's helped me is going to large concerts/events where social interactions are fleeting. It's helped me realize that I don't need to always be hovering around a group to feel connected to it. The best friend groups are the ones that let you roam freely.
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  28. Thanks for sharing your experience with this Cole. I think it should really resonate with everyone. Here’s a passage this reminded me of from The Brothers Karamozov: He was that sort of jealous man who, in the absence of the beloved woman, at once invents all sorts of awful fancies of what may be happening to her, and how she may be betraying him, but, when shaken, heartbroken, convinced of her faith-lessness, he runs back to her; at the first glance at her face, her gay, laughing, affectionate face, he revives at once, lays aside all suspicion and with joyful shame abuses himself for his jealousy. I think whenever our jealousy or worry from unfounded attachment gets in the way of us loving, i.e. being happy for the person doing great things to further their individuality and live their life, then we need to take a step back and reevaluate our relationship with this person as to save yourself, them, or both of you from passionate and impossible pain. Make sure you’re not deluding yourself through romanticism and just try your best to be grateful for the good times you were blessed to have had with this person up to this point, and treat them with grace. “It takes strength to be gentle and kind” -Morrissey, I Know It’s Over
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  29. I joined a library that's literally right outside my apartment a few days ago, I also started going to a park near my place, sitting under a tree and reading /drawing on my iPad, then going for a solid 40 minute walk, my girlfriends been visiting her family in China for the past month, I miss her but I'm trying to better myself while she's gone and get to know myself better, I am currently reading King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, a really fascinating book, highly recommend, great vid Cole!
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  30. I seriously resonated with this video man. Stoked to one day read your book mate
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  31. Working on a statue that involves this exact sentiment. Calling it "gotta move on". Was inspired by the song afterlife by avenged sevenfold. It's a person walking through a door frame made of oak wood (symbol of courage). With a Phoenix (symbol of change) as the door. Symbolizes how it take courage to get to change.
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  32. What we say after “I am” is one of the most powerful, or destructive, tools we have as people. Also who we are we are is literally “I am”, and that’s it. Whatever we put after that is the identity we choose. Better than any identity though is no identity and just living authentically.
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  33. In my mid 30s and feeling this. Thank you Cole for addressing this.
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  34. I like this laid back style of the channel Coal 😎
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  35. Finding jesus is the Best Thing that can happen to anyone, i have loved to hear that story at the beginning of the video
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  36. Suffer so much that you make it your very identity. And actually getting better will result in you having nothing, ironically enough.
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  37. I do think I'm fairly receptive to conversations with people. I make eye contact, smile, and say hello / good morning to strangers fairly regularly. I also really like hearing people's stories. One thing I don't really do, though, is initiate further conversation myself (beyond the initial greeting). I just don't generally feel the need to vocalize my observations to others.
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  38. Another good way to go about it is when another incident that causes the unhealthy version of “you” show up again you can tell yourself that that version is not you, but rather a shitty version of you in response to the situation and that you are really a much different, separate being from said incident. But this skill must come from the pause between stimuli and reaction first.
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  39. @ Thanks man! Really appreciate what you do!
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  40. I had to face the worst depression to enjoy suffering currently
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  41. Glad to see you here in a more unstructured format! This is the "other" Eric (Aniversario) on your Discord and Skool communities. I appreciate your take on the current state of self improvement on YouTube. I have watched your videos (and those of other self improvement creators) for a few years and I'd like to say that I genuinely have made some meaningful strides in life progress since then, but of course there is always (much) more room to grow. I'd say that my consumption has actually stayed about the same since then, but there are some results to justify those many hours of watching.
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  42. Actually Getting out there, interacting in person with people, and getting involved to help improve the world. That’s what I naturally found myself drawn to more as I have stopped watching self improvement. At some point , this should be the videos goals though, right? To help you actually ‘ self improve ‘so that you don’t need them and don’t want to watch them as much anymore. So then you can actually get out there in the world and make an impact, which to some degree is what I think we all really want to be able to do
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  43. I have been feeling like i need to slow down lately, too. I was obsessed with having a "productive day" until this thought hit me, Can i keep this up forever? I don't wanna be burdened by unreal standards. It's so hard to want to change and regard change and growth as a good thing. I'm trying to live and not simply exist which is kinda what i tend to do when im trying to get everything out of 24 hours. I used to sleep 4 hours a day and i kept this up for 2 years. I'll try to be better. ❤
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  44. These types of interviews should have Japanese subs and need to be seen by Japanese people. I've been in Japan for 8 years and most Japanese have never even thought to consider different ways of thinking, even though many of them admit they're miserable. They would benefit a lot from it I think, especially coming from a Japanese person (they can't say "well it's because you're different")
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  45. How are you some how exactly like me ( like 99%) And have had similar experiences as i have even though i live in india 😢😢😢
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  46. Sometimes I feel like your videos are so well timed. Thank you for all the content you’ve been putting out all these years 🙌🏻⚡️
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  47. Excellent stuff. I too married at 27 haha, congrats dude. Mic sound good
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  48.  @CoalHastings  yeah that’s basically what I believe, I believe the arguments for God are very strong and it’s hard to believe that all life happened by accident.
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  49. Very informative & interesting, thanks!
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  50. Oh, I'm confused at first then I realized this is a different channel. Subscribed to Coal!
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