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  1. This is exactly what I needed. Yesterday I was talking to a few girls and in the middle of the conversation and then it just came dead silent. But after watching this video I now have a better understanding.
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  2. Another good video and can 100% relate. Thanks for always being vulnerable and honest.
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  3. ​ @ninjacats1647 I agree. Defining what a toxic relationship is tends to get blurred with inconsequential petty misunderstandings these days, which is problematic. There's also a clear line between those kinds of issues from a situation where relationships end the moment both parties realized they simply weren't compatible. Also, a litmus test if one's self-improvement is heading in the right direction is when someone finds a partner that compliments them rather than completes them. The latter indicates codependency, the former self-sustenance.
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  4. I never saw your content as "self-improvement," per say, but rather content I watch for inner peace. All these gurus online prey on insecurities and sex drive so they can promote their courses. The more you watch their content, the more they leave your mental health in shambles, and in the end, you turn around and question what the hell you were even watching.
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  5. I’m going to a Friendsgiving party tonight with some people I don’t know/am not the closest with. I’ve watched you for years and always thought your content was so sobering. I clicked on this video to kind of get my mind in the right place before the party, and I think you really helped me see the potential that there is in being open to new conversations and new people. Btw, I’m a Christian, and I loved the story of that woman. I hope whatever path you’re on, that you would consider Jesus =) Great vid, as always!
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  6. Since I was a kid, I thought I needed to follow the standard script - financial independence, marriage, kids, house, etc. I was engaged over a year ago, in an incredibly unhealthy relationship. I learned that I had a lot of work from that relationship still to accomplish on myself, both to be a better person and also learn how to vet toxic people from entering my life. After a healthy amount of time, I tried to do the casual thing and went on dates with several women but found that damaging to the soul. After my last “situationship” ended, I finally found contentment in just simply enjoying friendships, digging deeper into my spiritual formation, and engaging in fulfilling hobbies. If that is what is intended for the foreseeable future, I count it as a blessing and if something does change, I am more prepared now to better love another.
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  7. Missed your fitness videos man, gotta see more, you’ve got a ton of value to share!
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  8. Honestly this is one of your best vids imo
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  9. This is an interesting reframing! It reminds me of the “I have to..” versus “I get to..” saying when doing things you’re not excited about. It just helps to see it in a more positive light! Those calls sound very insightful, Cole - thanks for sharing🙏🏽
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  10. The algorithm brought me here. I feel you, same story with me. You express yourself phenomenally, subscribed. Let’s keep growing.
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  11. this has actually helped me with my Japanese studies, it made something click in my head and now all of sudden I've got a better work flow for my studying thanks guys!
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  12. The problem we're facing here is that everyone is now speaking out as if they're a guru in the space and offering their own unique views which is adding more things to the ever expanding list of self improvement. As someone who's been one of the top mods in Hamza's self improvement server, I realised that so many of the young guys who were there weren't even actually improving themselves, they were more focused on just ticking some boxes that aligned with whatever the narrative of the influencer is. It's become the new coping mechanism for a lack of control and direction in life. A lot of the guys I saw there who would make a point of telling the world that they're doing "monk mode" day 4 million of no fap, take 7 cold showers a day and have learned how to eat lightbeams to optimise their health just sounds like another extremist view on the world which ironically, is the complete antithesis of what "self improvement" is about. It's a way of life, not a challenge or a course that you take for a while, it's meant to be a journey where one seeks to develop in the areas of their lives to become a better human. Also thank you Cole, I've also recently stepped into the videography space with cinematic b rolls just like you mentioned, I find that this is a course of expression that people who were tangled in that world of having to be this perfect curated person is breaking out of and looking to become more aligned with who they want to be deep down inside. I believe that's what self improvement is.
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  13. Important to remember there is a difference between being an introvert and being shy. Shyness is a fear of others that is bad for anyone. Being introverted is just part of your personality. I am introverted and hate parties and large gatherings. If I am ever in one of those situations the funnest thing for me is talking to only one or two people that I actually find interesting.
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  14. I agree! Go beyond your comfort zone to gain new perspectives and enjoy life.
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  15. Well said Cole. Let me give a recent except of mine from last night that I think illustrates the point your trying to make: I’m an introvert like you, my gym I’ve been a regular member at for almost two years now. I know most of the people there, and they know me. But from being an introvert, I wouldn’t say that I’m close friends per se with anyone there. Last night, there was a social event my gym was having at a brewery. I typically would have said no, out of not really knowing would I could expect if I went there, but decided to go cause it felt like the right thing to do. When I got there, there was already a friend group who was gathered around a table, since they somewhat knew me and I somewhat knew a few of them , I came over and just sat on the outskirts of the group, not really saying much, not caring to say much,just asking a few questions now and then. Like you said Cole, nothing super important , not talking about any of the deep stuff this channel talks about. Because most people aren’t interested in the deep stuff, and that’s ok. I left early, cause I felt like I’d done my part, I’d shown my face and had been kind. I’m glad I did, there was nothing significant that happened, I didn’t really make a new friend, accomplish this or that or the other, I just went there, and showed my face and was nice, and that was enough. That is i agree what more of us should be doing if we want to improve society, the little things like that, like you say. Just being kind to others with no particular agenda other than that
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  16. 🟦wool socks to bed = pre requisite for good sleep🔵⬛
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  17. Another great video and aww congratulations 🎉. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, it was definitely not easy sunshine and rainbows but we work through things and grow together. We still get on each other's nerves sometimes, I'm not going to lie lol but we've grown so much and are still learning.
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  18. Listened to this in 1.25x so Cole’s Japanese was fluent🫡 haha glad to have you back, brother!!🙏🏽
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  19. That opening statement really clicked for me recently. Been struggling with procrastination all year, partly because of my perfectionism (i.e. the expectations I set for my work), compounded by bad social media hygiene. Scrolling aimlessly, watching videos just to watch videos, etc. Backed myself into a helluva corner late this year, and discovered, that when I really focus, I can do as much as 9000 words in a day. Not meaningless words either, coherent thoughts and through-lines in storytelling. No obsessing, no dread, just writing. So the goal I'm setting for myself is creating a productive routine that can enable that side of me to stay in the zone consistently without the burnout and minimizing distraction. Looking forward to setting up that new standard. Great vid as always.
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  20. You are pretending to be Cole Hastings with a channel called Coal Hastings and re-uploading his content. Are you disappointed in yourself?
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  21. I am so here for this type of content. Thank you so much your videos are helping me so much. I’m a 31 year old SAHM that spent the entirety of my 20’s in a cycle of perpetual self loathing due to the choices I made to cope with the abuse I was faced with as a child. It’s complicated but I’m doing so much better now and content like this keeps me on track.
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  22. This is so spot on. I’m a little older than you (30) but going through much the same thing. Moving in with my partner years ago pushed me to be that much better, and in ways where I almost didn’t realise things had improved, but some bad habits stick around. Now we’ve our baby on the way, and that sure as shit motivates you to get your ducks in a row!
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  23. 7:09 this is so true. I really notice after myself, that desptie all the conscious repeating for myself, that I do want better for myself, or be happy, or whatever happened here, secretly I do things that not entirely sabotage me, but really make my life uneccessary bit more difficult. Its like I really wanted to suffer a bit, and seriously - I think thats the beauty. One dude on the internet said ,that we all just try to hide our insanities in one way or another, so thats ultimately makes us sane. For me tho, I just find that I want more of a good story came out of my life, rather being steady and peaceful at all times. I know that a lot of people can disagree with this viewpoint on life, but I look at it through lens of film. The thought about regular life, FOREVER, makes me feel so trapped and anxious. Anyway, I yapped to much. Ty Cole
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  24. damn the right time , just needed it , felt pretty shit cause of me bein introverted , or should i say socially anxious in school
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  26. Already loving this backup channel
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  27. Cole. Thank you man. Hits extremely hard and has been something I’ve lamented on for about 9 years or so. I am ok as I am, just flowing with the seasons: i think i always knew that but like you said, society perpetually pulls you in a different direct. Thank you brother ❤
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  28. It's funny that I'm watching this video while doom-scrolling.
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  29. This couldn't have come at a more perfect time. Thank you for sharing this so much, Cole.
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  30. 1 month into a newly turned long distance relationship and already struggling with the adjustment, needed this video as a bit of a reality check. Thank you.
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  31. That top 10 videos feature is nothing short of devious. At best villainous
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  32. Congrats on the engagement Cole!! Been watching for a long time that’s sick
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  33. Physical books for me! If they have been good enough for people for 1,000s of years then they are good enough for me now.
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  34. 9:19 that's so true!! Instead of focusing on success, for me, I can focus on the progress that much failures will be present before the growth itself! At least I can control progression!
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  35. My takeaway from this is that it's more about becoming myself rather than improving myself. Self improvement for me hasn't helped my identity, and I suppose my quarter life crisis is because I was improving the wrong self idk.
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  36. I've been watching some of your videos from the main channel for some years now, but this channel really clicked with me. Just loving that its unscripted and it feels closer to the viewer, in my experience at least. Love from brazil.
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  37. Thank you Cole, really needed to hear that. I'll join you brother. I got really tired of faking who I am and trying to fit other people's perspective.
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  38. From someone who to this day struggles with feeling/being unreliable this was a great reminder to change the way I think about my goals. Something else I recommend is to try and picture how proud you'll feel after taking the step to whatever it is you wanna do, instead of thinking "Well I feel alright right now, so I can do that thing later". Just something to look out for whenever you notice yourself being stagnant. Either way, great video!
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  39. I truly empathize that you're one of those lesser human beings that haven't experienced the greatness yet, but Potato + red 40 goes unbelievably hard
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  40. Great video! I agree totaly, moving in to a house in a small town, i know no one there, i am gonna get a garage, a workshop, for buimding cars, having hobbies, having privacy and space, i can't wait to find myself again and evolve!💪🏻 need to loose weight, excersice , stop porn and junk food, i am shaking up everything, this video hit home perfectly
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  41. "I will" pairs well with "I get to"
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  42. This is so accurate. Especially that part where you said your anxious attachment got worse the closer to the end of a relationship. That's exactly how my last girlfriend and I ended. I got super anxiously attached and was seeking more and more validation until she eventually had enough. My mom is bipolar so I'm pretty sure that's why I was like that. Now, I don't think I'm as anxiously attached since I've spent so long alone. Great video man. I like these longer videos that I can just listen to.
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  43. I believe in God, I believe Science and Religion can work together to explain things in this world and I do believe in the after life. I would rather believe that then just nothing. As long as people believe in whatever God or religion that teaches them positive things in life, we can be better people
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  44. Mad respect for cole speaking Japanese (coming from a hafu)
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  45. Congrats man, proud of you. Thanks for the tips.
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  46. As someone who is literally starting a self improvement channel this info has been valuable. I've been through some crazy life events, and I've learned a lot through pain and believe that things like depression can be an advantage to push you. Lets do this 👊
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  47. It felt surreal watching this, it's like I was listening to another version of myself describe my life. Thank you for making this, looking forward to the novel.
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  48. Dr Joe Dispenza says be defined by a vision of the future rather than a record of the past
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  49. It’s a second channel
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  50. I was literally thinking about 20 minutes ago, “jeez no wonder I’m having trouble with focus and memory, I’m trying to learn/progress in 6+ areas at the same time… Maybe I should reign it in and focus on 1 or 2 of those things for now” and then your video popped up. This really helped articulate a lot of thoughts I’ve been having lately, cheers from Australia man 🍻
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