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  1. I don’t think we really realize how valuable this channel is. I’ve been trying to talk about this shame issue with my therapist for a while now and, for some reason, there has always been a disconnect. I don’t think my therapist sees my shame issue as a big deal or as debilitating as it can be for me. This video, along with one other (I don’t remember which one it was; So sorry!), has helped me understand this long-held conundrum and has actually showed me a way to solve the issue.
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  2. Having been diagnosed at age 32 (35 now), and even only being 15 minutes into this, it's safe to assume this is going to help a lot of late/undiagnosed folk. My relation to being diagnosed: If life is building a birdhouse, then the autistic is given the same instructions as everyone else, but is given different supplies. Getting a diagnosis isn't being given a new set of instructions, simply an understanding that your supplies are your's to build whatever birdhouse you want.
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  3. I'm loving these mini lectures
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  4. This was bloody fascinating. For starters, the connection between lack of discipline / resolve and being emotionally dissociated was WOW. Then I thought about what resolve means to me and I realized something mind blowing: Resolve is EASY. By that I mean that a state of resolve is like a switch going off in my brain that completely side-steps the need for willpower. Think of those stories you hear about a smoker that just looks at their pack of cigarettes one day and realizes “I don’t need / want these anymore”. They quit cold turkey and of course there are side effects to work through, but there’s no internal struggle. There’s no need to fire up the will power to fight the cravings. No need to convince themselves or psych themselves up to stick to their guns today. The switch has simply flipped and it won’t turn on again. Then I thought about what that resolve “switch” sounds like in my brain and I realized that it sounds like release. Those times when I’ve experienced the kind of resolve that led to profound life changes have always been framed in my mind as the laying down of a burden, or permission to more fully embody some part of my life. “I no longer need this toxic influence in my life”, or “I no longer need to be held back by this lack of knowledge”, “or I don’t need to be shackled to this weird relationship with food anymore” - that kind of thing. It always feels like a release. Thank you so much for this epiphany. It came at the exact right time too.
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  5. The ADHD simulator is so accurate… tho to be clear, you do not usually hear voices, those are just thoughts. Hard to explain, but it’s accurate.
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  6. “Sometimes when people meditates, it starts working” might be the funniest line I’ve heard all week 🤣
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  7. This is a helpful perspective. Thanks so much 🙏
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  8. No one knows you better than you do, only you know the answers to your problems. Be your own guru!
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  9. This video hits hard. It’s a wake-up call about how inaction can be just as exhausting as action. Finding our self-worth means pushing through discomfort and taking those small steps forward. Growth doesn’t always have to be grand; sometimes, it’s about making the choice to move, even a little. Let’s stop letting our fears define us!
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  10. 00:37 - Recognizing a problem 01:20 - Misconceptions that hold us back 02:17 - A breakthrough 03:38 - Behavioral reinforcement 04:48 - Self-control feels like punishment 08:26 - Rethinking the cycle 1. 08:43 - Catching your creative impulse 2. A. 10:18 - Reflect, rekindle 2. B. 12:16 - Celebrate the wins 3. A. 13:42 - Why we are cynical of practice 3. B. 15:28 Why gratitude matters 17:32 - Recap 18:45 - Takeaway
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  11. I know Dr. K gets well deserved appreciation but I wanted to say thanks to the person/people working in this youtube channel. Thanks for your time and effort :D
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  12. It almost seems like, if you don't want to be in situationships, the solution is the courage to just be open about your feelings and attraction. Situationships exist because of the uncertainty. By being straightforward about your feelings, you remove that uncertainty. And it lets the other person decide if they truly want to be with you or not.
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  13. No emotion is bad, whether it’s depression or happiness. If you are depressed your mind is trying to tell you something. The problem is instead of exploring them people either try to sweep it under the rug and fester or let said “negative emotion” control them. I got out of my severe anxiety and depression because I decided to explore it. Learn why. We have these emotions for a reason.
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  14. For the editors: I like the graphics but also like the notes! I think a mix between them would be the hot spot
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  15. Honestly, this really helps with my anxiety, knowing what to expect. I’d still be extremely nervous signing up for coaching, but I appreciate this
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  16. Normal people: Wow, 5 segments to choose from! Dr K, a degenerate gamer for life who probably played PoE or will play PoE2 eventually: SKILL TREE GO BRRRRRRRRRRR Not going to lie, this was awesome but you did miss one tiny chance of having Kruti coming in and saying "I told you to read your e-mails". Best of luck guys, you've grown so much! (deserved and truly super hard work done). HGGG always in my heart <3
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  17. As someone with ADHD who basically screwed up their life and opportunities as a habitual smoker in their 20s… I’m glad you’ve presented this research. I hope folks younger than me take this seriously and do actually therapeutic treatment to work through their life problems rather than numbing themselves.
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  18. started therapy like 2 months ago and i'm personally very surprised how much good it's doing me. since several years ago i've always felt that i had no problem crying - i recently cried in front of friends after a break up. i wasn't ashamed at all. i said to them "i won't find another [her name]..." and sort of sniffled and shed a tear. my friend's wife then said "yes and she won't find another [my name] either." and i broke down into proper ugly crying. men NEVER get told this kind of stuff. nobody wants to make us feel special or valued. we have to 'take' or demand value and for many of us that's just not our personality. but in the case of these 2 friends... wow during all this they have made me feel loved and cared for. i have been pretty open and honest with other friends in the last few years too. my therapist isn't saying anything i don't think my friends could say. but it's not about that. it's about context. even though me and my friends are more open than most people, i STILL hold back a lot on what i want to say because i KNOW it affects my status and how people perceive me. with the therapist it's a different context. he is obligated to listen, to understand, to give help - and all in a completely detached way. there is no fear during therapy cos there are no negative repercussions for experiencing and expressing my emotions. experssing emotions? what is this foreign idea? he recently helped me to identify locked-up feelings by getting in touch with my body. i had zero awareness i was even doing it, i just knew that i didn't feel "right". to me it was like an anxious/tense feeling in my chest. he walked me through it and got me to speak to my own body with compassion (i was like wtf is this?) and within about 2 minutes i was almost literally vomiting up emotion and crying like fuck. i could feel it coming up my throat. COMPASSION... for MYSELF? what? it was like an alien concept. since i started therapy i've been ugly crying for about 30 seconds at a time once or twice a day. that same tense feeling just builds up out of nowhere and now i know to communicate with my body. the tears come, then they go, and i feel free again. I think i have a lot of old stuff to allow to come to the surface
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  19. Damn him explaining congruent depression really spoke to me
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  20. i like the intro, a whole different feeling to the vid
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  21. These interviews are some of my favorite things you do
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  22. I saw a video where they brought together situationship “couples” and had them ask each other basic questions about the relationship, and they could either answer or take a shot. It very quickly became clear that one or both people were absolutely allergic to acknowledging their situation. They just couldn’t talk about it. It was super uncomfortable and kinda sad. Sometimes one person really wanted an answer and the other just awkwardly avoided the subject.
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  23. Let's level up our perk tree, dear gamers!
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  24. Defense Against the Dark Arts, HGGG edition
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  25. Hey Dr K! I know you're probably not going to ever see this but I want to let you know that I'm not doing the greatest right now but your videos help a lot and I'd probably be worse off without them so thank you and hope you're doing well 👍
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  26. In my early 20s I felt like a complete loser. I felt way behind everyone else in life. I went through a journey that exactly matches what Dr. K describes in this video. I started weightlifting, going to networking events, and learning a well-paying skill, despite my initial fear of those activities. If you stick with something constructive past the most difficult starting phase, your self-image and your very reality will change for the better. There is no greater feeling in life.
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  27. What really helped me sustain good habits was changing my perspective in the way Dr. K outlines in this video. I had to change my relationships to food, sleep, exercise, etc... I had to start thinking about my "future self." After a while of that, good habits have become easier to maintain.
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  28. When I start to do something that benefits me, my mom tells me to stop and claims that I don't know anything. But then later she complain that I don't do anything. Now, I have to hide everything away from her.
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  29. I can relate so much to this. As a paramedic of over a decade, I used to get exceedingly frustrated when we would get a call while I was "doing" something to manage my boredom. It quickly devolved into me becoming jaded and disinterested with my profession. Tolerating my own boredom for a period of time led me to discovering creative writing and re-inspired my interest in the theoretical aspects of my profession. Strong work, and great video!
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  30. Really like that summary intro, helps to almost "prime" our attention/brain to the video 👌🏿
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  31. 8:27 dr. k is more burst healing and his coaches are more healing over time.
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  32. As of this week, I've finally found a morning routine that works for me, and I've stuck with it and haven't been late to work at all. I'm very proud, as this hasn't been the case (on a reliable basis) for years, and upon hearing you talk about those negative thoughts that debilitate you in the morning, I can see that was what was going on with me
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  33. 18:59 - 20:20 is so very profound. It's almost a disservice to have it so deep in the video. This needs to get clipped and shipped across the internet. So very powerful. This is succinct enough I think to try and convince people who do not feel the privilege that is prescribed to them to understand their actions.
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  34. “It takes two people to make a dynamic” — ooof, that was a curveball I didn’t expect, I gotta let that one sink in… certainly difficult to absorb when you feel like the victim of your parent. But maybe acknowledging that is the way to create some kind of agency and control over the dynamic
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  35. “Overcoming an addiction is not about being strong. It’s about putting in lots of hours in stupid shit that you don’t want to do.” Eg meetings, therapy, daily meditation, etc I love this quote. Another banger from Dr. K 👌💣
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  36. From the thumbnail I thought this was a Kurzkesagt video. That is to say, thumbnail person/crew is crushing it
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  37. You probably won't read this but I'm super thankful for your videos, this truly helped me understand my social anxiety, something psychologists never could. Please keep up the great work!
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  38. Limerence is simply the worst thing I ever experienced, but once the anxiety went down a little, I was convinced to look for therapy. I never stopped since and limerence hasn't returned. This video has opened my scar but it's so important to talk about this topic.
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  39. Tried to watch the whole video without switching between dopamine stimulators (like watching shorts and coming back to the video every min) and I did it, I'm so proud of myself
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  40. “I missed the boat!” - that hit me hard. You’re explanation of “trying to live a normal life” and becoming increasingly hopeless is incredible. I need to become “stupid”.
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  41. We’re getting to insane levels with these perfectly timed and relatable titles lol
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  42. The skill tree is so much better to visually track your progress and game-ify it. W Skill Tree!
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  43. Thank you for doing what you do
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  44. I am a doctor myself, struggling to get into post graduation. Just today I was out of discipline, trying to numb myself, overwhelmed by emotions. I felt I was there again, doing nothing. Just today I thought what if I used my emotions to steer my day with discipline, but didn't find a way and dropped it. But somehow stumbled upon this video. It helped. Thank u sir. This meant a lot to me. ❤
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  45. Can’t get stuck in a relationship if you can’t even get into one to begin with 😔
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  46. 3:02 THE WHITEBOARD OVERLAY ON THE SCREEN IS SUCH A NICE TOUCH! WELL DONE HG TEAM!!!
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  47. I was stuck on the red pill for the longest time following huge red pill creators words like a bible, and then due to feeling so hopeless I briefly fell in to the black pill. Until I stumbled upon you Dr K I was going down a very dark path and you help me to see the light and the proper way of dealing with things. I thank you very much, God bless. :_DrKMeditate:
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  48. I'm 32. I was a gifted kid turned failure exactly as you described, and I turned it around exactly as you described when I learned work ethic at age 25. We are expecting our first child in February I found this whole talk very confirming and full of inspiration for how to do a better job for my child.
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  49. This was actually an eye opener for me. Now i really understand small goals. Find pleasure in checking off small boxes.
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  50. I cured my social anxiety with Dr K advice - I started increasingly speaking out regardless of the inner voice analysing it and telling me to shut up. Over time, voicing out my thoughts came easier and easier, I started getting out of analysis paralysis, where you sit silently and play out everything you'd LIKE TO say in your head.
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