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  1. I sincerely would like to thank you for what you are doing. I suspect that there are those who appreciate it more than you may ever know.
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  2. I really appreciate these summaries after the end of the videos. I've been meaning to rewatch past streams and take notes during it, so this is a great help. Thanks for your work!
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  3. Nooiice! Let's DO this!! Let's escape our egos, for the win! Full send, no cap! ( sorry, I'm a millenial and just saw the notification "posted 2 minutes ago" , haven't even watched a single minute yet šŸ˜¬ )
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  4. This is one of my biggest issues. I know I'm not alone
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  5. This is reallt valueable content man. Thank you very much.
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  6. I wish I could talk to Dr. K, I always get something out of every video. I haven't really had any role models in my life but Doc is someone I genuinely look up to. One day I hope!
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  7. yeah, my meditation journey for the past 8 years has been mind boggling.yo-yoing between states of inner peace and boundless love, and then spiralling into an intense yearning to destroy myself and self destruct. i wouldnt exactly say its "dangerous" but its more accurate to say that the growth it evokes in you is very painful. but worth it, i think.
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  8. Tbh my favorite part is when we get the Guru voice šŸ˜‚
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  9. I was in the middle of giving up lmao thanks dr.k for saving me
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  10. Dr Kā€™s ability to make high quality research and insight accessable to the public is beautiful ā¤ļø
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  11. I will never have the size of balls that JC here has, holy shit. I strive to be as brave as him to come on here.
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  12. Absolutely brilliant conversation, so many insights + amazing vibes. Thanks so much for sharing you guys!
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  13. ā€œWhy do you like to play solo so much? Itā€™s because when you play solo nobody can see your failuresā€ My god this hits me so hard. Thanks Dr K
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  14. What a great video! At the start of the pandemic, I was a guy full of hate, rage, envy, sadness, and loneliness through others and myself. Today I can say I learned to love and to have patience with myself. Healthygamer had a significant influence on me to make that happen. Let's don't give up hope. I think we all can get better :) I'm genuinely thankful for this community, the healthyGamer's staff and coaches, Kruti and, obviously, for Dr.k.
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  15. "Walk through a door" is so fire. I already do this unintentionally and it was mind-blowing to hear a justification on why it seems to make my mind clearer.
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  16. 3:28 that sudden "do you know what edging is?" "yes" without context is so funny
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  17. I look forward to watching this one. I have an addiction that is basically destroying my life, but since it only affects my mind, no one else around me can understand or relate (thankfully they don't have to). I come across as normal, while being eaten up inside. And it's amazing how therapists don't seem to get it either.
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  18. The doorway effect is so fascinating to me. It totally works, both in the negative and the positive.
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  19. Dude, synchronicity at its finest. My journal entry today began with ā€œPlease save me from myself.ā€
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  20. As always the timing is so fitting that Carl Jung would call it a case of synchronicity šŸ˜…
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  21. I've never really appreciated how well structured your videos are, they're easy to understand and I love that there is always a tip to try
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  22. Dude this is literally exactly what I've been looking for. Realized that so much of my other thinking and fears of being unloveable are wrapped up in ego but couldn't find anything for dealing with it.
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  23. We need a complete guide to meditation, beginner to master, types of meditation, breakdowns on what each meditation is, the history of each one, combinations, etc. I'm talking encyclopedia levels of it. Every time I watch one of your videos on the issue, I have to google a billion things out of curiosity and now I have to also be weary of the side effects on top. Halp.
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  24. I'm a therapist and I teach this to my clients as much as I can. You don't have to go from being a pessimist or a 'realist' (as many tend to identify themselves) to an optimist. Just being open to happiness, and putting even a slightly more positive view on things helps. I loved the part where Dr K said to imagine you're talking to someone you care about. If you wouldn't say what you're saying to them, don't say it to yourself!! Whenever I hear my friends being negative about themselves out loud I say "Hey, don't talk to/about my friend that way, I don't like it" and it's helped both myself and my friends be less critical and negative towards ourselves. Yay for CBT!
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  25. I analyzed myself during my old job. I OVERANALYZED myself, every single day, and when i couldn't take it anymore and I've quit, i realized that we dont have control over everything. Sometimes the environment is just bad and yes, it can happen consecutively. Sometimes we're too hard on ourselves.
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  26. A video so nice I watched it twice, so here are my DIY chapters: 0:00 intro 0:58 HG coaching promo 1:43 historical and recent professional understandings of anxiety 4:08 what anxiety is and why it is 5:50 how our ability to judge threats gets messed up 9:25 transition to adulthood ā€“ why does anxiety remain? 11:40 physiological factors impacting anxiety and emotion 22:16 the mind, experience, and the control-the-world approach 26:34 tolerance-based solutions 28:23 self-observation and detachment-based solutions 32:20 summary
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  27. Thank you so much for talking about this! I failed 2 subjects in university last semester because of this and I never came to a conclusion on why I was experiencing this! I have always performed well in school prior to these symptoms. I thought I was going mad, and it threw me into a spiral of depression and anxiety. Things are better now in terms of anxiety and depression, but the brainfog just doesn't seem to let go. Again, thank you so much for bringing this up, means the world to me!
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  28. yes dr k is my little guru in my head i love him
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  29. grab some food and get comfy guys
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  30. dr. K is just such a genuine and caring person, it's kinda insane in today's time
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  31. This vid deserves so much and I just saw only the first 5 secs.
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  32. I've been journaling for a few months now but only in the last few weeks did I download the emotion wheel and now at the top of my journal I write down the emotions I'm feeling. Even during work, I will take a moment to feel my emotions and write them down. Being in tune with your emotions, good and bad, will let you build emotional maturity. If you feel sad and you cry, you will feel better after. If you feel sad and you bury it and don't feel it, you build up that sadness within you and slowly get more and more depressed. Emotions also tell you what you need. If you feel lonely, you need connection. If you feel sad, you need to cry. If you feel shame, you need self compassion. If you're angry, you need to check your personal boundaries. I hope this helps someone out there! It's helping me heal, even if it can feel uncomfortable at times (I used to use drugs and alcohol a lot which would numb my emotions).
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  33. I wasn't really sure which moments to highlight at times but I hope this is helpful! So proud of Yvonne for doing this <3 0:00 Introduction 9:03 Evading Appreciation 22:29 Relationships 30:10 The Breakup 48:53 Regret 52:27 Sexual Assault 1:09:50 Suppressing What Happened / Staying Silent 1:32:27 Catatonia 1:34:40 Why Not Name Names? 1:44:26 Respecting Children's Boundaries 1:46:16 Final Thoughts
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  34. I did even realize just relaxing witnessing your thought with out judgment was form of meditation let alone open meditation. I've gotten pretty good at no judgment over the past 7 years.
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  35. Iā€™ve watched so many videos, talked to so many counselors, listened to podcasts, read books about anxiety because Iā€™ve experienced it since I was about 10. Iā€™m 10 minutes into this video and Iā€™ve learned more than anything else combined. Iā€™ve never known where my anxiety came from. Itā€™s like it suddenly appeared when I was a kid out of nowhere. But every example used here was my childhood. My dad owned two bars, he came home drunk nightly, usually angry. If I saw his car pulling up the driveway at night, Iā€™d run to my room and pretend I was asleep. All throughout my teens was like that as well. My parents left every weekend to their cabin and would come home Sunday and berate me all day if the house wasnā€™t clean. Iā€™d spend literally hours cleaning every Sunday morning praying they wouldnā€™t find the smallest thing wrong. They always did. They were not physically abusive people but thatā€™s about the only good thing. I was mentally torn down and berated on a daily basis and I guess I never understood thatā€™s most likely why I have such anxiety as an adult, why like he mentioned Iā€™m afraid to talk to my boss, Iā€™m afraid to question anyone in an authority position, itā€™s just all adding up. Thank you for this video
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  36. Just wanted to share I'm happy you chose to help kids with gaming imbalance šŸ¤—
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  37. I really appreciate your work Dr. Kanojia.
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  38. As a professional introvert who has watched a million videos on how to become charismatic, THIS IS THE ONE. I love that you articulated HOW to do it and not just what to do. Thatā€™s one of my biggest pet peeves with psychology videos. Having social anxiety sucks but exposure is the answer. I recently acquired the skill of eye contact at the age of 26, and I can say it DEFINITELY changed the way people treat me. Thank you for your amazing insights Dr K!
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  39. ohhh, so THIS is wtf Iā€™ve been on my whole life honestly very thankful for this video, im realizing this is something that Iā€™ve been dealing with for as long as I remember, and I had no idea it even existed
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  40. I've been watching the channel for years so I can't really say that I found this out on my own, but yeah, that's exactly what I had to do in order to get my life in order. I just set an overall direction of where I want my life to go and then leave the rest to improvisation. Every morning I write a single "quest" for the day and center everything I do around that. Then later I take some time to reflect on how things are going and make corrections along the way. Every month I review how I spent my time and change things around if I need to. I don't set goals, only North Stars. No rules on how to live, just a strong set of standards. It's been the perfect balance between just riding the waves of life and still having all the control I need to do what's important to me. I like to think that I've already graduated from HealthyGamer (living life is pretty awesome now), but I love checking in every once in a while. It's still wild to get this kind of information from someone as qualified as Alok.
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  41. I would actually be so curious to sit down and have a conversation like this just analyzing my dating life of the last few years. I analyze myself a lot, but having an expert opinion looking into it from a third party can be very enlightening.
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  42. Something that soothes my mind on this topic is that: My age now being 31 and just finishing my first year of college is actually and advantage in the field I am going in. The maturity I developed prior allows me to focus on actually learning and growing rather than the wows and wonders of entering the adult world. It also helps that I established the ability to study hard and stay focused. The industry I am walking into will inherently prefer an individual who is older over younger, though it values skill more than all else. Skill can be developed at any age, so this isn't a problem. Finally comparing yourself to your peers is fine so long as you don't use that as a measuring stick for your own success. Everyone develops at their own pace, and the biggest battle is recognizing that your life is your own. Beating yourself up because someone else is seemingly better off is honestly dumb. I know people who make 6 figures who are miserable, so your ideal image may not be the best for you personally.
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  43. I finally tidied up my room, took out the trash, did the dishes, and did the laundry while listening to this. Iā€™d been meaning to do it for a week. I'm going to my MRI tomorrow. Thanks Dr. K.
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  44. I'm so happy that this type of conversation is being had. I was bullied a fair bit when I was a kid and I can heavily relate to both JC and the "stalker" dude in the video. For years I've been wanting people to actually talk about these types of issues. I wish I could've jumped in on this convo.
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  45. Just ran into an old high school friend from ten years ago. I'm 28, one year older than him, but he has a great career and a new family. Meanwhile, I just graduated college after 6.5 years on active duty, no real career, no wife, no kids, and honestly still no direction despite having a newly acquired degree... It's depressing as hell sometimes to think of how "behind" I am, but it's great to have Dr. K's perspective. The timing of this vid was incredible.
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  46. A few years back, when I was just getting into video editing, I was totally afraid of trying Adobe After Effects. I had no clue about all those tools and how to fit them into my workflow. But after messing around with it for a whileā€”watching YouTube tutorials and goofing off just for fun (passion projects)ā€”it got way easier. Now, I don't even stress about it as much anymore. People even give me props for using After Effects, probably 'cause they think it's scary too. It's funny how I used to see it just like that before I gradually got the hang of it. This logic can also be applied to video games, try asking a high rank player why they achieved that rank, and pay attention to their response. xD
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  47. I was literally just asking myself last night that I don't understand discipline.. Dr K never fails to deliver at the right time. Thank you for everything you do šŸ™Œ
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  48. This guy from seattle is such a compassionate psychologist compared to many on youtube who actually show a deep hatred for those with personality disorders. I find the latter quite baffling since they were meant to be ethical and fair when going into such professional careers ā¤
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  49. Your RAM analogy crushed me. I was diagnosed at 26. I often wonder if my diagnosis was accidental because my life isn't impaired the way it was before I started medication. Then I heard your RAM analogy. That was me as a child and teenager. I had a school psychologist recommend medical intervention at 15 and had a well-meaning teacher tell my parents that I was just bored because I was gifted. I underperformed for another decade before I broke down and pursued a diagnosis as an adult. Thank you for validating me and others like me.
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  50. he speaks the truth. People ask me how it is that I can consistently accomplish tedious chores in the short term (I.E. cleaning my apartment, cooking, exercising..), and I've never had a good enough way to explain it besides that it feels like the most logical thing to do. Im going to steal the steward and relay race analogy, and use that now because it make so much sense.
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