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Appreciate the video. I think what resonated with me the most is the part where you mentioned that when we love ourselves we share that love. Rather than loving others for some sense of return. I'm a therapist, I participate in my own therapy. One thing I've been wrestling with at 37 is maintaining a sense of identity. I'm always authentic. But the authenticity lacks substance if that makes sense. I told my therapist when he asked, I have had moments when I liked myself. But I've never loved myself. I've managed to achieve some success in academics at this later stage of my life and I've managed to have some good jobs. But I think it may have been for an ego push. To show myself and others I could do it. But now what? I'm a therapist and I'm actually expected to help people, and a lot of days I feel inadequate. My love for being social has turned to anxiety. I dread having to interact with folks and as a social worker, that's a problem lmao. I've been thinking, do I like therapy or do I like the idea of therapy? Meaning, do I like to actually deal with drama or do I like the idea of storytelling, creating the drama, sharing how folks can heal from their struggles, and raising awareness on certain issues? I've always wanted to be a creative. Work in film and writing. I'm just at a point where, I want to say my educational journey was for a reason. But maybe I'm neglecting a huge part of it and maybe that's why I feel out of sorts?
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Hello Mr. Jim,
I've seen this video randomly today and I think I needed it today.
I'm unemployed for a full year, I don't have any work and I HATE myself because I have a 1.9 (almost 2) year old kid and a wife and I can't even afford to pay bills now. I can't take care of my child like I want to, I don't know what to do.
People say that I'm 30 years old now and I don't have an income setup, I don't have savings, I don't have my own home, car...etc, even my own brother says this. Which is enough to demotivate me.
I've been thinking of taking my own life because I hate my life.
Like you said in the video "You must love yourself". I want to do that. I used to love myself I used to play video games and go for a bike ride, I used to do things I love and like. Now my priority is my wife and my kid and for that I've sold my bike, I've sold my ps5 & steam deck, I've spent my savings because of 1 whole year of unemployment.
I don't know what to do..
Any advice, any words, anything you have for me please let me know.
I'm dead broke, hard to even buy my baby's diapers and milk, no one to help me, I've taken many loans...
I want to live for my kid because I love him so much and my wife.
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Great one Jim!
I really appreciated your video. The way you talked about critics and why we should ignore them really hit the nail on the head.
I’m leaving my job soon because the constant criticism has become unbearable. They’re always giving feedback, but the issue is, they don’t even know where to start. I’ve been juggling five different roles at once, and somehow, I’m still “not the right fit.” It’s frustrating, and honestly, I’m tired of the passive-aggressive comments. Like, this one colleague who, just before I’m about to leave, will sarcastically say, “Nice one, man! One more project to go!” with a fake laugh. I’ve had enough of that. The first time, I didn’t say anything, but later in a meeting, he said it again, and I finally asked, “What’s so funny? Want me to laugh along?” Suddenly, there was complete silence.
The thing is, critics like this aren’t helpful. They rarely look at themselves and just throw out their opinions without any real understanding of the situation. I’ve always been confident—never insecure—but for a long time, I’d hold back, afraid of upsetting people. What did I get in return? Nothing. I was seen as weak, someone with no backbone.
But over the last few weeks, I’ve started speaking up, every single time. I respect others’ opinions, but if I’m not 100% okay with something, I’ll voice it. Like this coworker who always waits until I’m about to leave at 5 to ask me questions, but then completely ignores me the rest of the day. So, I told him, “I’ll take a look tomorrow. I’m heading home now and food’s ready.” Firm, but respectful.
I’ve got five days left, and I’m not looking back. Critics like this just don’t matter. I’ve learned that standing up for myself and ignoring these pointless criticisms is the only way forward.
Thanks again for the video, Jim. It really helped me put things into perspective.
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