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@FlorinGN You just have to be willing to pay for it (therapy).
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@mtlicq It’s only a trap if you’re dealing with a woman who is damaged goods. She’s doing you a favor by showing you her brokenness up front.
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@Yalbou No all relationships start from cold approaches. Those meetings are the hardest to pull off. Choosing signals are important to learn because they are markers of attraction. They show that she’s either into you…or what you are doing is working. If you NEVER see them? You either aren’t paying attention, don’t know what to look for…or have more work to do on yourself.
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@AkosM Some of it is cultural (African-American women tend to be standoffish in their dealings with men) but most of it is biologic….and men simply miss them rather than women not sending them.
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@logan_wolf It’s why you be nice to everyone…but be selective about who you approach. Piss off the wrong woman and she’ll actively try to sabotage your efforts to get with anyone else. Had that happen to me in grad school. This woman that every just kind of understood had a few screws loose, took an undesired interest in me. In that kind of situation, I just play dumb. Women expect you “not to get it”…so you just play to their expectations. They eventually get frustrated and stop. But they don’t get mad because you haven’t rejected them directly. You’ve given them a face-saving explanation for your lack of interest. But not this woman. When she found that I was trying to get with a classmate? She LIED about me to try to sabotage the “competition”. I had no clue what was going on behind my back until the classmate eventually became my girlfriend. So told me what had happened and why she had suddenly backed off. Though I was confused, I had let her go and didn’t chase after her. Thinking, okay, maybe I misread things. She eventually realized that what I was doing wasn’t matching up at all with what this other woman was telling her…so she circled back.
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@ickorling7328 Feelings make useful servants but terrible masters…
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@Dru2maBoii Game isn’t going turn someone into Brad Pitt or Leonardo DiCaprio. But the harsh reality is that there are very few male “10s” out there. So the rest of feminine humanity will have to go with other options. Fortunately, for us guys, the calculus of attraction is more complex for women than it is for men. We are purely visual. If she doesn’t hit a minimum beauty standard for us, we just aren’t going to be interested. For women, appearance is one factor. But so is status, and “game”. Game is how men can demonstrate that we are a “good genetic bet” through behavior rather than just appearance. Are we skilled socially (“smooth”)? Are we intelligent? (good protector, provider, good genes). Are we creative (another form of intelligence)? Are we funny? Humor if a quick-and-dirty way to screen for intelligence, creativity AND social skill. It takes all three to negotiate the rhythm, timing, creativity and social acumen to make people laugh without offending them. Are we comfortable in our bodies, or are we awkward or clumsy. (This where athletes come in) So game can shift you a couple of points in attractiveness, but it won’t work miracles. But you also have to remember pre-selection. Even if a woman won’t date you, her showing interest in you in other ways will often draw the attention of women who will be willing to.
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@Dru2maBoii Stop moving the goalposts. I’ve already answered that question, and that is not how attraction works in the real world. Your spouting black pill dogma that is just excuse making to rationalize away having to make the effort to improve your life. Build a good life, and a woman will show up looking to move in.
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Disagree on the teasing part. Teasing is a legitimate part of female game. USED PROPERLY, it is flirtatious while also stength(💩) tests a man’s confidence. IOW do you laugh and enjoy the banter or get insecure and butthurt? The problem is that many women have LOUSY game. So the teasing comes off as sarcastic, demeaning, or disrespectful totally…or they don’t have a grasp of wher the line between edgy and offensive is. So they “hit below the belt” and become offensive without intending to. One, we as guys need to recognize when she is disrespectful by accident…and kindly correct that…versus when she’s being malicious. Two. It works to our advantage to create an environment where she knows where the boundaries are…but is free to play with in them. Dealing with a female colleague right now whose idea of flirtatious banter is the verbal equivalent of three rounds of full-speed boxing. One day she said something that was flirtatious but just insulting…and I got mad. OMG, the hurt look on her face. She looked at me like I’d just told her that I didn’t love her anymore. That’s when I realized that what was going on was a really emotionally aggressive flirtation. Now I deal with her by just calmly deflecting or redirecting the verbal shots…and when she says something that’s over the line? I just calmly and kindly correct her and remind her where the boundary is. One, she LOVES it. Two, it’s good practice for me in keeping my ability to calmly disarm a b****y woman sharp. TLDR: Teasing isn’t always a problem. It’s a problem if it isn’t done playfully. It isn’t done WITH respect for what is not offensive…and WHERE it is done. The issue is some women lack the social skills and finesse to navigate these waters…and some are just toxic and are simply weaponizing their sense of humor.
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@SallyChanArt He isn’t picking a fight. You are. He called you out for the same tone I picked up in your post, and you are reacting by attacking him personally and in ways that have nothing to do with his point. I suppose I’m next? There has been no change in Psychacks tone, and his has only spoken truth about female nature. If you consider that “negative”? That’s on you. But I suspect the truth is that it was simply unflattering and you wanted it stopped. That mentality is part of why his channel exists. So many women these days simply are not open to any feedback that doesn’t make them feel good. Which makes it impossible to have any kind of substantive debate on difficult topics.
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@dappiduck Right….
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@TGP109 No, because unless you are a single mom, that ultimate responsibility doesn’t fall upon a woman.
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@user-uc7qb1su4e One. Psychacks is what Red Pill looks like when you truly accept female nature and don’t ask them to be any different from who they are and how they are made. Two. He created the analogy to describe women and hypergamy. Cats are mercurial and the choose their human (The Cat Decides What Milk Is Good). He only later extended to cover me and rebutt women’s determination to try to dictate to men what we should find attractive.
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Alex is Red Pill in its purest form: that there is a biologic component to human female mating psychology and strategies.
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@psychacks I’ll look for it….
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@chelsy2255 I’m not playing a game. I’m just not willing to play my assigned role in the victim-drama you want to stage. Your life may not be what you want it to be…. …but as a man, that is not my fault. No matter how aggressively you try to shame me into taking responsibility for your life and it’s outcomes. Good luck. Whatever it was, I didn’t do it. So it’s not my fault.
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@daryna94 Yes. But that takes time, effort, and risk. Which—in an immediate gratification, risk averse world—-many people aren’t willing to do. So they take the easy road and just switch partners….or worse.
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@rayzerot No, they don’t. Actual narcissists are rather rare.
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@JishinimaTidehoshi Of course. The point is that men are far more forthright about how much appearance drives attraction for us. Do you really think Brad Pitt would have married crazy-sexy Angelina Jolie if she weren’t Angelina Jolie?? It’s why guys admonish one another about the dangers of thinking with the “little head” rather than the big one.
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@andrewjackson9697 Disagree. I think men have simply stopped holding women accountable in the name of equality. So certain women get away with incredibly immature behavior…and simply blame men for everything. There was this video (by a woman) I saw a few days ago that did a fantastic job of explaining something I realized years ago: Most very beautiful women are NOT very nice people. She nailed it. She basically said that very beautiful women are so used to endless attention and men falling over themselves to give them things…that they fail to grow up. Because the world never demands it from them…until the beauty starts to fade. So these women remain immature because it’s easier to replace people than to honestly relate to them…and it’s easier to replace people than it is to learn to accept the natural ebb and flow of relationships. IOW, He’s no longer exciting. Let me replace him with someone who makes me feel that excitement again. Whereas someone more average will be more incentivized to accept the process and work out problems.
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No. The problem is that people, try to punch above their level of attractiveness. Especially women. So they try to wrestle relationships out of men who would have never gotten into a relationship with them had they met IRW, organically.
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The problem is that women get confused as to who is the customer and who is the salesperson. They are terrible closers, because most believe that they are the CUSTOMER…and it’s the man’s job to sell himself to her. What she doesn’t get is that once she has given him access? She is no longer the customer. She is now trying to sell HIM on a relationship with her. The problem is that she typically thinks she is still the customer, so she stays fixated on trying to get him to meet her needs/wants…rather than trying to sell him on the idea of keeping her around. It’s why so many women get offended when you asked them what value they bring to a relationship (the table). They don’t know…and many of them don’t even really even “get” the question or its relevance… Because society has told them they are so inherently valuable that they feel that all they need to do is simply show up.
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@michaelangst6078 Not really. Operates just like the real world. They get protected from rejection in public…but not later on in private. When the “situationship” runs its course, and the guy gets bored and moves on. Bumble protects them from being approached by unattractive men…but at the price of having to risk that upfront rejection.
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@danielj3010 Women are still women.
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That’s the test….and some people fail it. His point is that you’ll never pass the test at the top unless you prepare for it on the way UP. Because, once you’re there, very few people are going to have the stones to tell you “No.” The bigger problem are the people who have no interest in being told “No”. Like Joker they enjoy the chaos and being able to indulge their impulses.
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“When they approach, we welcome them. When they leave, we do not pursue.” ——Ajahn Chah They only constant in life is change. Impermanence. Permanence is an illusion. The idea that you “need” anyone else because you grown attached, is also an illusion.
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@Volkbrecht But that requires a woman to discipline her hypergamy…and have the ability to ignore the barbs of other women. A colleague of mine did what you suggested. Married her high school sweetheart who was a factory worker at an auto plant, while she went on to college and professional school. Which he helped pay for. He was everything many modern women claim to want. He supported his wife’s ambitions. He did the lion share of the work around the home to offset her greater work hours. My male colleagues? We welcomed him as one of us. He conducted himself honorably and played by the rules, so he earned our respect. Their wives? OMFG!! They were absolutely horrible to this man. They clearly felt that she’d married beneath her station…and they never missed an opportunity to show their disrespect for this guy. They were downright hateful… Which is why we guys say “Ignore what she says, and watch what she responds to.” And…”If you want to see what a woman is really like, watch how she treats a man who she feels has nothing to offer her.” Point: If a woman does what you suggest? Get ready for her friend to go after that guy and do their damndest to sabotage that relationship, “Get rid of him. You can do better, girl….”
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@SallyChanArt Because it’s not true. We don’t care if it’s nice or not…. You’re just telling us about your own biases where he’s concerned. The only difference between this video and most of his content is that it’s specifically targeted towards helping women to understand men, as opposed to the opposite. I suspect you are just more comfortable with truth being spoken about men, than truth being spoken about women.
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@SallyChanArt …and you have multiple disagreeing with you. “Tone policing” is usually a passive-aggressive means of control. Bottom line is that most of this content is directed towards men, and men speak to one another very differently than women do. We are direct and we prioritize accuracy and truthfulness of the other person’s feelings. Psychacks has a talent for being able to do both. To be kind, while also being y very direct and very blunt. If you are a woman, I doubt your issue is his “tone”. You’re just not used to men saying what they think to you that bluntly. Because men either try to avoid conflict with women. He isn’t.
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Yep. Fits. My first GF in college sounds like the woman you described. The behavior she refused to change was her my-way-or-no-way attitude around getting her. She refused to compromise on anything. If it wasn’t what she wanted she just refused to cooperate or compromise. Only I didn’t escalate to anger (my issue at the time…hanging in there and setting boundaries). I left. But I did cheat on her once on my way out. I consider that an indirect and passive-aggressive expression of my anger. Not my finest moment….
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“When they approach? We welcome them. When they leave? We do not pursue.” ——Ajahn Chah.
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@DBTwister It was a bitterly sarcastic cherry….
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Women make the mistake of thinking that men see the world the same way they do. So they think being treated as a casual fling…especially if they can manipulate something out of the guy—-is “getting over” on the guy. Uhh…no. Giving her a place to stay for the night is a small price to pay for no-strings-attached sex….and she’s marked herself as “not relationship material” in his eyes. So…more casual sex please? These are the women who wind up alone and confused as to why men treat them badly and won’t commit to them. Let’s see: They reward the men who treat them poorly with sex…and they turn off the guys looking for LTRs by not being selective about who they sleep with. (Having sex just so she doesn’t have to pay for a hotel or ask an actual friend for a place to stay? Seriously? 🤢)
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@chelsy2255 Take your own advice. You’re the one running around insulting random people online, and spinning feminists victim narratives, in an effort to make yourself feel better. Good luck. The seductiveness of victimhood is that nothing is ever your fault. But at the cost of giving away your real power to someone else. Taking responsibility reclaims that power over your own life. But at the cost of being able to wrap yourself in victimhood. If you don’t like your life…look in the mirror. Your choices and actions created it.
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@ShimmerBodyCream Fair enough, and the data only speaks to a tendency when looking at a population from 35,000 ft. It isn’t individual destiny.
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@janick01ify Everything comes with a price. If you marry for money, you will eventually earn every penny of it…. There are no free lunches to be had.
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@annaandrea8320 SIGN language. Shame. Guilt. Insults. And a Need to be Right. When you break out those emotional weapons it means that you are losing the debate on the merits and are resorting yo attacking the person in order to get them to shut up. Unfortunately, I have to actually care what you think of me for that to work. Sorry. Don’t care. Have a nice weekend….
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@kathyh.648 One because I think some women run on emotion and don’t really know what they actually respond to. Others find that what they are drawn to changes. Still others simply don’t want to give a straight answer so they gaslight people into thinking this is way more complicated than it is.
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@MVProfits This…. Or if they wind up with more than one, they figure out that they are the one with the problem.
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Because that usually doesn’t have to be stated. It’s just assumed….
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@BS_Profile Oh he said it alright. Just being a trained therapist, he knows HOW to say it.
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I think you overlooked a sixth option: Someone flips over the game board!! Large numbers of unpaired women leaves large numbers of unpaired men. Usually with little to no sexual access. Especially at the bottom of society. These men have less and less of a reason to support the social status quo. If women are allowed to increasingly turn themselves into a harem for those few top men? The more likely becomes an ugly backlash against female (sexual) freedom. Similar to what we have seen in some Islamic cultures in reaction to modernity and it’s values. That backlash is already starting. The reversal of Roe v. Wade. The kneecapping of Affirmative Action (the greatest beneficiaries of which were women). Hinting by the SCOTUS that they may go after contraceptive access…and the rewriting of divorce laws in some red states. Hypergamy evolved to function with a limited set of options. If women refuse to discipline that hypergamic impulse. Radicals and autocrats may impose that discipline upon them from the outside. 🙁
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@ Disagree. That is not everyone’s definition of “interesting “. The problem is too much emphasis on how people feel and not enough on how they are treated. That emotional rollercoaster ends in healthy relationships…and ends the relationship in unhealthy ones. Because it’s painful and exhausting.
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@brianmeen2158 This. If she’s happy and reasonably healthy, emotionally? She’ll do these things without realizing she’s doing it. It’s part of the human dance of courtship.
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@elchucapablas They don’t stop working. They point is that you can’t have everything, and if you try to hold out for it you’ll likely wind up with nothing. So if you want to be happy then you need to make yourself content with what matters most to you. Which two of the three are most important to you?
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@CFChristopherB That’s what some Black Pillers seem to think.
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@psychacks Or actually get to know them in the first place…
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@ Disagree on that, unless you’re dealing exclusively with twenty- and early-thirty something’s…
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Disagree. Game can make you more attractive. The problem is that it takes time, effort, and commitment to develop it….so many guys don’t want to put in the effort to figure out what game looks like for them. …and many young women lack the social skills these days to even appreciate game.
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@Dru2maBoii No it doesn’t, but you’re free to keep telling yourself that it does, and keep moving the goalposts. So therefore it’s not worth the effort to build a good life. I come to accept that some people need to convince themselves that they have no control over their lives, because it absolves them (in their minds) of responsibility for what’s in them.
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