Comments by "Smoking Crab" (@smokingcrab2290) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. Whoever cares the least while also prioritizing themselves has the most power
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  2. It's funny how women respect men who are their bosses because money is on the table. But when a man is her lover and the marriage is on the table, the woman doesn't care at all
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  3. Hardest part for me is dealing with boredom and loneliness. I could be fulfilling all of my responsibilities, meeting my goals, etc. But it's all just so boring and lonely. Even as a married man I get lonely in my marriage. Once you have kids your relationship with your wife essentially ends. You just become a glorified atm and taxi. It's gets old real fast. Objectively I have a good life and I'm a good dude. I just get bored and lonely. I get tired of it all.
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  4. It's truly amazing how fucked the modern world is. All the dreams of actual acceptance and romance I had are almost entirely destroyed because how modern vvomen are. Marriage itself has jaded me beyond anything I'd ever dream of. When I first got married I was the happiest man on earth. Then it all changed over just 2 short years.
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  5. For real. I'm so tired of being treated like I'm not a human being. It's about the heart connection, but people are completely ignoring that these days it seems. I'm so tired of always having to strive to be in the top 1% of a pyramid scheme I didn't create, all to impress people who couldn't give less of a shit about me.
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  6. A woman will show you who she really is after 3 months or so. And when she does, believe her.
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  7. For every good man in a relationship, there a woman who hates him for it
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  8. The thing about meeting women is you need an actual real life reason to talk to them besides how attractive they are. That's the only real way connections actually happen. You need some kind of mechanism to relate to each other with. It's even the same for your friends and family. If there's nothing to relate to each other about then you simply cannot connect. And the kicker is she has to WANT to relate to you.
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  9. Women need boundaries. Ever since I took my balls back and stopped over-giving my time, money, emotions, etc being my genuine self, things have turned around. It makes you way more confident. I learned that a lack of confidence is actually not related to a lack of ability or lack of attractive qualities. It's actually more so related to a lack of self respect and boundaries. Men who approach women and try to get the women to like them are demonstrating an utter lack of boundaries. They're saying "i know nothing about you, but will you like me please?" and it reeks of desperation. You need to act in a way that says "im open to a connection, but only if you show me you're worth it". This is why i only approach women who genuinely seem like nice people. I don't just approach if they're hot. Hotness is so overplayed and so abundant. Find a girl whose both attractive and can give you some kind of a heart connection. And even if you find her, always keep your boundaries up. Without boundaries you're useless as a man. You have to uphold your personal power and respect at all times and never give a woman the power to hurt you or take from you.
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  10. There's a difference between healthy fear and manipulative fear. If you took vows, you should fear breaking them. If you love someone, you should fear hurting them. If you built a life with someone, you should fear destroying it.
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  11. It's a miserable life to work yourself into being an object of adoration for women who are not worthy of admiration themselves
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  12. @tombe5791, its what makes YOUR world go round.
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  13. @jehriasean6379, I never met a woman who didn't take advantage of my compassion
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  14. I get so fucking lonely by myself. I want to feel loved and I want to give love. Sure I can occupy myself and live alone out of necessity. But I very much prefer to be connected with authentic, real, healthy people. Because when I am, it actually enhances my ability to love others.
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  15. And me as a man, I have no problem providing. I want to provide and to serve. It's my purpose. The problem is that the woman gets to be judge, jury, and executioner if I don't meet her every demand. I'm a human, not a magic genie
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  16. Now even average women act like they are 9's and 10's.
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  17. Because bullied are cowards. Even if they win the fight, they will think to themselves "this punching bag isn't worth the struggle.. I'll find a new one"
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  18. Winning to lose is a good way to put it. We work tirelessly to level up only to be betrayed. All I ever wanted was to build a secure and peaceful, enjoyable life while enjoying romantic love. That's it. Society is more prosperous now than ever. Romantic love should be so easy to find and keep, but the opposite is true.
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  19. Vvomen are so remarkably good at pretending they have no problems
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  20. @LM-nn7sg, please tell me all about male nature you know so much about
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  21. Yeah but the man is not actually leading. He's just staying one step ahead of all of her bullshit desires. He's nothing but a glorified atm and butler for her. And if he falters once, he's in the doghouse. It's a constant Neverending uphill struggle.
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  22. She's jealous of you and didn't want you to make her feel even worse. She was putting you down so that you share her misery
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  23. That's a massive cope. You're paying for sex. Their going away is the only part that's actually free.
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  24. @maromorostar6621, being jacked goes a lot farther than money does.
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  25. If sex isn't important, then why do all women sexually objectify themselves for attention and power? Why is sex portrayed in literally all media? Why do people even have sex if it's not important?
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  26. If sex isn't on the table, there's literally no point to the romantic relationship. Without sex, you're just friends.
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  27. She probably has cheated already
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  28. I just never liked the idea of paying a woman to do something that she should want to do with me for free. It's just as sad as paying a woman to talk to me or watch a movie with me or something basic anyone who enjoys my company would want to do. But I digress. The fact is that vvomen will always use sex in a transactional way whether you're married, dating, or paying for escorts.
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  29. >mentally stable >women Pick one
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  30. @manifest2203 A woman's true place is under submission. Meaning she acknowledges your authority. She can do this for her boss, but not for her husband? Why is that?
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  31. @perieven6357, <-- found the woman
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  32. It's because Men actually seek to change and they actually seek to improve and get better. Whereas women simply seek control. And they are hoping that the therapy session is a means of that control
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  33. Think dating is a job? Wait till you get married. Then it's not even a job. It's a prison sentence.
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  34. @elainer8288, funny how when the man cheats he is demonized for it, but if the woman cheats literally everyone blames the man and backs the woman up
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  35. I want to pour my love into a woman who appreciates it. I want to be deeply known and to know her in a deeper way and really appreciate her heart. That's what I want. I want that awesome soul bond that weathers all the storms of life's ups and downs because you really appreciate the person on a deeper level, and they feel the same about you.
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  36. @shaymalchione809, it's funny how women say "i dont want to be his mother" yet they are the ones who live for nagging, disrespect, and drama. They call the man a child, treat him like he's lesser, and then when the man dishes it back.. She's surprised 🤡
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  37. Just be attractive Don't be unattractive It all boils down to these
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  38. The answer to this is radical honesty. Tell. The girl how inconsistent she is and tell her youre not going to give energy to that side of her. Tell her if this pisses her off that's fine she can be mad all she wants bur you're going to live however is healthy and rewarding for you, and that you want the same for her. And if she wants to leave then let her go. You'll be okay. Whoever cares the least and prioritizes themselves has the most power.
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  39. What's funny is in my marriage I'm the romantic one. I'm the one to texts, writes love notes, touches, asks questions, wants dates, etc. My wife dgafs about all of it. And when she disrespects me she's entitieled to it. And when we have sex, it's like lights are on but nobody's home. She doesn't like to kiss or look at me. And yes, I help her with chores. I make all the money so she can stay at home with our one child. I'm in good shape. I'm good looking. I'm a solid 7/10 on a bad day. I have a six pack. She's overweight. Insecure. Terrible at interpersonal communication. I hate living with her.
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  40. I don't want her to just desire me. I want her to genuinely care about me as a human being and have empathy and compassion for me. If she doesn't have these I'm out.
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  41. It's only true because we let it be. I won't tolerate this bullshit anymore. Even if it costs me my marriage
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  42. @gawainjones9612, you are wrong dude. Objectively they have it way easier. The only reason it's ever "hard" for them is because of their own fragility and stupidity.
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  43. Problem is, all the ways a man is competent when he's out at work away from home is invisible to the woman. So when he gets home, all she cares about is what she sees right now inf front of her. And she will nag you and criticize you all the time if you don't do things her way. She will tear you down rather than be your teammate
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  44. It's not a man's responsibility to "get a woman in the mood" She either likes him and wants sex with him or she doesn't. Unfortunately after marriage, women use the "im not in the mood" line to get the man to chase her and make him do endless moving goalpost things for her.
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  45. I don't understand how you say this. The older I got the more I found younger women were not into me. You gotta be rich.
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  46. @thomasjefferson6334, Christian women are no different than non Christian ones
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  47. Power absolves you of all norms
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  48. @marcusmcgraw3519, I think the point is to use social dynamics to your advantage, not be a people pleaser.
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  49. My wife is one of them. I'm more competent than her in pretty much all areas of life. And I do it almost effortlessly. She puts so much effort in and stresses herself out and I still yeild better results than her. And when I show her how to do anything she hates me for it. And then she tears me down and micromanages me. Acts like she's smarter and better than me. She's clueless. She's obese. Can't get a job. Hopelessly dependent on her parents. Our son hits her and acts insane around her. But around me he's cool as a cucumber and well behaved. He also has more fun with me and I think all of these things makes her jealous. She should be proud but it's like she's insecure and can't handle my success because she's been raised to be a girl boss by her narcissist dad.
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  50. Same situation here. My wife has already left me 4 times. We've been separated for 4 weeks now and every night I just scream out of anger. I pray to God to take my rage away. I can't stand this pain. This woman has ruined my life. All because of disagreements
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