Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. I wish I knew this 10 years ago. Young millennials and Gen Z don't know how lucky they are hearing this type of practical information before they make any costly lifelong mistakes.
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  2. I think the fundamental problem with this video is that if she is disrespecting you she doesn't want to be with you. She doesn't disrespect her boss because she wants her job and the money. Disrespect is the first step on the journey to the end of the relationship.
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  3. The problem with this video is that it can only be understood by reasonable and logical people. The other 50% of the population will have a meltdown if they have to take accountability for their failures. I expect plenty of shaming and disingenuous comments if this video goes viral.
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  4. Great example. Just to extend it slightly. There are also lots of other boats and other women around. The woman chooses one captain and one boat, and the journey starts. But the woman can see all the other captains, boats and women storm off head. All of a sudden the woman starts to get angry at her captain and regrets her choice. An empty boat with a new exciting captain pulls up at night and she jumps onto the new exciting boat taking at least half the fuel and money with her. The first captain's boat stops and begins to sink, and she sails off into the sunset with the new guy and the money and the fuel. This is pretty much the state of modern marriage today.
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  5. If there were no problems with divorce law, alimony, division of assets, legal fees, child custody, parental alienation, heated co-parenting, biased family court judges, etc these RP channels would go extinct. The reason these RP channels are doing so well is because millions of men are suffering and can relate to the content.
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  6. "You can do anything to a woman, except bore her"
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  7. Genius episode. Husbands are taller because women select taller men. Husbands earn more because women select richer men. Husbands live longer because women select healthier men. Women do not make husbands taller, do not maker husbands richer, and do not slow down the aging process in husbands.
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  8. The human courtship ritual is very a delicate dance between talking but not talking so much that you out her off. Working hard and being ambitious, but not so ambitious that you don't have time for her. Being a dominant alpha male but still being emotionally vulnerable. Being intelligent but being stupid enough to marry. Good luck, gentlemen.
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  9. "Men value love while Women love value" and "Men are in love. Women are in business" are phrases often used in the manosphere. In reality, these phrases may actually relate to the biological fact that men are just trying to access mating opportunities with women, and women are just trying to ensure their own and their kids survival.
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  10. Avoid ABCDEF people (Argumentative, Bossy, Combative, Disagreeable, Emotional and Fatherless). They will so much drama and chaos into your life long term. Some people need a therapist not a spouse.
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  11. This is why marriage is so dangerous and why women generally push for marriage. Marriage is essentially the transfer of power, leverage and wealth to the woman. She no longer has to fear her man leaving because she has the power, weight and venom of the divorce courts in her favour. If anything, he has to now fear her.
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  12. I feel bad for Chad and Tyrone sometimes. It must be hard being inundated with numerous options, each option competing against the other, trying to give him the maximum amount of unforgettable pleasure, and whatever he decides, all the options that he throws away will always yearn to be with him (alpha widow).
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  13. Let her monkey branch. Let her be another man's problem. When she monkey branches, you know you have dodged a bullet and the next guy will be saddled with your former, burnt out, disgruntled employee. The only issues comes if you were married and have kids with your disgruntled employee, then you are going to get taken to court and lose the money, house and kids. RIP husbands.
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  14. "i don't play games" = I chased after Chad and Tyrone in my 20's. I gave myself completely to them and got nothing in return. I'm now traumatized, in my 30's and running out of time. I want a stable, dad bod, beta provider who I can marry without a pre-nup so I have the leverage. Take it or I'm moving onto my next target.
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  15. 7:25 such an important point. It is better to know ASAP if the woman you are dealing with gets Aggressive, Bossy, Combative, and Disagreeable (ABCD) when things don't go her way. If she goes ABCD when you say "no" or disappoint her, expect her to take your money, house and kids in divorce. ABCD women are divorce material. And if you ignore the red flags, guess what 9:27
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  16. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell
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  17. It is happening very slowly and quietly, but more and more men (particularly divorced men, men who are related divorced men, sons of divorced men, etc) are realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze. It is not worth getting into a relationship/marriage where the money, house and kids are treated like 1st class citizens and the husband/father is treated like a 2nd class citizen. Not just by the wife but also by Karen the divorce judge who will take away his money (alimony/child support), house and kids away from him. Relegating him to renting a tiny apartment/moving back in with his parents, and seeing his kids on the weekends (assuming the kids have not already been turned against him).
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  18. She has to have genuine burning desire for you. And the only way she is going to have desire for you is if you have value, e.g. good looks (genetic value), good money (resource value), good emotional connection (psychological value), and good lifestyle/frame (social status value). Mate attraction and retention boils down to value.
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  19. I think that people that are emotional and start trauma bonding at the beginning probably have avoidant/anxious attachment styles. Its a bit like the shooting star analogy. The stars that burn the brightest, fizzle out the quickest. Ideally, both you and your date should be emotionally stable and have secure attachment styles.
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  20. Orion has managed to reach enlightenment by avoiding the well trodden path of marriage, divorce, losing his house, losing his kids, being on child support for 18 years, etc. By avoiding the classic traps and traumas of life, and maximizing on the right areas like health, wealth, meditation, education he's heading towards nirvana.
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  21. In a marriage, who generally moans/complains, threatens divorce, and has the better IG. In nearly all marriages its the wives who have the power. They can go to divorce court and take a husband's money, house and kids. Marriage is one of the quickest ways a man can neuter himself. You're giving your wife a shotgun to use against you at any time in the next 50 years.
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  22. She's planning to get back out there on the sexual market place. It is interesting to see how earlier some people start planning for divorce.
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  23. "You are never destroyed by anyone except yourself." - Friedrich Nietzsche. Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. The 5 stages of grief (1. denial, 2. anger, 3. bargaining, 4. depression and then finally 5. acceptance). Time is a great healer for our emotional wounds. On a different note, the value of others book is a masterpiece.
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  24. Online is over taking real life. Hence Amazon (rather than stores), Google (rather than libraries), OF (rather than divorce), work from home (rather than offices). Kids who have seen their moms struggle as single moms and/or dad getting financially destroyed in divorce/ child support/ custody, are growing up and opting out of this BS.
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  25. When the disrespect starts, its time to leave. Disrespect shows 2 things: 1. she is not emotionally stable and is going to do negative behaviours, e.g. moan, complain and harass you. 2. the reason she hasn't left is because she hasn't found a better financial replacement yet (but the clock is ticking). Your only power is to walk away.
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  26. Probably the 5 major types of value men have to offer women are: 1. physical looks/genetics, 2. financial, 3. compatible psychological/personality, 4. interesting lifestyle, and 5. status. If you lack in one of these departments you will have to compensate in other department, e.g. ugly rich guy, or short funny guy, etc.
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  27. Marriage is a mating strategy for high value but low attractive males. I had to pay the price of marriage, to get physical intimacy, but ended up losing my money, house and child, 7 years later in divorce. Chad and Tyrone are playing life in easy mode. They don't have to jump over the marriage hurdle in order to get what they want.
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  28. Given that women tend to date hypergamously, e.g. they prefer older, wiser, more knowledgeable, more exciting, more interesting, more dominant, and more wealthier guys, it makes sense for the woman to step into his frame. Consequently, it is the job of the man to cultivate a frame so superior it is worth her while to leave her frame.
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  29. Women know how to get men. Look attractive, be nice, and give out physical intimacy. The problem women have is to trying to lockdown the perfect man. A Chad who is monogamous, a bad boy who will be a good dad, a rich guy who has lots of free time, a confident guy who is not cocky, a masculine guy who is emotionally vulnerable.
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  30. Its impressive how logical and sensible women can be are in terms of their ability to assess and choose based on value, benefit and hypergamy. Its sad how illogical, emotional, and delusional men can be in terms of thinking they will buck the divorce trend, get married without a prenup, and thinking "she loves me for me".
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  31. For men in their 20s, there is nothing they want more than a relationship. But for men in their 30s and 40s in this RP space, getting that wife or baby momma has become the single biggest mistake of their life. You'll regret if you do approach her. You'll regret if you don't approach her. Just remember, she's not your girl, its just your turn.
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  32. This is so true for women with an anxious attachment style. Silence drives them crazy. But drama, chaos and toxicity makes them feel alive and loved. Sick but true.
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  33. All men pay. But Chad and Tyrone get the biggest discount. The scarcity-minded beta male will have to pay the most, i.e. marriage. The scarcity-minded beta male will also lose the most, i.e. his money, house and kids in divorce. Chad and Tyrone get the best treatment (same night lay) for the least amount of investment.
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  34. The psychology of thinking versus doing. Some even say 1 hour of doing is better than 10 hours of thinking. I think of it like a feedback loop. Action > Review > Improve > Action. In business I think this is called the "fail fast" principle.
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  35. Summary: Chad and Tyrone pay the least but get back the best treatment because they are attractive. Husbands pay the most and get back the worst treatment because wives are not attracted to them and have such unrealistically high expectations. Conclusion: just be a Chad or Tyrone. And if you are not a Chad or Tyrone, do not get married, because you put yourself at risk of being severely punished for not meeting her expectations.
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  36. All men pay. Beta male husbands pay the most. Chad and Tyrone pay virtually nothing other than wasting their time. The average punter or "John" pays by the hour or until completion. Regardless of how each of these guys pay, they are all paying one way or another. You have to pay to play. This is how the game works. There is a cost to doing business.
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  37. I can relate to reason 2, i.e. a lot of low value men, will think all they can get and all they deserve is a train wreck, and that they should be lucky to even get a train wreck. If you are a young thirsty man with zero options, it is extremely difficult to have standards and turn down a train wreck. Its sounds opportunistic and desperate but it is true.
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  38. Women are not mad at the advice, i.e. the way to a man's heart is through his trousers. Women are just angry that you are revealing their grift. Women are just angry that you are revealing their true strategy because it reduces their leverage and power. They have been rumbled and exposed.
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  39. I think this video perfectly exposes women's true nature and the way they see relationships. Women want financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids. In order to get financial security (i.e. marriage) and kids they know that they have to unfortunately deal with a man. So, in their 30's, they starting threating "don't waste my time", i.e. give me financial security and kids, or I'm leaving. Sad but true.
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  40. You don't necessarily need money to get women but you better have something to compensate, e.g. confidence, humour, intelligence, chaRIZZma, looks, potential, ambition, pipe game, status, etc. And if you don't live up to your potential or ambition she will punish you for it in divorce and child custody court.
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  41. If you have to convince her and game her, she is not worth the headache. Self improve, be your best self, and let any willing buyers come. Be an employer and review / accept applications from women to come work for you. Don't be desperate. Set the frame and terms of the relationship. Take it or leave it attitude.
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  42. Mic drop at 2:00 . The relationship is the prize for a man. The relationship is a means to an end for a woman, e.g. she actually wants kids, to build an empire, have great IG pics, have a luxury lifestyle, etc. This psychologist is nailing it. OMG. It all makes sense now.
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  43. I wouldn't be surprised if Bond gets cancelled for being toxically masculine. He fights rather than sitting down and talking things out, he is polygamous rather than monogamous, he obsesses about work, he's a perennial Batchelor and heart breaker, etc. I would love to see James Bond take on a divorce judge. I think that would be one fight where he loses.
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  44. I think this is where the phrase "the juice isn't worth the squeeze" comes from. Imagine working like a donkey just to win the approval of a depreciating asset. Is it really the job of a man to keep the woman in a constant state of happiness?
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  45. "not everybody wins, not everybody lives happily ever after, a decent adulthood requires the willingness and ability to successfully compete in the game of life" - Dr Orion Taraban.
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  46. This is why "The Wall" is important. Without The Wall, women could end up never making a decision about who to reproduce with. But as women approach The Wall their hand is forced and they have to decide: 1. be single and "happy" but pine for Chad, or 2. settle downwards with a beta provider who they'll end up divorcing in 10 years time.
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  47. I think the transactional nature of female friendships, e.g. listening to a friend moan and complain about her husband and in exchange you get that friend to come to your baby shower, is what makes them more consistent than male friendships. A bit like an employee needing to turn up to work to get that money.
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  48. I think this PhD has a few other videos explaining the many women don't want relationships. They want what the relationship can provide, e.g. money, kids, home, etc. This fact explains why many women want marriage and why they also want divorce (i.e. extraction of the money, house and kids from the husband).
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  49. This underlines the importance of choosing someone who is mentally and emotionally calm and stable, and who can handle the truth. It also underlines the importance of not getting married, because marriage introduces complacency and boredom into the relationship, and makes it difficult to tell the truth without getting financially punished.
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  50. This reminds me of an Alain de Botton lecture on the psychology/philosophy of love. A lot of people don't know how to love. People love too optimistically and expect everyday to be perfect. When, in reality, things like love and marriage will often mean a lot of sadness as the person you fall in love with will never be as perfect as you wished they were. It is interesting that a lot of people are good enough to marry, buy a house with and have kids with, but are not good enough to prevent divorce proceedings. In situations like this, what were really the motivations of the marriage in the first place?
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