Comments by "marriage causes divorce" (@marriagecausesdivorce7540) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. I guess the conclusion here is don't date masculine women. Date women who are less aggressive and combative and disagreeable, and who are more calmer, tolerant and peaceful. Problem is, the women you marry in your 30's in a different beast to the women who divorces you in her 40's. So, I guess another conclusion is not to give up control/ power/ leverage, e.g. do not get married, or get married with a pre-nup, or don't have so many kids you get screwed on child support, etc.
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  2. 1. Thought: I got screwed over in divorce, and lost my money, house and kid. 2. Emotion: Regret/anger at getting married. 3. Adaptive Behaviour: Never getting married again. 4. Run this emotion through the regret/anger-specific protocol to confirm behaviour and allow the emotion to fade with time. W Dr Taraban.
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  3. Always remember, she is not your girl, its just your turn. Most guys are too low value, live in scarcity and have oneitis which is very unattractive. This video is also excellent reasoning of why marriage can be so dangerous and divorce rates can be so high. She now has the leverage and power, and will probably misbehave as a result.
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  4. Relationships require sacrifice. If one of the parties thinks they are above sacrifice and only wants the benefits, either that party will never get into a relationship because they are delusional, or any relationship they get into will be short term as they will end up highly dissatisfied. Relationships are not for everyone.
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  5. Alexander Grace is a great person to interview. Would have been great to hear more about his view on the difficulties of long term relationships, especially when juggling kids, etc. To some extent, getting the girl is the relatively easy part. The hard part is keeping the girl and navigating things like boredom, novelty, changes in power dynamics after kids, etc.
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  6. “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” Thomas Sowell. Applies to human mating and reproduction just as much as it applies to economics. Educated women who refuse to settle will find themselves single and childless. I think this is what is driving the decline in marriage and birth rates. Educated women want it ALL.
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  7.  @evaphillips2102  Actually, 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate (60%) than first marriages (50%). And 3rd marriages have a higher divorce rate (70%) than second marriages (60%). So women just move from one set of problems to a new set of problems. There's no such thing as the perfect man who is going to solve all her problems. Even if there was a perfect man who solved all her problems, she would then complain she has no problems and is now bored.
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  8. 8:34 loneliness, unfulfillment and undiscipline are not diseases. Maybe simple lifestyle changes likes getting more exercise, cutting down on alcohol, giving up smoking, eating healthily, socializing, and working towards a fulfilling goal would help.
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  9. Nice guys who give her everything normally finish last. While some women will keep going back to the bad boys because they are addicted to the emotional rollercoaster of the highs and lows (i.e. disappointment). Do not be boring as this will not excite her and leave her feeling dead inside. Feminine love is consumptive so keep feeding her that spice.
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  10. Couple's therapy is a bit like taking an elderly dog to the vet and expecting the vet to breathe new life into the elderly dog. Sometimes its kinder just to move on and stop letting everyone suffer. People need to have healthier and more realistic expectations of relationships. Some relationships are not meant to last forever.
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  11. I was that beta provider nice guy who paid a premium (i.e. marriage) in order to smash, and ended up losing my money, house and kid in divorce. I wish I was a Chad or Tyrone. And I wish I knew all this stuff 10+ years ago.
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  12. Most of the time, average men are applying to work at "Physical Intimacy Inc" where the women is the CEO. Men are generally applying to just be the plumber because they want to lay pipe. The women will always be the CEO as she has IG, she has lots of DM's and options, and the family courts will give her the money, house and kids on divorce.
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  13. One detail I would add is things like religion, cultural traditions, Hollywood, etc tips the scales in women's favour. Because of religion, cultural traditions, and Hollywood, even a lot of guys go into dating wanting marriage as this is what they have been socially conditioned to want. Thank God for people like Dr Taraban to help even the playing field.
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  14. If you are a beta male, in the first 7 years women are not paying, they are actually lending. But once you're married with kids, expect her to want more of her currency while refusing to give you your currency because she has the leverage, power and backing of family court. If you refuse, expect her to recover this loan as part of the divorce settlement.
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  15. Wrong. Women don't approach because they want to maintain leverage. They don't want to seem desperate. They want to be viewed and treated as the prize.
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  16. The longer a relationship goes on for, the more problems it will encounter, e.g. boredom, someone deteriorating / improving, cheating, mental health problems, arguments about the kids / family life, etc. Solution: stop expecting romantic relationships to last 50 years. It is just unrealistic in this day and age. "She's not your girl, its just your turn".
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  17. Maybe I am wrong. But in my experience, many women (particularly those with an anxious attachment style) love the drama and chaos. They feel most alive and loved when things get toxic. Some even want to see the man lose it so they know they have to power to manipulate and control him, and send him to jail if necessary.
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  18. This is such a great point. Getting a relationship, marriage, and wife can end up making you extremely poor, sad and alone. Many of the most lonely people are actually husbands with a aggressive, bossy, combative and disagreeable wife.
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  19. Just to be clear, even if you do have good looks, money and status, and you also are a good lifestyle and emotional fit for her, you can still end up divorced 7 years down the line, as women reserve the right to change their minds once you have bought her the diamond ring, house and given her kids. She'll probably get emotionally bored and want to move onto a new exciting guy. RIP non-MGTOW's.
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  20.  @santafilipina9020  For some reason, women tend to love these narcissitic, bad boy types. My only reasoning is that its a demonstration of higher value (DHV). There is obvious evolutionary benefits to women who mate with a male who is of a higher value. Its genetics.
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  21.  @CalinGilea  if you are married with kids, it is almost impossible to leave a venomous wife unless you want to receive her fury in divorce court. So many men have no idea that they have thrown away their biggest trump card by getting married.
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  22. 💯% nailed it. Disrespect if a sign that she no longer sees any value in you hence the disrespect. Its the first step on the journey to the end of the relationship.
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  23.  @HelloWorld-cq1sq  women want excitement in their 20's. "Girls just wanna have fun".
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  24. 8:18 I think the attachment style reason given here is the single best explanation as to why a women with a low body count represents a better mate choice. Its great to hear Dr Taraban going into attachment styles. I do agree that a powerful climax is important but, for me, secure attachment style is fundamental for LTRs.
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  25. The PsycHacks sauce tastes so good. Pause. Creating is very important for sure. RIP whoever sent PsyHacks an angry email about this content. This guy is the best red pill psychologist on You Tube.
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  26.  @TheKarlslok  I think Jonathan is saying focus on being the best version of yourself for you and your own purposes (not for a woman). I don't think Jonathan is saying marry, co-habitat or have kids with women (unless you are prepared to take that risk of being financially and emotionally ruined after a few years).
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  27. I am pretty sure 50% of the population is about to shame Orion for being "emotionally unavailable" or having an "avoidant attachment style" for talking about an office/man cave. Its a fine line between being co-dependent (spending an excessive amount of time with each) vs interdependent (spending a healthy amount of time with each other).
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  28. We need more videos like this. Good solid practical tips. Men need to try to create excitement and wonder in their relationships. Don't just confess your undying love and beg for marriage after the 1st date. She'll get bored of you, the stability and security real quick. You've to know how to play the game of love. Its kinda annoying but necessary.
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  29. Nothing to gain but everything to lose (money, child support, house and kids).
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  30. The fact you had to make compromises means that it wasn't equal. She was in the employer position.
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  31. Even if you are a Chad or Tyrone, you will always be put in the placeholder boyfriend or placeholder husband category. Once she has extracted your value (e.g. cute babies, marriage without a pre-nup, good D, etc) and once she is bored, she will move on. She is not your girl, it is just your turn, gentlemen.
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  32. Time is a great healer. Start striving for new goals while in your trauma and then hopefully that ends the chapter on your trauma and starts a new chapter of success and happiness.
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  33.  @carefulcarpenter  The days of 50 year marriages have long gone. Unfortunately, times have changed, and many people just see marriage as a way to get babies and financial security on divorce. Its sad but true. A lot of these millennials will be lucky to see 15 years of marriage let alone 45 years. No wonder marriage rates and birth rates are at an all time low. In the UK 50% of marriages have gone extinct (there used to be 400k marriages/year in the 1970s but now there are only 200k marriages/year). Marriage will go the way of the floppy disk and VHS tape.
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  34. This is a supply and demand issue. There's lots of single/childless women but very few high value men (HVM) worth being with. If women can spot a HVM before he becomes a HVM (i.e. spot potential) they will need to fight off less competition. They may also need to accept a HVM will exercise options and probably not want to get married.
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  35. On the one hand, men will begin to learn about these issues if more guys were willing to talk about their divorces, child custody battles, losing the house, etc. However most guys are too ashamed to talk about their loses (renting a tiny apartment post divorce or moving back in with their parents). However with things like the red pill, manosphere, MGTOW, etc there is a glimmer of hope that some men will learn before it is too late. Although this will take time as ultimately guys are hypnotised when they see beauty.
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  36.  @hdshjs  a lot of traditional people and religious people work based on this custom. You must be married first. I am surprised at your shameful outburst.
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  37. In order to avoid the trap of boredom and complacency, it makes a lot of sense to avoid marriage and co-habitation. Marriage and co-habitation is just asking for trouble because this creates stability and security which then in turn creates boredom, complacency and resentment.
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  38. 1. Aim for a lofty goal, e.g. starting a family 2. Do it on your terms, e.g. don't get married or get a pre-nup 3. Take your time, e.g. don't worry about age 30 as being a deadline. It takes as long as it takes to build yourself up, find someone, vet someone, etc. Enjoy the process
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  39. This is what Orion's book is all about. You have to offer more value (a lot more value) to her than she offers back (hypergamy/Briffault's law) and she needs to be happy with the value proposition on offer. If you are good looking, she will probably give you a discount on the amount of value you have to offer.
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  40. 💯% facts. you will be all over tiktok, along with the gym bros who are checking out the gym bunnies.
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  41. Great point. This is probably why simping back fires long term. Simps pedestalize women and the end up losing their money, house and kids 10 years later in divorce.
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  42.  @Kenny-Ross  the dark truth is that many wives see marriage as something to get 1. babies and 2. financial security from. The husband is normally number 4 or 5 on the priority list after the wedding party, diamond ring and honeymoon. Unfortunately no one tells us this before marriage/kids.
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  43.  @SoloRenegade  divorce laws. Once the husband and wife are married, she holds all the cards and has all the leverage. She can take his money, house and kids. He can't do the same based on the laws.
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  44. Low value male lifecycle. 20's: Ignored by women. 30's: Finally get married and have kids because your a nice guy provider. 40's: Get destroyed in divorce and lose your money, house and kids. 50's: Try to rebuild your life and finances while being in custody and child support battles. 60's: Finally get to live your life on your terms :)
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  45. Thank you so much, Dr Taraban. You should have a million subscribers. Everyone needs to hear your message. You are so right, talking can potentially make things worse as talking can become a punishment. 6:20 "Good relationships are about enjoying who your partner is, not about changing them into who you want them to be".
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  46. This comment from Khan is actually better than the actual video. If she is making you wait, she isn't interest. She just wants to get other things out of the guy, e.g. marriage, financial security, child support, babies, etc. Women will generally be intimate with an alpha on the first night but won't marry him if he is not a good financial bet.
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  47. Marriage creates security and stability. Security and stability creates boredom and complacency. Boredom and complacency creates divorce. Marriage causes divorce. Do not get married, people. Your spouse will not be grateful and will take your money, house and kids in divorce. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Not your spouse, just your turn.
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  48. This is 100% correct. A woman often creates an unrealistic (or perhaps delusional) lifestyle in her head and then gets extremely angry and frustrated at her husband if he doesn't live up to those expectations. Either way, it is a win-win for her. If she gets the lifestyle, then great, she's won. If she doesn't get the lifestyle, then she will divorce him and take his money, house and kids, which is another win for her.
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  49. 💯% nailed it. Disrespect only seeps in when she doesn't want you anymore. This video should really be on why disrespect if the first step on the road to the end of the relationship.
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  50. This is probably the best comment I have read. It gets to the heart of the issue. If she is being disrespectful she probably doesn't even like you in the first place (maybe she just likes your income or car). Unfortunately, its time to cut and run rather than suffer in a nightmare marriage.
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