Comments by "Leo" (@Leoo117) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. @Kazeshini25663  Because we all deserve it because we are all capable of achieving the things that make us happy. Anyone that says otherwise is coming from a fearful perspective that says they will never get what they want. When any of us don't feel good enough, it's a fear deep down that we are experiencing, and if we give into that fear, we give up, and therefore make the belief that we are not good enough valid for OURSELVES. We validate our false belief. That's called a self-fulfilling prophecy. If we FACE that fear and realize that it's OK if things don't work out, we'll be able to accept it and keep going, and learn what we might have done wrong, and then try again with a new opportunity with our new adjustments until we get it right. Having the humility to do that will help us adjust our perspectives also, and find that we are good enough to get the things we want, and it was actually always within our grasp. Even if we fail at first, we just learn and adjust our approach for next time. Everyone is capable of this. We are all good enough because we are all capable of growing and changing. Those who choose to stick to that fear of not being good enough will prevent themselves from growing. It takes a humble attitude to free ourselves from that.
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  2. Of course. A man that is really interested in you will find time for you. He will do it without ignoring his responsibilities. You don't want a man that will give in to unreasonable demands and turn his life upside down for you, but you want one that lets you know how special you are to him by making time for you out of his busy schedule. There is a balance there. No one should withhold affection, but everyone must have boundaries around their time and choose carefully who they give it to, even with romantic interests.
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  3.  @andersnielsen6044  If our nature tells us to cheat or be disloyal, then only the ones that value loyalty and integrity and are congruent with those values will resist such an imperfect nature.
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  4. You started doing better in relationships, because you became less attached to your outcome, and became more accepting of your partner. This belief may have helped you get to that point, but this belief isn't rooted in truth. You aren't taking into account a woman's FEELINGS. That is the most important variable, and you aren't taking it into account, because you are only thinking superficially. A genuine relationship is nothing like pursuing a career, because feelings are involved. If a woman is leaving you, its not because there was a better option, its because her feelings for you are no longer there. Women don't leave men they are in love with. Her feelings fade or grow due to how you show up as a man. The more consistent you display masculinity and have fun and help her feel safe and comfortable and heard and understood, the more her attraction to you stays. Granted, if you are going through something, or grow complacent for a period, and she leaves just because her romantic feelings aren't there for a time, then she isn't a loyal partner. That would be like a man leaving, because the woman gained weight for a period of time. That said, having someone loyal doesn't give us an excuse to stay complacent, or stay not taking care of ourselves. Now if a woman literally leaves, because she found a man with more money, and he met her goal better in that way, not only was she not in love, but that is a toxic and superficial woman that is not suitable for romantic relationships. That would be no different than a superficial man leaving his relationship for a woman that looks really good to him in that moment.
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  5. You realize that she meant that YOU were a challenge FOR HER when it came to attracting YOU, right? That statement was about how SHE liked the challenge. You completely misinterpreted her. The doctor will probably never understand this, but women are actually the ones that like the challenge of attracting a man. This is why the girl that liked you told you that.
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  6. Navigate this by not sending nudes. A man that is truly interested in a woman will still be interested WITHOUT her having to send naked pictures, because a good and confident man knows that day of sexual stuff will eventually come anyway, so there is no need for him to rush it. The actual good currency she can give to a man she likes and likes her is her TIME. Thats the most important thing you can give someone, and a good man knows this.
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  7. So true. He basically makes up what he WISHES counts as psychology. All so that he doesn't have to actually examine his own actions and take responsibility for his decisions in life. Its avoidant behavior. Then, he uses his intelligence to over complicate it so it sounds smart and legitimate. It's like hiding the truth in a maze.
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  8. I admit you definitely learned so much more than you used to know and preach in your older videos. You finally understand that money doesn't matter. Seems like you have some humility after all. It also sounds like you've been listening to Corey. Your bit about emotional engagement was vague, which tells me you don't fully understand how it happens. Also, the contextual alpha bit is wrong. Thats a limiting belief. You didn't have more women attracted to you due to being praised and recognized and being the lead in a play. You had more women attracted to you because of your drive. You had a true passion for something, which created a drive within you that you actively pursued. This is masculine and a big part of being alpha in general, and thus, attractive. Also, you were not so focused on women back then, which helps. Now, you are very focused on women, which makes you less attractive. True alphas encourage women to have self-respect and can love in a way that allows a person to feel free.
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  9. ​ @Princessbubblegum567 It's not about his tone or his level of calm. It's his message. He is smart enough to know that being calm is how you come off like you know what you are talking about. The things he says though give no hope and is fully based in business and transactions. He basically thinks that emotions do not relate to relationships. He likely wasn't always of this opinion. This is likely due to him being emotionally hurt at some point. So instead of learning how he can take responsibility by making better choices and vet better, he decides to superficially protect his heart by deciding that relationships must all be superficial and that there are no genuine women on the planet that will actually like a man and will only like what he provides. That is having a bitter attitude toward women. He doesn't take feelings into consideration and that is something super important in order to have a good relationship. That is being cold and calculated. He even tries to convince women to basically forgo self-respect and to give it up before committing. That's basically begging a woman for sex, but in a more manipulative way because he is "calm" about it. If he were truly calm, he would address actual points like this instead of just saying that he makes people uncomfortable. It's a projection. He becomes uncomfortable when someone ruins his worldview by telling him that love is different than he thinks and good relationships are not superficial. This is not an ad-hominem attack by the way, because I am only addressing his viewpoints and perspectives. I'm not saying anything personally hurtful, but a person might FEEL like this is an ad hominem attack because it's explaining a truth that goes against long held and comfortable beliefs, which is why it might feel hurtful to some.
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  10. "The idea that you just want to be nice to somebody is kinda BS". This quote from you is a projection of how YOU feel, and it doesn't speak for everyone else. Tons of people really enjoy showing others kindness. "For whatever reason, your efforts are creating an awkward interpersonal dynamic..." This quote from you tells us that you don't understand the reason why kindness doesn't always have a favorable response. So you are coming up with a solution without understanding the reason for the problem. This is why you are wrong in understanding how to address it. There are actually a few different reasons for why kindness doesn't get a favorable response.
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  11.  @MikeLeed Definitely, in that particular context. But to be honest, looking at personal relationships as winning and losing is a mistake anyway. That perspective gets in the way of pursuing peace with your partner and paying attention to how they are feeling in the moment. Good leaders have to notice that stuff. Thinking that you have to win in a personal relationship is just trying to force yourself to stay above your partner, which is a haughty mindset, which is ultimately unnattractive.
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  12. Well, you could always just break up with her and leave. They might see you as the villain, but thats their problem for deciding not to acknowledge the truth. That's not your problem. You have to think about your own health.
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  13. I'd say when it comes to physical fitness, it is pointless to correct you because you are already doing the hard work and literally living the solution to get those better stats. You've successfully removed any beam you might have had in that regard. When it comes to the advice you give sometimes though, you haven't done the work in order to see if you have the truth or not, so you mislead people because that beam remains there in that regard. Self-reflection is what is required to remove that beam, and you yourself have literally spoken out against self-reflection. Thats worth thinking about.
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  14. Well he didn't teach to punish. He taught the man to stand up for what he believes in and not to give in on his beliefs. If anything, he finally taught a man to be more honest. And believe me, this is my first time defending him, because he is normally wrong on everything he says, but not this time. Also, any man that shuts down when you try to communicate your feelings is not ready for a relationship. Thats different from standing up for his beliefs.
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  15. Good stuff in the beginning about a bomb. A person that blows up easily, especially when you barely know them, is a major red flag. That said, your interview analogy and picture test is bad because it requires an entitled mindset. It's as if you are entitled to all her availability and some pictures just because she likes you. Sometimes, a person genuinely can't do weekends, and they aren't being strategic. Also, you basically said you are entitled when you mentioned how you are above her and not equal to her in the courtship. That's the wrong mindset, and it will get you rejected by good women and have you attracting the ones with no self-respect. And those tend to be the bombs because a person with no self-respect tends to be angry because they are not treating themselves correctly. Also, that picture thing is extra bad, because from her perspective, it seems like you are only interested in sex, because there is no way you can glean any part of her character from her picture. Consider that ask from HER perspective, not yours. You'll get farther because that's actually a more humble mindset and not an entitled one.
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  16. How can you not see that you just basically begged for sex in this video by trying to manipulate women in general into giving it to you?
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  17. ​@rahulterwade Well, I'm not sure if you have a daughter or a sister, but if she is an adult, he basically just told you to endorse this video to her so she can be more easily convinced to have sex with him or any guy immediately if he ever dated her. I mean, that was his whole message in this video. It's not really a matter of arguing against it. It's more a matter of whether you approve or not approve of him telling you and your family that.
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  18. Those "rules" like money and status will only attract superficial woman more interested in money than people. What really attracts them is masculinity. Masculinity is not superficial. Trying to attract a woman with money and status is approval seeking behavior. Its weak. Like a little boy wanting to impress his mommy. Approval seeking is more feminine, which is why it doesn't work with GOOD women. Women want masculine men. Masculinity is purpose, drive, mission, going for what you want without fear, including the woman you want, but being ok if you don't get it. Masculinity is calm. Masculinity is direct and decisive. Masculinity takes the lead. It takes the initiative. So you can literally attract the woman of your dreams with your behavior. This is NOT superficial. The doc teaches superficiality which is the opposite of what works. He teaches how to be weak with no integrity. Superficiality is misery and turns to approval seeking behavior. Honestly, the doctor learns from all the wrong sources, so he is clueless as a result. That's why he still struggles.
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  19. You're thinking along the lines of superficiality here. Relationships are not the same as money in any way. It's impossible, because relationships go deep, and money is on the surface. Men are with multiple women, because they want feminine attention and are just following their libido. They are using the women for these things. Perhaps also, because they just don't want to be alone. A woman they actually like comes along very rarely, and they know pretty quickly when they actually like a woman enough to want to eventually want to take things further with her. It's also impossible for someone not to take that personally, because they are being genuine and vulnerable with their heart, while the other person is not truly interested in them, yet is doing personal things with them. I think you're right about men having to practice confidence, but women are also overcoming insecurities, and they also have to learn how to actually choose a decent man. They have work to do too if they want to improve.
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  20.  @treeaddict  It's different, because there are genuinely actual problems that are getting in the way of her sex drive. A woman generally isn't interested in sex due to some type of circumstance. Whether that'd be because of depression, feeling overwhelmed, or just because the man is behaving more feminine than masculine at the time, which happens with tons of men and they don't realize it. So it's good to be aware of these things and know what to do in order to make her load feel light and help her feel secure, which makes things easier for her, which helps her sex drive be naturally high, because there would be no obstacles to it. So if we as men are only focused on getting our own needs met, we don't even think about any potential things we can do to facilitate a better relationship, let alone show up properly which increases her sex drive. Also, as men, we are the leaders. So focusing on our needs in response to her focusing on her needs is to follow HER example, which in turn is making her the leader, which means we would be becoming submissive to her, which throws off the sexual polarity even more, which makes everything much worse. Now, if she is just withholding sex as a punishment, or as a manipulation tactic or for some other disingenuous reason, that is wrong and an unnecessary strain on the relationship. Still, the proper response is not to threaten to cheat.
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  21. A man that shows up correctly in his relationship is going to have a woman that wants more sex than him. Changing one's behavior is good, but telling a man that he doesn't have to understand is going to lead to even less sex and probably a break up. A woman needs to be heard and understood by her man. Thats part of love, thats part of taking the lead, and thats part of masculinity. You can try to convince women they should just forget about being heard and understood all you want, but that isn't going to change them because that isn't how they are designed, and you'll only end up chasing away the woman you truly want by ignoring the issue. Sure they can always improve their behavior and self-reflect, and them being understanding too helps immensely, but so should the man. And the man MUST learn to be understanding for things to work. The men that "logically" put it solely on the woman like you mention here are the men that experience basically no sex. That's what happens when sex is your ONLY focus. Thats a problem. The men that take responsibility and seek to help their woman feel heard and understood and don't focus on sex are the ones that get more sex than they could ever even want. In other words, you're going to have to learn to show genuine love. And focusing only on sex all the time and having sex be your main end goal is not genuine love.
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  22. @IfSemper  It's ok if a woman WANTS to help her man feel like that once in a while, but not too often and if he keeps seeking those things from his woman, he would basically be painting himself as her child and making her his mother, and she would experience a loss of attraction. That's just a fact. Then she wouldn't come to you for feeling heard and understood anymore, just like she wouldn't go to her child for that. As a man, if you seek to feel heard, understood and safe, thats normal, but you are much better off going to a good friend you can trust, or your father or your actual mother, or God. Or even a therapist. Basically, just someone that knows how to actually listen.
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  23. @BOSSDONMAN  The advice he gave to men wasn't horrible, and it made sense, but it should have been stated as a mindset. Not a true comparison to getting a job. It's true that you are gathering data, but with relationships, there is a deeper portion of it that is NOT superficial that he always pretends doesn't exist. This is why you feel less interested. I'm convinced that he is just avoiding it because it makes him feel uncomfortable in some way, or he just doesn't understand it or both. Also, his advice to woman was more of a plea in order to make his life easier, rather than learning why he keeps suffering the same interactions and attracting the same type of people. A person cannot realistically expect them to not vet a man as well. They cannot healthily submit to just anyone.
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  24. What you describe is looking for a mother, not a partner. The dudes that cry at the wedding and the woman is completely stoic? Yeah, thats that motherly dynamic going on right there. Its backwards and doesn't work because its not how we are designed. Watch your next wedding with this in mind. True, lots of men are subconsciously looking for that due to their personal fears, but thats not what women want. Women want leaders. THEY want to be the one getting a parent in a sense. THIS is what elicits attraction when a man takes the lead, whether they know it or not. Thats just a fact man. Thats why some women leave when the man gets complacent and STOPS leading, or hurt and CAN'T lead. This stops her from feeling that romantic feeling toward you. Its all about behavior, Orion. So when a woman actually STAYS with a man despite his laziness or his inability to be the man he was before, THAT particular woman is not simply making decisions from her feelings like most do, but instead she has true love for the man that goes beyond that and she sticks around. Thats actually what the bible reminds both men and women to do. You mentioned God, so if a person actually cares about God's approval, they will act with integrity and will not leave as soon as the feelings become not as strong. On that same note, the man needs to get his stuff together, and not remain down and out just because he has a good woman. He needs to show love also, which makes it easier on her, which helps the relationship to thrive and stay healthy.
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  25. Well thats just emotional manipulation. Validating a lie. Its disingenuous. And to tell you the uncomfortable truth, you basically just projected what you do for men and for yourself. You are positively reinforcing the toxic beliefs of many men by literally blaming women for all of men's romantic relationship problems, which means they don't have to self-reflect or take responsibility, because nothing was their fault. Notice how you very rarely tell men to do something different with their behavior. This might be because you don't know what to do, but they flock to you because of it. Keeping it all about superficial things keeps you and others in their comfort zone. So you do the exact same thing for men that you said the grifting good looking men do for women. You just do it in a different way. One way is by directing your advice at women to basically change themselves without truly knowing the motivation of their behavior in the first place. Therefore, the men who won't self-reflect listen and cheer while never looking at their own behavior and figure they do nothing wrong while you validate their constant complaints and lack of introspection. That's something to think about doc.
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  26. Not a good way to think about it. Thinking of yourself as two people gives you excuses to behave a certain way that you ordinarily would not approve of. This can create problems for ourselves. Also, a truly enlightened man would never be envious, as you say, even if he were dirt poor, NOR does he go out LOOKING for challenges or to make things hard on himself, because he is already content. He would also be happy for you and your success and even be willing to learn from you about how you achieved success. An enlightened man knows that if he doesn't work, he doesn't eat. In the bible, Jesus taught us NOT to be worldly because the world focuses on all the wrong things, but he also said to take care of our families and ourselves and work at things with all our heart as if we are working for God. Overall, you can make money without giving up principles or separating yourself from who you are.
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  27. Seriously. This man is just not paying attention to the world around him at all.
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  28. Doubt it. Corey gives details on how attraction works, and he has an abundance mindset, and he encourages and promotes integrity. Orion has a scarcity mindset, gives no details because he doesn't know them, and he discourages integrity.
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  29. @urdadshusband781  I'll explain. The doc believes men NEED novelty, and as a result, it's natural to cheat, enabling the bad behavior. No integrity in that. Corey says a good man keeps his word and never cheats. This promotes integrity. The doc has promoted hiring prostitutes and treats relationships like transactions, as if all women are prostitutes in some way. Corey never says anything like this because he knows there is no need for that because he can just attract a woman without any cost to himself. The doc will tell you common sense stuff like a woman will treat the man they have an attraction for differently, yet give no details on how attraction actually works. Corey always immediately gives details on how attraction works and will literally tell you the specific behaviors that attracts and unnattracts a woman. This is because Corey knows, and the doc doesn't. The difference is clear.
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  30. @urdadshusband781  Yeah, I've seen the doc hit the mark a few times. And you're ultimately right on that. I've also heard Orion basically quote Corey. And yeah, it would be better for him to give credit to the person he learned those particular things from. It's just surprising to me that he has listened to Corey, but still has this scarcity mindset. But it is what it is, I guess. Some people just refuse to change their perspective.
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  31. ​@AmeliorateAhmed Not necessarily. I've seen many people take the absolute wrong lesson from their experiences and keep making things unnecessarily hard on themselves as a result. Guidance from someone who actually knows what they are talking about is the best teacher I'd say.
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  32. @Toni  I think you're right about being excited, having an interest, and believing in your potential being necessary. I also believe that you will not achieve any of these states of mind without humility. I think we just have different definitions of humility. I look at it as being the opposite of a prideful and haughty mindset. If you are haughty, then there is no reason for you to feel excited or interested, because you already know everything, so you feel above all that and like it's unnecessary. Also, you think you've already reached your potential, and you think there is nothing left to learn, therefore you block yourself from learning anything else, because you leave no room for it. Being humble just allows you to leave room to grow. That's what I mean. Perhaps you are not on the same page as me when it comes to the word humble, but you seem to agree that we need to leave ourselves room to learn. That's really the main point I'm making.
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  33. That really is a first for him. He is usually a weak blamer and gets it wrong, but he showed some strength this time.
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  34. You'll find it's not really based on psychology, but instead it's based on his personal unaddressed trauma and the conclusions he came up with based on that trauma. Once in a while he will have a video that involves actual psychology and he'll say something good, but most of his stuff is inaccurate and serves only to validate other men's unwillingness to self-reflect.
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  35. People that don't have the truth on a subject and yet pretend to be confident on that subject anyway tend to contradict themselves a lot.
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  36. Hang out and have fun. Thats it. "Status" and money doesn't matter. Your comment is proof of that. You aren't being judged by the way. They are being honest. Honesty helps you. If they are saying you are too boring, this generally means that you aren't being fully yourself with them.
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  37. You sound like a 3% man mostly. I will say though that a woman isn't smart for choosing someone for their money and a pretense for using them. Thats a lack of integrity and its self-sabotage. No one can be happy that way.
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  38. @sunhawk1751  I understand how you meant it, and I think you're right. He definitely properly rationalized with good reasoning as to why a person might choose an escort. It's just that his reasoning is from the superficial perspective of someone that doesn't really care about healthy and fulfilling romantic relationships at all, and cares only about money and quick sex. In that case, a prostitute is the way to go. Its bad advice for someone that desires more than superficial things.
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  39. Well, he can't teach something he doesn't know.
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  40. ​ @Kritikanbringer True, you don't need someones else's approval to live your life however you want or even to believe whatever you want. I'm only sharing an objective and universal truth I've learned.
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  41. Think about what you are saying here. "Its healthy until the transactions suddenly become visible". This is basically another way of saying that relationships begin to FAIL AFTER they become TRANSACTIONAL. People in healthy relationships give FREELY. By definition, this literally cannot be transactional, because a transaction is always and constantly an unemotional trade. Like you basically said, you start looking at things as a trade, your relationship begins to go downhill. Now if one person is doing more for long periods and is tired, this is because the person is not feeling like the other CARES or LOVES them, because they are allowing one person to hold all the weight for too long WITHOUT putting any effort in, showing that they care. People want to feel genuine love, man. If a person with a transaction mindset does things for a person with a healthy and genuine mindset, the healthy person can FEEL that it isn't coming from the heart, but only to get something in return.
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  42. A man with no integrity will date a woman for a long time and not marry her, but then marry the very next one really fast because he wasn't truly interested in the first one. He was just going through the motions because he didn't want to be alone. He married the next one because he was truly interested in her. Now in your case, with the one who was willing to cheat on his girlfriend, he probably just wanted to be with another woman before he got married, but then decided it was a bad idea. OR, he actually was truly interested in you, but he didn't have the courage to leave and break his girlfriend's heart. We'll never truly know, but if he didn't consistently go for you, by his actions, you should assume he had no real interest and move on.
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  43. You've been listening to all the wrong stuff then, or just not applying it. No one is actually boring. Literally no one. When you have a genuine interest in people, you inquire about things about them so much, that sometimes you get them thinking about things they themselves haven't even thought about. Either you haven't actually found a woman you truly like romantically yet, or you have a fear that you yourself might be boring, which wouldn't actually be true by the way. Or you're actually just looking for an adrenaline rush, and not a woman you might really like.
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  44. True. I'm glad that at the end, he at least acknowledged that it's not a healthy mindset to have.
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  45. ​@mrmitchell4089 True, and I've met many people like you describe that don't care to have basic respect. I just limit or stop my interactions with those type of people if they don't show respect, but I will call out the disrespect in a respectful way. And I will continue to be respectful if I must interact with them, and I'll still take their feelings into consideration. You'd be surprised how they react when you don't adopt their same attitude. You're taking the lead and conquering the bad with the good when you show the kindness and respect they don't show. Then, without you having to say it, they realize they were the ones that had some growing up to do.
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  46. Well, that theme is based on his personal experience and probably the experience of some of his clients. And having this be a theme in his videos shows that he doesn't understand how to attract women. So he'll have trouble even getting to the orgasm part if he doesn't know how to turn them on in the first place.
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  47. It's sad because this is a limiting belief of a man that literally has absolutely NO idea about how attraction works for men OR women. So instead of actually learning the truth, he makes up his own beliefs that falsely explains away why he got hurt. Thats why this is sad. The TRUTH is actually happy and easy and gets us the things and the people we actually want in our lives. But we have to humble ourselves in order to actually find the truth.
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  48. ​​​ @rayrwyr The doc doesn't understand how women work either. At least not yet. And he basically said that romance is for broke dudes, not betas, and rich guys don't need to engage in romance because they got more money and less time. That's a foolish mindset because it's not true. That's like a lame excuse to not have to put in effort in one's relationship. And making excuses to do nothing and blame the woman for the problem is the true beta mindset. Which is what Orion does a lot. Romance is required. It let's the woman know you care. And it's what most of us guys do in the beginning, and get complacent and stop doing sometimes. No one is perfect, but we need to recognize it and jump back on it if we want to maintain a good relationship and keep her turned on. Take the lead, show caring love, be interested in her and have fun with her and be humble.
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  49. It depends on if that person has integrity. The commitment is generally made when the feelings and connections feel strong. Sometimes, those feelings may fade a little due to complacency and imperfections. Those are the bad times, but they can always return upon making the effort. Proper commitment means the couple stays together and makes the effort toward one another in order to maintain those feelings or get them to return. Now, those who get involved in a commitment with someone they have no interest in are just doing it wrong from the beginning. There is a scripture in the bible that says, "The heart is treacherous, who can know it?". This basically means that it's not always good to follow our hearts because sometimes it can lead us to something unhealthy or something we regret. In regards to relationships, it means don't leave your partner immediately simply because the feelings are not as strong as they used to be.
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  50. Nice. You posted an accurate solution to the problem Orion brought up. Most men grow complacent and stop being the man they were, and put her in the lead of everything as a result and then wonder why the woman lost her sexual desire. She can't desire a man in his feminine all the time. She can only desire a man thats mostly in his masculine. Contrary to what Orion's advice is, what a man does to get her, is what he does to keep her. Hopefully Orion grows to understand this so that one day, he can give the proper advice.
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