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  1.  @chamuelolivier1594  you're a woman I presume
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  2.  @ryanstrom2461  but what if I'm not into fat women?
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  3.  @PharmacyTechLabs  wrong. Men use it too. Just look at pimps and prostitutes. It's the same dynamic albeit on a more overt scale.
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  4.  @ady6837  thanks!
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  5.  @bogumiljanowskiweb  Thanks Henry
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  6.  @ra2530  Thanks RA
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  7.  @castiel4746  completely agree
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  8.  @DonTwanX  Thanks! Yes disrespectful female behavior can definitely come from coworkers, friends and family too.
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  9. Contentment generally comes from gratitude even for the present mundane moments most people have in their daily lives. The issue with contentment is most people refer to it as learning to be satisfied with what one has in the moment ie. Everyday existence. The problem occurs when its assumed it can be achieved in any circumstances even under extremes, for example torture, combat, extreme abuse. I don't think in these situations contentment is possible. Now where the issue occurs is torture and extreme abuse for example are subjective in regards to degrees, sorta like the pain tolerance threshold is different for each person. Some teens might consider having their phone taken away as torture or extreme abuse equal to that of the bataan death march. The point being contentment itself is an abstract idea and unless it can be achieved even in the extremes it will primarily remain elusive or at best short term only because what we might consider a minor setback or a boring day, is someone else's dante's inferno.
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  10.  @MelModica  I understand. Sometimes jealousy originates in feeling not in control. They say its insecurities but dig deeper and the insecurity lies in feeling not in control of the person's behavior/feelings. People may ask " what about people jealous of your car, looks, or status" the same applies. They feel they don't control their looks, or not in control of finances/job etc. Jealousy is always about not feeling in control of something. Ive learned to just view all people as temporary. Be it 10 minutes or 50 years. This allows me to not form attachments. So if they quit talking, break up etc. Theres maybe some sadness for a few days, then just indifference. Our Lives themselves are temporary so it would only make sense everything in it is as well. That includes feelings such as sadness etc.
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  11. In layman's terms, lost causes are pointless. The minute she starts making you angry a few times, leave. She'll not get better with time. Most personality traits become magnified, not diminished, with age. Excluding health reasons.
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  12. Right, its irrelevant why Ted Bundy became a serial killer, just realize you probably shouldn't hitch a ride in his Volkswagen.
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  13. He risks his freedom the minute they move in together or he signs a marriage contract. All it takes is one false DV charge and he's in jail. That's why when people divorce they usually talk about loving their " freedom "
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  14.  @sarahrobertson634  well the thing is women need men. Men want women. Anytime a person has a need, they will automatically out of survival become more cunning. Women know that there'd be no society without men. Can you imagine an all female construction crew trying to build a skyscraper? Wouldn't happen because women are too catty towards each other, and the reason is they're all competing for the resourcefulness of a man. Any progress women have made as far " rights" has been because men allowed it. It's not even debatable. If the physically weakest person in prison has the weightlifter doing his chores it because the weightlifter allowed it. That's why women prefer in general a docile man , smart enough to build things, but not smart enough to question things in regards to women. I often hear men say " I'd never pay for sex" sure.....don't pay the mortgage for 6 months and see how long that " loving" wife sticks around. The greatest asset a woman ever has is the mans own ego. Its impossible for a woman to fool a man that doesn't think he's special.
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  15. You didn't lose anything. And when it comes to break ups. Remember Lots wife " don't look back "
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  16.  @goodtimeholzyg4310  how is monogamy enforced? In America there's no laws against infidelity
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  17.  @captnhuffy  agreed!
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  18.  @healthiswealth6237  true and pookie and ray ray are usually driving that bus.
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  19.  @arcturusme2630  not once she gets here. Those foreign women are not marrying western men because they like being submissive. If they did they'd marry a local. They want the lifestyle they've seen on Instagram. Why marry period? Its lame and downright foolish at this point.
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  20.  @psychacks  Yes, hope is a whole industry to itself. The problem I think is that for ones Hope's to be realized certain steps have to be done. Many people have the lana Turner at Schwab's drug store mentality with recognition. Hoping that recognition will occur by someone with power or wealth. The live for the exception to the rule. I hear people in the art world discuss " just be passionate " or they'll be exploited by vanity galleries charging them exorbitant rent just in Hope's of being recognized. I like to do oil paintings in my free time and my policy is using emotions to inspire a painting is fine, but use logic when making and marketing it. True with anything
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  21.  @abrahiemdash7676  an ego in regards to balanced self esteem and self respect is fine. It's the minute a person thinks they're special or entitled they're in trouble. Show me someone with a big ego that thinks they're special and I'll show you an easy person to manipulate.
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  22. That's not true sometimes and don't ask me how I know.
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  23.  @adonaiel-rohi2460  dude, quit making a big deal about holding a door open. Are you really that insecure? Think if you hold a door open you're weak? Grow a spine. You're weak if that's your test of strength.
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  24.  know where to look  exactly!
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  25.  @OilCanHarry2U  thank you
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  26.  @PussInBoot414  I understand. Ive lost many a friendship over nothing. People tend to only remember the flaws of a person versus the good. Even friendships that didn't end badly just to seem to fade away. In my experience I learned I was expecting a validation from them that I meant something or had value despite the flaws. And I learned that was pointless. Never allow someone to dictate your value based on their warped perceptions. Sure, you'll hurt and even after a year a grudge might still exist, or even longer. Hurting and being angry is normal just continue to do it in silence. People want to justify their perceptions so if you reached out and explained your feelings most likely it'd make them feel superior and that they are still in the judgment seat. I read a lot of biographies and Johnny Carson when someone shunned him or angered him cut them off, never speaking again. Bette Davis never spoke to her daughter again after the tell all book she wrote. It doesn't mean they didn't hurt it just meant they had a set of principles and stuck with them, not allowing emotions to get the best of them. When someone acts like they don't want your company see to it they don't get it unless they come with an apology. In regards to cheating, there's a saying " when a man steals your wife the greatest revenge is letting him keep her"
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  27. They show up sometimes even if not interested in you or dating you simply based on if the refrigerator is empty and you plan on meeting somewhere food is served.
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  28.  @psychacks  that's true. No matter how well we can do with our own company, we are social creatures. Some more so than others. I really enjoy your insights Dr. Taraban. Ive been fascinated with the human mind since a teenager trying to figure out people's motives. Read many of the well known names of 19th and 20th century psychology and you give unique perspectives that are fresh and make a person think. No matter the extent of knowledge they previously obtained. People are fascinating but there can be a frustration with psychological knowledge and liberation at the same time. Frustration being, that just because you know why a person behaves as they do, doesn't mean you can alter the behavior beyond perhaps a momentary crisis. Its like a mechanic saying the engine blew a gasket. You know why the car is not drivable but that knowledge alone doesn't change the cars immobility. Its said only people can change themselves and though true, often they don't or almost can't. But the liberating part of all of this is we learn to accept or not accept people as they are. A big part of dysfunctional relationships is the inability to accept this reality, I believe. Anyhow, great work and insights as always.
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  29.  @31minutesago  exactly!
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  30. ​ @PreppyPrincess777 yasssss queen! 😂
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  31.  @apatheliac  that depends on the man. A few women who were " sorta" honest, meaning they probably lowered their number but not to good girl status, had slept with between 20 and 30 men by that age. One who really surprised me, seemed very wholesome liked the outdoors, hiking, was a bit of a loner, shy. She told me she'd been with around 50. I didn't care because I don't plan on marrying and never was in love with any of them, but those are the numbers, make of that what you will. And for the guys thinking these women must've been drug addicts or whatever, nope they all had careers and no jail records and two came from non divorced families.
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  32.  @PARTYManagementARG  dude Ive been in relationships for years I know fully well what I'm talking about. You keep looking for the unicorn or mary Poppins, let me know how that works out.
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  33. In simple terms theres no such thing as unconditional love. Expectations in some form will always exist in any dynamic whenever another person is involved.
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  34.  @arcazon2485  that is true. I believe it should also have the word " perceived " in front of it also. This is why someone, who to outsiders, seems to be going against their long term well being, still do those behaviors. Because in their mind it is their " perceived " best interests. It may not be, but to them it is. This can apply to such obvious examples as voting, dating, debt etc. and the choices surrounding them.
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  35.  @truthsayer13  completely agree, it's a pure zoo out there. Thanks!
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  36.  @LisaCulton  so as the commenter above used the analogy of a beating could also be applied: when a woman has physical abuse its because of something she does or neglected to do. Those are the facts take it or leave it.
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  37.  @hondahirny  very true!
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  38. But what if the woman wants to go back to the mans place? Or is this just about power moves and plays?
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  39.  @Last_one_before_I_go  thank you
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  40.  @mediocreman2  I agree kindness can get them to dump you too. I don't think telling them straightforward their issues that caused you to dump them helps, simply because that'd call for self awareness and reflection. Most can't/won't do that so they'll just go into defensive mode and feel you're " judging " them.
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  41.  @arsenal4444  thank you so much! I try to help from experience
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  42.  @arsenal4444  Thank you. Well in regards to relationship success in my own experience each age group has its own challenges. My 20s wasn't great because I was naive about many things and didn't fully understand dating/relationships. Women within that age group for the most part are extremely addicted to attention and the attention/love of one man is never sufficient usually. My early 30s were better because I was playing the field with more knowledge and didn't take them as seriously. The problems that begin to occur as one ages from 35 into the 40s is that more women will accumulate baggage. ie. Kids, divorces, exes in general. Plus women within this age group tend to start becoming more money driven. Meaning they start asking about dental plans, 401ks etc. Whereas in their 20s not so much. You seem intelligent and analytical which is good for self preservation. However, these traits will reduce the number of women seeking a relationship with you. The reason being, is it's harder to manipulate/con a man with these traits. So just as a bank robber seeks out a bank with few security guards, so will a woman trying to get the upper hand in a relationship. And they can sense which men are easier fooled. My suggestion would be just let things happen naturally, avoid marriage. A successful relationship requires a woman who loves you more than you love her, ie. Don't pursue relationships with women you're crazy about. They never work long term in my experience. And also realize relationships are optional. You can have a fulfilling life without them.
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  43. The best example of this is the fact we can have a loving relationship with our pets, that not only don't talk but are not even the same species. Talking too much in any relationship form is usually unnecessary and often is similar to gambling. The longer you do it, the more likely you'll lose. Silence really is golden.
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  44. In time, and that time is different for everyone but it will happen.
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  45.  @josevelasco1388  well yes, that's a matter of forgiving people for their faults and this can be done, but preferably at a distance. I can forgive someone without keeping them in my life simply because personality rarely changes no matter how hard the person wants to.
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  46.  @maylin1986  what I meant by that last part is that our own egos can trick ourselves into believing we should be loved and admired and in so doing expect others to do it. This causes us to become angry if we get rejected, or ignored by someone we like. Which is the opposite of indifference. It's ok to believe we are special, the problem arises when we expect others to believe that about us too.
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  47.  @sweetbeep  you lessen ego by reducing/eliminating expectations and entitlement. Take romance for example. You may expect that text message, phone call, etc. because you've been a good date/partner, etc. If it doesn't occur your ego is wounded. It doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid or fair, it just means, in order to get to indifference, one must shed expectations brought about by ego. Now a balanced ego is necessary to have personal boundaries and normal self esteem. However when it gets into entitlement or expectations, the risk becomes an inflated ego. People will wrong us at times, let us down, however by not taking it personally and accepting they have free will no matter whether their choices are rational or not, over time the ego reduces and settles into indifference while also maintaining balance and boundaries, because we also have free will and can choose not to have those people in our lives. Not from the anger of a wounded ego, but from the indifference of realizing our happiness does not rely on them, unless we allow our ego to run the show.
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  48. The government's in the west have become the men to women. No one man can override government policies. So just as the phenomenon of war bride system exists ( women being submissive to invading armies) they are now only submissive to government ( not husbands/partners) a woman generally only likes the idea of a man, not the actual man. The reason policies are put in place to quell traditional masculinity, is because it prevents revolutions and overthrows. Basically a docile society that obeys. Now there is a paradox to this. The government knows it needs men to enforce its policies. Hence psychological testing for law enforcement, agencies and military units. It's not to weed out true nut cases. Its actually designed to test for blind obedience and sociopathic traits. Both qualities governments love and need to enforce policies. The germans and Russians in world war 2 were quite masculine, yet very obedient and unquestioning of leadership and policy. What is ideal, is masculinity with a tinge of consciousness and free thinking. To me, no greater trait of dominance is the questioning mind. You want to be more masculine? Question and research, read and never blindly let propaganda erode confidence in your ability to learn and question.
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  49. But then again success is subjective, and there's plenty of people in their 30s and 40s and older that might be successful in the traditional sense but are rock bottom dumb. And if someone is old enough to die in combat they should have the right to decide who sends them there. Unless you raise the military entrance age, you should not raise the voting age.
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  50. @airthrowDBT I agree. I believe though, that some people with naive assumptions and inflated egos will try to argue for respect wasting time usually.
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