Comments by "" (@modickens1272) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. You answered your own question. One is direct the other indirect. Do you know why other women refer to a regular woman who has frequent and many partners as " cheap"? Because even they, perhaps consciously know they're all selling the same thing. So if one waits for an expensive diamond ring and multiple dates and dinners she's not considered cheap, yet the one that does it for fun or after a McDonald's meal and a walk through the park is. They're all selling, just some ask for a higher price, some are direct and indirect, but they're all selling.
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  2. The mystery within the context of these games is what determines why a person chooses certain games, but also how they play them. Like the example about honor vs. Survivability. What makes someone willing to die for their beliefs and others principles and standards are whichever way the wind blows just to survive or get ahead? One could say it's a matter of values, but what determines why a person chooses certain values/principles over others. That's a mystery that perhaps has no clear answer.
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  3.  @adonaiel-rohi2460  manners towards others isn't about submissive or dominant behavior, its about courtesy. Sounds like you're insecure about being kind to someone.
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  4.  @Jaco059  they rarely are
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  5.  @ronmexico8383  exactly and tom Brady, brad pitt, and Channing Tatum. They might get more women initially but they don't keep them. Those coaches selling " hit the gym and stack paper" leave out the part that none of that will keep a woman. And it's an attempt to control an outcome which is impossible when it comes to love/relationships. Charles Manson didn't hit the gym and certainly wasn't stacking paper. 5'2" broke ex con, and yet he probably slept with more women than most of the coaches.
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  6.  @ryanstrom2461  exceptions doesn't change the general rule
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  7.  @msBbee-oq7im  I haven't suffered at all. Ive been in a relationship for 10 years. I just state facts
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  8.  @WildMidwest1  exactly, it doesn't matter if you're a buff billionaire, they're never happy.
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  9.  @sarahrobertson634  oh did somebody get hurt? Hush
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  10. There's an old saying " the worst vice, is advice" what Ive found in my own life is when people want advice they usually already have an idea what they're going to do and are just looking for confirmation its sensible. If the advice given is counterintuitive to their subconscious desires they won't take the advice. This is especially true of relationship advice. There's also another element of asking for advice and that is to absolve responsibility for decisions made. If something goes wrong they can just say " well all I did was take your advice and it didn't work" If I ask advice I usually ask which possible scenarios to a decision would be the most likely to occur if I decide to do something, what's the most beneficial objectively long term and why would that be the case versus the other scenario. If someone asks my advice I usually just tell them the probable outcomes of their options and let them decide what's best for them. It took years for me to learn this because in the past I'd get too emotionally invested due to my own ego, in wanting them to take my advice.
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  11.  @nietzschesmuse  I understand. You have to ask yourself a question though. What drew you to him? Oftentimes we'll complain about an ex, and the question arises " if they're horrible why aren't you relieved they're no longer in your life?" The answer usually lies in our self perception. 99 people can tell us we're terrific and beautiful, yet the mind will fixate on the one person that decided we weren't all that. Even if we broke it off. Sometimes when a person breaks things off its an attempt to get the other person to pursue, or to see the error of their ways. It can become an obsession proving the other person wrong. Sadly most relationships aren't about love but power.
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  12.  @psychacks  That's true, others when choosing determine our worth, whether it's accurate or not. And sometimes people choose the coal lump instead of the diamond. There's tons of great amateur singers and instrumentalists on YouTube that have millions less views than Cardi b. And it's not because cardi b is better in the objective sense, its many factors but mainly coal is often the choice of the public over the diamond. Or as the bible says " pearls before swine" I always believe others are so traumatized, clueless, or downright brainwashed, that they wouldn't know what good milk is. How can one determine the value of Lobster if they've only known the taste of peanut butter sandwiches?
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  13. What we perceive we believe. And emotions alter perceptions
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  14.  @dkaob8351  very good points
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  15. Great analysis and quite accurate
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  16.  @Jeniffer61867  he meant that inaction ( not having sex without being selective, ie. any opportunity or bad choice) will help increase her value in the eyes of a future partner because she's made her sex a scarcity, versus an easy acquisition. You've heard people say " she's cheap"? It means she gives her body ( sex) away easily. So the value isn't as high, as a woman who is more selective, which is why female virginity is considered worth more than Male virginity. Male virginity requires no restraint in most cases , female virginity does.
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  17.  @exchangAscribe  it can affect the satisfaction one receives perhaps but it minimizes the significance of break ups, etc. Yes, there may not be as many highs as others but also, far fewer lows. It's a matter of which one you prefer. I was diagnosed as having antisocial tendencies so perhaps I have an advantage in regards to implementation but rest assured it's the best way to go through life. You can use logic in just about every situation and not let emotions override them. I'll give you an example: there are people from time to time I had a falling out with, or who may have been lousy, that I emotionally miss at times. However, logic reminds me that it had to end. People at their core rarely change. So instead of following a momentary emotion saying " text them its their birthday or Christmas " my logic overrides it saying " ok you text, and after the niceties you're still dealing with same person as before, so what's the point?" Logic is objective, emotions are subjective. Err on the side of objectivity when dealing with people especially, would be my advice.
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  18.  @5stelle88  thank you
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  19. You or the other person cheating? Either way it doesn't matter. The one who cheated will view you subconsciously as weak for taking them back and the one who didn't cheat will try to use the other's cheating as a power position by inducing guilt etc. Basically what I'm trying to say is reheated soup never tastes as good as the first time. Don't try to put toothpaste back in the tube. When something is over let it stay ended.
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  20. Well put! Its having standards and convictions that are unwavering in regards to one's own morality of whats right and wrong and sticking with it. The tree whose roots are deeply entrenched and unmovable no matter the storms that come. Its knowing other people's opinions of you are irrelevant and especially when they go against your belief in whats right and wrong, true or false. Simply put, it's being resolute in the ethics of one's beliefs, at the potential loss of career, family, friends.
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  21.  @RecreationalUseOnly  right! And the same for her tattoos. You see some woman with a bunch of tattoos you know she didn't spend a dime. But no doubt the tattoo artist has been blown 500 times
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  22. My two cents. Just give people time and space, as well as that for yourself. When you try to get answers to why people are suddenly ghosting or acting weird, you'd rarely get the truth even if they responded. Relationships with people are fleeting and though nobody wants to feel alienated, if you give enough time and space between the current feelings you'll eventually find resolve. And if these people never return to your life or in the same capacity, realize its just a chapter that ended. Remember some kids in the 3rd grade that might've upset you at the time? Their memory is a distance mirage, you forged ahead and can do so with this situation. 20 years from now you might only vaguely remember the people that you fret over now. Always look forward in life
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  23.  @psychacks  Thank you for the response, and further insights into these issues. I agree with your points. I guess sometimes their reaction is to maintain a certain perception or self image. If they have a certain insecurity, they will look for signs to justify it. If, they were always told or made to feel they were dumb growing up, any disagreement will reinforce that perception and they will become defensive " are you saying I'm an idiot?" People see and hear what reinforces their beliefs. I agree, Ive learned its best to walk away from those types of people. Until they gain a better self awareness, its best to leave them be, and certainly not apologize because that as you pointed out would validate their feelings/self justification. Your videos are great, I'm subscribing. They're condensed and to the point and explain very well the logic behind behavior even illogical behavior.
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  24. Wrong, they'll send hot pics when they're into you. It never fails, and they'll want filthy pics too. And I'm talking career women etc.
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  25. If the man is sane, he will consider the womans personality first. Nobody should want kids by a crazy or combative person. It would only create trauma for the child. And also, if the personality is great he might reconsider his desire for kids, if for example she's unable to have children. All roads good or bad, originate in personality. Looks fade, kids grow up, but crazy is forever.
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  26.  @DragonNo1  exactly, they could dump you for eating mayo on your sandwich. So it doesn't take much to get them to reject
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  27.  @chamuelolivier1594  those stats are probably higher. Don't be upset someone plays a game better than you.
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  28.  @unionunicorn6776  backbones aren't allowed when the police get called and abuse allegations get made when a psycho princess gets rejected directly. Remove law enforcement from the equation and I assure you, you'll see plenty of back bones but probably won't like it.
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  29.  @michelledehaen8997  nope, have emotions just don't react to them. It's like feeling the need to fart in public, not always wise to let it rip!!
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  30.  @msBbee-oq7im  not sad at all to avoid manipulative gaslighters # winning
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  31. People are drawn to messages that they identity with and that resonate with personal experiences or desires. Hence the popularity of prosperity preachers, get rich quick scams, and of course RP content. The first two for desires, the last from experience. RP customer's are seeking empathy, understanding and self control again and the creators albeit temporarily are providing that service.
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  32.  @thalmoragent9344  I agree. Sometimes they have to be called on it. And if they deny it, they've been put on notice you're aware of what they're doing. Most folks stay kids until they die.
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  33.  @PharmacyTechLabs  I like that assessment. I think often people use " love" as a guise for ulterior motives. I believe if most men had access to frequent sex and women had access to more money, neither would get married as often. People don't want to admit the true reasons for marriage. If most women suddenly won the lottery and most men suddenly were surrounded by willing women, the marriage rate would plummet. Its only necessity that causes most marriages. And women that do it are often the biggest bullies to non married child free women. Because non conformists are a challenge to their belief system and a reminder and contrast of their inability to be independent. And when a person goes home at night, the last thing they want is more expectations and conditions put on them if honest. If I come home and want to drink beer in my underwear until 3 AM I don't want someone nagging me about it, and if that means I have less people around or no people around because of that, thats just an added bonus!
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  34. This is true. I always say that nothing truly ends it just sometimes is paused. How many times have people been separated at birth, or quit speaking, only to make amends years later? Plenty. During the lull it might appear to the observer that " its over" but it's a pause. Sometimes the person hits ' play' again on the video, sometimes they don't. But either way, it's just paused. Its like ' closure' its just a perception. In the words of John Rambo in first blood " nothing is over, you just don't turn it off"
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  35.  @goodtimeholzyg4310  but enforced monogamy is fake. As rotten as society and people are overall, its good to finally see it for how it is and always was. If the only reason someone is with someone is due to enforced laws, its many things but it's definitely not love. Just accept reality for what it is and don't get attached to expectations or you'll be sadly disappointed.
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  36.  @goodtimeholzyg4310  well if shame is how you believe its enforced that's been gone since the 1950s.
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  37.  @samlange6937  very true. Its not necessarily an actual Rolls Royce but what she perceives as one based on current emotions.
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  38.  @kenandrieling5885  exactly! And its boosted their ego. Over inflated it, and their value is nil.
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  39. Tell that to pookie and rayray
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  40.  @adonaiel-rohi2460  I never said manners were social pressure. Its called empathy, thinking of other people besides yourself. Yes a person should put themselves first but once that is done, it costs nothing to be kind. And kindness is not weakness unless you do it for approval versus just being thoughtful. A person can be strong without trying to act like the terminator
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  41.  @Daniel-ef7nk  whether you walk away or she walks away after being insulted she'll feel resentment from both scenarios of course. And either way she'll respect you as long as you don't cave we both can agree on that. Where a lot of dominant men miss up is once they reprimand the woman and she sulks or goes silent, the guy usually will come back around trying to talk and even if he doesn't apologize, just by initiating communication gives her back power. I agree the man must stay firm in his decision, indecisive behavior even if it's to the womans benefit will be a loss of respect towards the man. A guy has to be like Stalin or Johnny Carson when it comes to walking away or being dumped. Just completely stay like a rock, no giving in.
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  42. Right, doing the Dubai porta potty for a Chanel handbag and to show off on Instagram.
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  43.  @psychacks  that's really true. A classic example is the not appreciating someone until they're gone aspect. Many a person's opinion of someone changes with maturity and time. Sometimes the person remembers the other with a deeper fondness and appreciation, other times they may come to see how flawed the individual was. What they receive from us is malleable and changing based on the flowing of time and circumstances. We often take hammers for granted until a nail is before us.
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  44.  @castiel4746  I agree, but that train has already left the station. And even if they were a virgin, with Instagram and tiktok she'll feel she's missing out on life 5 or 10 years into the marriage and go buck wild. And having kids with her doesn't mean nothing. Ive been in hotel rooms with plenty of moms. The best bet is just don't fall in love or take any of them seriously. Its only mens egos that cause most heartache. Worrying about having kids or " legacies" or wanting ownership through marriage. Just pump them and whether they stay or go who cares. Ive noticed the world never ended when some woman left me. They're all replaceable in some way. Yes, some are more intelligent, or better humored, or loving, but if a Cadillac breaks down be willing to drive the 94 ford tempo. They're all temporary any how. Expectations are the root of all suffering.
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  45.  @PARTYManagementARG  tom Brady, Johnny Depp, Channing Tatum, Brad pitt are famous and successful yet all had women leave them. Keep believing if you get a promotion or work 2 jobs and go to the gym your woman will stay. Delusional doesn't begin to describe you. Lord help the woman that ends up with you, but I get the impression you'll be an easy mark to women. As long as they make you feel special they'll be able to con you.
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  46. He never said you couldn't. He just said the type of man or value changes as you age. In general you won't get the quality you could've had in your 20s and exceptions don't change the rule. Its called reality. As Ayn Rand famously said " you can deny reality but you cannot deny the consequences from denying reality " it's like eating out. You can still get something to eat at 2AM but it will most likely be from a gas station and not a 5 star restaurant. The longer you wait the more limited your options.
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  47. If there's no food in the fridge I'll be dining out.
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  48.  @Damesanglante  you seem to be in denial about reality .
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  49.  @jamesbestaaron5628  Thank you. I agree, we can't expect much from the comments section sometimes. Cheers!
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  50.  @SelfImageStylist  you're not bright evidently, and self awareness isn't your strong point.
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