Comments by "exnihilo415" (@exnihilo415) on "Asian Boss" channel.

  1.  @xiaomi198  Well, I’ve been with my girl for 18 years now and legally married for 8. We’ve built an entire life together and are looking forward to retirement together. So, I’m guessing not on the sooner side, then? 😀
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  2. thicc
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  3. The only way to get to this future you imagine where coming out as LGBT is as uneventful as coming out as left handed is for the vast majority of heterosexuals to be very comfortable with LGBT people. The only way that happens is with exposure to LGBT people and you don’t get there by never mentioning it. In a dozen countries in the world you can do hard jail time just for being gay. Only a small percentage of countries have legal marriage equality. The world has a long way to go. This isn’t about what you do in the bedroom. It’s about who love in public and the legal rights you have to protect your relationship.
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  4. Legal marriage is hugely important to LGBT people. There are a vast number of legal rights and protections that are only available via marriage. The concept of marriage is important too. No one sings songs about civil unions. Many people, gay and straight dream about their marriage day. There are hundreds of thousands of same sex marriages around the world, and it’s important to them. Ask some. If LGBT people and straight people are to be seen as equal having the very same laws, rights and responsibilities for their relationships is a fundamental part of that.
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  5. Dead Rose thank you. We’ve been together for 16 years and legally married for 6. I don’t mind stepping into the breech to show others that Thai trans women exist in 3 dimensions with a full life including love and marriage.
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  6. Loving your spouse and having a sexual relationship with your spouse is not wrong. Any religion that says otherwise is not worth considering.
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  7. Laila, How enjoyable do you think life is for LGBT people hiding in the closet for fear of social or religious persecution? Governments need to be based on fair laws not religion.
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  8. Indecent acts are already illegal. Trans women are women and deserve to be treated as women. It is the law in most of North America and Europe that trans women are legally allowed to use the women’s restroom. Literally millions of trans women use the women’s restroom there everyday without incident. There is not an epidemic of men impersonating trans women in women’s restrooms.
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  9. It does. Quite the challenge to learn, though. Writing system is rough. Not Chinese or Japanese tough but still tough.
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  10.  @shadokiru1509  Hello truck. See, was that so hard?
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  11. Vusk: I’m legally male and my wife is legally female, and that’s how we think of ourselves. Thanks for your support.
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  12.  @asilaslapt1510  That maintains the discriminatory status quo which leads to gays and lesbians loving less fulfilling less successful lives which is ultimately bad for the country having a few percentage twisting in the wind instead of contributing fully to a more supportive society. Look at demographics in other western countries where gays and lesbians are supported and see the huge benefits to their lives and to broader society.
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  13.  @陈明-n6i  My best friend's ex boyfriend (a gay couple) is Chinese (Shanghai but living in California). He ended up working out an arrangement with a Chinese lesbian couple to have a kid via IVF in Shanghai to make both of their families happy. The boyfriend's parents and the lesbian are taking care of it while he's here in California. Everyone seems happy. Seems completely absurd and ridiculous to me.
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  14.    She's a woman to me. Gender isn't chromosomes.
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  15. ​ @andywilson9787  Gender identity is how you view yourself and how you want to be viewed by others in friendly conversation. In hostile conversation, it doesn't matter. It's all insults all the way down anyway. Male and female have existed for countless thousands of years before the scientific method and the reality is people are just guessing by visual inspection and following social conventions. Different gender roles have existed in many cultures across time. Hijra, Muxe, Waria, Fa'afafine, Ashtime of Maale, as well as the Kathoey in Thailand. In addition, you have no chance of knowing if someone is a actually an XX female or if they're XY and have complete androgen insensitively syndrome, nor does it make any difference. Call someone what they want to be called or exchange unpleasantries and call it a day, same as ever. Myself, I have no interest in being embraced or accepted by homophobes or transphobes nor will I ever respect them. I much prefer seething hatred as it's bracing and honest.
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  16. Well, the vast majority of people who demonize her are religious and use religious reasoning to do so. Consequently the question seems completely valid to me.
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  17.  @yerri5567  You are aware that trans people are willingly consenting to visit doctors to ask for help with their gender dysphoria, right? Slavery has no concept of consent. The medical establishment has actually studied this issue at length and come to the conclusion that "accepting yourself and what nature gave you" has worse negative mental health outcomes than helping alleviate their gender dysphoria by helping them make a medical and social transition. Peer reviewed studies bear this out. Sauce, the trans woman in the video, is clearly doing fine with her life and is not impacting yours in the least.
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  18. Agreed. It’s getting better. Hang in there.
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  19. Seems you don’t speak Thai, then. There aren’t 3rd person gendered pronouns.
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  20. @Sterling Mae The word ladyboy isn't derogatory in Thailand. It has none of the subtext that it does in the west. It's just a simple compound word that Thai people can remember and use largely for the benefit of English speakers. Thai people have their own Thai words.
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  21. Given that trans women are women, it is transphobic. It is the law in most of North America and Europe that trans women are legally permitted to use the women’s restroom. Millions of trans women use the women’s restroom everyday without incident.
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  22. Good for you. Enjoy your life.
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  23. There is no need to differentiate. If she looks beautiful, she is beautiful. Why overthink it?
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  24. Very open unfortunately does not include the ability for trans women to change their legal gender, nor can trans women legally marry their husbands. Thailand is a legal black hole for LGBT people. My wife is a Thai trans woman and it’s for reasons like this that we don’t live in Thailand. Thailand needs to do right by it’s LGBT citizens,
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  25.  @OYah137  Time to update your sources. My wife is trans. We have sex all the time. Don't take my word for it. You have the entire internet at your disposal. Plenty of trans women on youtube talking about their sex lives. Sure, there are some trans women that have difficulty with penetrative sex. There are also cisgender woman where this is also the case. Anal and oral sex is also a thing. The entire body is sensual.
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  26. Virginity is a sad sexist fictitious concept better thrown on the ash-heap of history than reconstructed on the operating room table.
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  27. Homophobia doesn’t deserve respect.
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  28. And lesbians have even lower transmission risk than heterosexuals.
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  29.  @陈明-n6i  Marriage works a lot differently in the US and Thailand. It's much more of an equal partnership. My wife and I share common expenses and big purchases and otherwise the money we make we keep for ourselves. We're not interested in kids and both of our parents don't care about that either so that's not a problem with our families. It took a while before my Mom could accept that my wife (girlfriend then) was trans. Eventually she understood and was cool with it.
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  30. @다이아나다이아나 You have no idea how long Gretchen's been taking hormones or what her strength actually is. That janitress gets a really good workout everyday cleaning. The janitress may very well be stronger. No I don't see how biased the media is. I see a trans woman who needed to pee and a transphobic janitreses thought she could get away with making Gretchen's life miserable by strongarm-ing her down to the security office. It didn't work out that way and it's an object lesson for others to leave trans women alone who just want to pee in peace without being harassed.
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  31. You’re welcome to see gender as in the body all you like. For me it’s in the mind. My wife is legally female. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you man and wife.” That’s good enough for me. If it’s not good enough for you, that’s fine. We all have free will and can see the world differently.
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  32. Don’t let the ageist racist haters get to you. Thailand is an amazing place to live.
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  33.  @grassguy1154  Believing in supernatural religious fairy tales is childish. That said you have every right to believe in childish things. What is abhorrent is denying someone the human right of legally marrying another consenting adult that they love so their relationship can be legally protected. This is is a basic function of government and Indonesia is failing it's LGBT people.
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  34.  @shadokiru1509  My sanity is fine. I simply respect the gender identity of others, truck.
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  35. Transgender people in Thailand and elsewhere have a diversity of opinion on the topic. It surely doesn't help that in Thailand one can't legally change one's gender the way one can in much of the west. It surely doesn't help trans women identify as women when your own ID card betrays you.
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  36.  @beeu6314  Languages borrow words and assign them their own meanings all the time. Thai people have their own Thai words for trans people, plenty of which are problematic also.
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  37. You should travel more. There are trans people in every country around the world.
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  38. Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. This was exactly my point. As a bisexual male whose Christian father disowned me until the day he died, whom is legally married to Thai ladyboy (in the US we can’t in Thailand) whose Thai Buddhist family is completely accepting of us, it’s a topic I’m intimately familiar with. Honestly, it’s defined most of the struggles of my entire life.
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  39. Obviously Thailand has bisexuals and lesbians too.
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  40.  @anniet494  My wife is a trans woman. I've also had long term relationships with cis women. I'm keenly aware of all the microeconomics involved here.
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  41. MMDbuddy, thanks for saying that. Finding guys to date who are curious isn’t usually difficult for trans girls. What’s a lot harder is finding guys to date that will take you home to mom, introduce you to friends and family, coworkers etc. There is a lot of stigma against guys dating trans girls too. Unlike trans girls whom have had years to think about and plan their transition, guys who find a trans girl attractive and go on a couple dates are immediately thrown into the position of wondering what friends and family they may lose as a result. My own father never talked to me again after I came out to him as bisexual. I wasn’t willing to have his transphobia and homophobia control and define my life. We all can make the world a better place to live for LGBT people by treating LGBT people and those who love them with respect and dignity and helping them achieve full equality under the law for their relationships.
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  42.  @Qui95Qui How you view yourself and how you want others to view you in society are not contingent on having or not having particular biological apparatuses or their reproductive capacity. Women have their uterus removed. Men have their prostates removed. Some women can bare children. Others cannot. How you view yourself and your own gender identity is your own agency. I cannot, as an observer on the sidewalk, know anything about someone's chromosomes, genetic profile, gene expression, or endocrinology nor is knowing that information important for civic life. We all gender others by casual visual and auditory inspection and go from there. That's just civic life. If someone has Klinefelter syndrome, Complete androgen insensitivity syndrome , chimerism and a host of other intersex conditions the physicality between the genders is extremely blurry. But that's Ok. When interacting with someone in a polite way, you use their name without asking them for 3 forms of photo identification. You can take gender just as it's given as well. It's just not that hard to do. Sure, if you want to interact with someone in an impolite way it doesn't matter. It's insults all the way down anyway. Trans women are under no illusion they've suddenly lost their Y chromosome during transition but nor is it doing much of anything after HRT. Some mammals don't even have a Y chromosome. It certainly doesn't keep a trans woman from looking like a woman or feeling like a woman. Pretend engaging in some type of biological witch hunt and gatekeeping about who is or isn't a real woman is counter productive to civil harmony at best and at worst creates an permanent underclass of people that are an economic drain, scuttling around at the edges of society. This is clearly visible in many oppressive societies around the world where trans people are pushed and pulled into sex work when legit alternatives are scarce due to employment discrimination and as some way, any way, to actualize their gender in reality. Happy to talk more and answer any questions you have.
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  43.  @mau6068  The writing system is tough and the tones are challenging to hear but at least the grammar is quite simple and if you can read it, pronouncing it is very accurate. It's like the opposite of the challenges of English in some ways.
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  44. Trouble with your pet theory is that taking steps to ameororate gender dysphoria with transition related medical steps has been clinically shown to reduce suicidal ideation and improve mental health outcomes for trans women compared to any other course of action. You know, regular doctor stuff. This is why every major medical and psychological association in the world supports gender transition for those that have gender dysphoria.
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  45. and... no one is surprised.
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  46.  @blk7747  Yep. They are famous Thai trans girls.
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  47.  @peliphonica  why thank you, elly. That is very nice of you to say.
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  48.  @pandaonsteroids5154  My wife is a Thai trans woman. We live in the US now. She was very anxious and proud to change her ID and passport to be female in the US but still can't in Thailand. I know very few Thai trans women in the US that don't change their legal ID in the US when they have the opportunity to do so.
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  49. AIDS is not a death sentence. Magic Johnson and Greg Louganis are doing just fine.
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  50. If one Identical twin is gay the other is vastly more likely to be gay. This is proven. There is a biological component to sexual orientation. It’s not the only component, but it is a component. Either way, determined at birth or not, people do not choose their sexual orientation.
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