Comments by "exnihilo415" (@exnihilo415) on "Asian Boss" channel.

  1. You do understand that the only reason LGBT people in any country have any legal protection for their relationships and to be legally recognized as their gender identity is because many people made it a point to be public about their sexual orientation and gender identity, right? Experience changes hearts and minds. If you’re young and bi and in the west and comfortably ensconced inside of the legal framework that LGBT civil rights leaders spent generations fighting for to put LGBT people on a level social playing field with heterosexuals, then yes it can seem not particularly important to publicly declare your LGBT status to others. That’s a privilege. For others living in places where this is absolutely not the case it is a vastly different experience and building public support is essential to get to the very place you take for granted. In a dozen counties in the world simply being LGBT is punishable by hard jail time. Others it’s more subtle with vast discrimination, social ostracism, etc. It is still a big deal in Korea and LGBT people thereby have a very long way to go to reach legal equality and social parity as is evidenced by this video.
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  2. Yes, as a bisexual I would have no problem being in a same sex relationship, that is factually correct. What is it that you’re trying to say about being gay? Use your words, man.
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  3. I'm glad to know that east Asian BL dramas have such a powerful reach. Thanks for letting us all know. My wife is a Thai trans women we're legally married in California. The world sure is a lot smaller than it used to be thanks to the internet.
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  4.  @grandanse5827  The Thai word is kathoey, which itself has changed in the Thai language over time. But there are other Thai words now too. Trans people have existed in every culture around the word into antiquity. Thai speakers adopt and adapt English words all the time, and sometimes they don't match their English meanings all that well. Language is a malleable thing.
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  5. Apathy is not support. Society is better when couples like this are accepted and have the right to legally marry. Just like these guys said, that's not going to happen by itself.
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  6.  @texasgun2731  LGBT leftist here. Not shocked, nor are any LGBT leftists I know.
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  7. @TatzRules Yay Plenty of Thai trans women are complaining about not being able to get legally married or change their legal gender. While Thailand is tolerant it has a lot of room for improvement and many trans rights that are commonplace in the west are completely absent in Thailand. My wife is a Thai trans woman and we’ve been waiting many years to be able to legally marry in Thailand. In California we’ve been married for many years already.
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  8. It’s all pretty much Theravada Buddhism in the Thai tradition, actually. Thai people are actually quite devote. Look at any survey of religious affiliation in Thailand and temple attendance. 95% of the population in surveys identify as Theravada Buddhists. There are are few percent of Muslims in the Deep South. That’s about it. You’re somehow confusing religious devotion with killing or hostile discrimination against LGBT people.
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  9. Satan doesn’t have a Thai visa. He was turned back at Suvarnabhumi.
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  10.  @2muchfun190  My wife is a Thai trans woman. We’re legally married in California. She’s legally female here. Her US passport days female. Her medical insurance in the US is required by law to pay for all her transition related health care. It is illegal to bar her from any place a woman could go. When we go to Thailand to visit all that changes. I can’t legally marry her in Thailand. Her Thai passport and ID reads male. We’re glad of course that Thailand has a high level of tolerance for trans people. Hopefully before long we can have a big wedding with her family as I know this is very important to her. Anyway, just sharing my perspective. We both love Thailand but we also just the lives of Thai LGBT people to be improved.
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  11.  @HenryTheBoilermaker3rdYear  I'm aware of the mythology. There are aware there are almost no Christians in Thailand, right? Consequently they have no use for your mythological stories about God or Satan. They're getting along just fine without these stories demonizing Thai LGBT people, thanks.
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  12. The best thing about being an American is not being subject to America’s foreign policy.
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  13. I mean wife. My wife is legally female. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife. “
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  14. What part of the previous seems unclear to you? : “ Let me be clear. I don’t believe in the concept of a biological woman. Gender is in the mind and not the body. It doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of various biological structures. Women without a uterus are still women. If it does for you, that’s great. Makes no difference to me.” Talk all you like, this is the position I’m taking to the grave.
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  15.  @sthirukk  We're doing well. We're hoping Thailand gets it's act together and passes some LGBT rights laws. While there is a great deal of social tolerance in Thailand there are few legal rights. I can't legally marry my wife. She can't legally change her gender. There is no public accommodation law and very weak discrimination and adoption law. It's for these reasons that we live in California now that has none of these legal problems but hope by the time we are ready to retire that Thailand gets it together. Know hope.
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  16. Gay people are not going to live in the closet just so you can pretend everyone around you is heterosexual. That’s not acceptance that’s homophobia.
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  17.  @simfonik6725  It's absolutely relevant and I'm not going to hide my sexuality in the closet for anyone's benefit. Your sexual orientation is a big part of your life. It's who you love. Why is this difficult to understand?
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  18. Step ahead of you, bro. Married a Thai trans woman years ago. Best decision I ever made.
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  19.  @jehielhernandez8152  You know that male pattern baldness is caused by dihydrotestosterone, right? This is how all treatments for androgenic alopecia work. Disrupting this mechanism. You know that trans women on hormone replacement therapy are suppressing testosterone via medications like spironolactone and have female levels of estrogen by taking Estradiol, right?
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  20.  @000snow000  I wouldn't say that it's nearly so sharply defined as that. Plenty of trans girls will refer to themselves as Ladyboy or Kathoey, even after having SRS or think of themselves as female without having SRS. Sure, there is a cultural role for 3rd gender people all across south Asia of course from the Kinnar in India to the Waria in Indonesia but simultaneously there is a growing western LGBT sensibility in Thailand. It is a country of 70 million people after all and a diversity of opinions is to be expected, including huge block of people that will always see trans woman as just Kathoey and not as women. My wife is a Thai trans women. I've known her before and after SRS. SRS is usually centered more around alleviating dysphoria than gatekeeping womanhood. Happy to chat about it.
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  21. So you’ll point out the data as long as it casts LGBT people in a negative light. Aha. Thanks for clarifying.
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  22.  @binchen  If you want to find horrible people and put them on TV you can find them in every country in the world. At the end of the day individual relationships are what matter. Generalizing negatively about groups rarely makes the world a better place.
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  23. In the west, it is degrading but the word doesn’t have the same meaning in Thailand. It has none of that negative subtext. It’s just an easy word to remember, say and pronounce for Thai people who (as a whole) are not very proficient English speakers. Thailand has a great number of loan words from English that do not match the English meaning exactly. My wife is a Thai trans woman so this is a topic I’m quite familiar with.
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  24. Thailand sure is a lot more progressive on LGBT issues than Japan is.
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  25. There is social tolerance but there are no laws to help ladyboys in Thailand live their authentic lives. Ladyboys can’t change their gender on their ID card or passport no matter what surgrry they have. Ladyboys just can’t marry cis men. There is vast employment discrimination in government and white collar jobs. HIV job discrimination is vast in Thailand. There is soft social acceptance but it’s a legal black hole for trans people in Thailand.
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  26. True enough until you want to change your legal gender or get legally married. Then you’re out of luck in Thailand. Both of these rights are common in the west.
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  27. This is my story as well. Well my friends were fine, only family. Eventually my mother came around after my father died. I wouldn’t change a thing either. I’ve never had a better relationship. Thai trans girls are amazing. We’ve been together 19 years at this point.
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  28.  @wox851  As a bisexual I've dated gay cis men. I've also dated straight cis women. I've been happy and proud to be in both relationships. I know exactly how gay it isn't to date a trans woman. Believe me, I'd be happy to tell you all about how gay it is to be in a relationship with a trans woman, if that actually were the case. It just isn't. That seems like a wealth of comparative relationship experience that you just don't have.
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  29.  Cian MacGana  I’m bisexual. Thanks for your all interest in my sexuality. I’ve had long term relationships with cis women, gay men and trans women. I know exactly how gay it isn’t to be in a relationship with a trans woman because I’ve had relationships with gay men and with cis women. Seems like a lot of life experience that you haven’t had. If you want to really understand it yourself, get into some relationships with trans woman and then get into some relationships with gay men and then you’ll know the difference yourself. Otherwise you’re just armchair quarterbacking.
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  30.  @chris30555  So, you're just overlooking the heterosexual aspect of bisexuality and all the heterosexual relationships I've had with cis women? What part about being bisexual is so difficult for you to understand?
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  31. Being LGBT is not illegal and everyone has the autonomy to not choose stoicism as their personal philosophy. It’s differential enforcement to rail on the hedonism of the LGBT community while ignoring the vast and pervasive heterosexual hedonism on display practically everywhere. Feel free to say that was a simple oversight and continue your schoolmarmish campaign against hedonism. I’ll be as effective now as it ever has been.
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  32. Correct.
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  33. Many thanks, Emo Duck. I do know that but thanks for saying so. Everyone has the right to their own opinions, transphobic or otherwise. I have a happy life with my wife and no amount of internet banter can change that. Mostly I find it sad that the lives of other LGBT people in much less ideal circumstances is such a needless struggle because of These attitudes. Know hope!
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  34.  @autisticphaglosophy7128  So you know "all the data" but can't find anything anywhere about LGBT people that could cast them or their contributions to society in a good light? Were you born that homophobic or did you have to work your way up to it?
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  35. Thai people don’t care much about religion? Surely you’re joking. There are over 40,000 temples in Thailand.
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  36. You are aware of bisexuality, yes?
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  37. Still a man to you. A woman to me and millions of others that support trans people in their gender identity.
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  38. Travel to some places where being LGBT is very much discriminated against and you’ll see LGBT banding together intentionally for companionship and community when they are rejected by broader society. That was the way it was everywhere not so many years ago.
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  39.  @faz3662  It's true. The awesomeness is contagious. Happy pride.
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  40. You do realize that every professional medical and psychological association in North America and Europe follow a “WPATH standard of care” which includes medical gender transition. That is, anyone that goes to a licensed doctor or psychiatrist with persistent and consistent feelings of gender dysphoria will begin a medical treatment to transition the body to match the mind. Doctors in Thailand are also following the same standard. Feel free to not believe me and look it up for yourself. When it comes to medical and psychological issues, you’ll understand that I choose to follow standard practice, as Sauce has as evidenced in this interview.
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  41.  LeGM  Pretty sure growing hair isn't that difficult.
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  42.  @chris30555  Can't even engage in the idea of bisexuality, eh? That challenging is it?
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  43. My wife is a Thai trans woman. Thailand can be a mixed bag for trans people. Social acceptance and harmony is good. That said there is a no LGBT law in Thailand. I can’t marry my wife in Thailand she can’t change her legal gender. In that west such things are commonplace today.
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  44. Not complicated at all. You can say something about a baby’s genitals or the baby’s chromosomes but not gender. That’s self determined and only when the baby grows up enough to tell you how they view themselves in the world will it / can it be known. Sure, for 98% of people there is no incongruity between mind and body but imposing a gender upon someone against their will seems counterproductive at best and cruel at worst.
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  45.  @julioduan7130  That only applies if you are afraid of being considered gay. Seems to me China's homophobia is killing China's own traditions.
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  46. Not to me
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  47.  @Ilovegrunge123  Legalizing gay marriage isn’t so easy when you don’t even have a functioning democracy at the moment. There are bigger problems. I say that as someone that’s been waiting years to marry my trans wife in Thailand.
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  48.  @xiaomi198  Nope. Gender is in the mind, not the body. My wife is a trans woman. She’s legally female. The county clerk said, “I now pronounce you husband and wife” when we were married. When you get to know many trans women personally you’ll come to understand that there is more to gender than chromosomes and endocrinology. No matter the religion you believe in it doesn’t change the gender someone wants to be been seen as and how they see themselves.
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  49.  @thelingeringartist  Most of the hateful ones get deleted, thankfully.
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  50. Isn’t that discomfort actually transphobia? I bet if you got to know a trans girl it wouldn’t be an issue.
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