Comments by "Dharmadasa" (@dharmadasa66) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. See the 6:45 timestamp in the video. He specifically says, in relation to your past behaviour. If you are a shy virgin, hold hands in the most enthusiastic, passionate way you can. He will think "She is a virgin but really wants me above all others. I matter. I count. I bet she will be great going forwards". A man will estimate your past and come to the conclusion that his presence is driving you to greater levels of commitment and enthusiasm on your part.
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  2.  @ScarletRiley  The silent treatment is far from toxic when the toxicity is emanating from the other side. By refusing to validate drama it enervates that toxicity and eventually allows reason to enter the space. It is not necessarily passive aggressive, it can be patient and a form of leadership.
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  3. Women following this advice can lead high value men into considering marriage.
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  4.  @lauracolo06  You are avoiding the fundamental issue which is "What value does a women bring to a man and a relationship?". And no, it isn't being a boss babe or making money or demands he enable her career, or even the cleaning and housework. You misunderstand Dr. Taraban. He said basic services can be outsourced. Women talk about 'team' but never bother to consider what that means in regards their contribution. They think that they are team players just by existing. Women think they are the table and the prize without having to do ANYTHING and high value men know that is not true. So good luck getting one if you are not agreeable, kind, friendly, loyal, good-hearted etc. See the three videos he made for women: "How to get any man you want: (1) the master key; (2) the hook; and (3) the unbreakable rule."
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  5.  @clauaome25  Indeed. And so have men. So it should be. But men have figured out that women have stopped providing value and men are expected to continue to provide value, so the equation does not balance any more. That is what the whole discussion between the genders is about.
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  6.  @14margott  The reason men are no longer able to win a decent women's respect, love, affection etc. is because there are now very, very few decent women to provide such.
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  7.  @judithojiaka5346  By exploiting them. Aren't we talking about the same thing? I agree with your view on their desire for control. That exploitation is using their victims and rendering them useful to the dark triad individual, for gratification, exploitation etc. I think this is a verbal/semantic difference and we are aligned. The oppressor may still seek usefulness in their victim. It is up to normal people to avoid exploitation, so I agree we should not put ourselves in harm's way.
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  8. You are idealising mature women by assuming they bring significant value to a relationship, and deprecating men by assuming their preferences reflect malign motives (control and dominance). Many factors are in play and some might surprise you.
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  9. It is describing the reality, which is increasingly transactional, and men are waking up to the fact that women provide much less value than they used to. Heterosexual relationships are increasingly a power struggle since feminism turned them into that.
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  10.  @jared3003  Having children is not just "basically sex". It is far more.
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  11.  @mbg9650  This has to be sarcasm, right? Father's Day is a reminder that men could do more for women? Sarcasm, or utter self-absorption...please let us know.
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  12.  @roses6564  "That’s not for him to decide." Who is this he/him you are referring to? The OP (carlospita6442), or Dr. Orion Taraban in the video? How can you assert what he can or cannot decide? Who is the "us" you refer to? You and me, the commentators, society at large? How do you know he is a mountain of ego? Based on what? How can you claim that a "monopoly" on toxicity is assumed by one party in regards the other? Could it not be the case that when toxicity appears in the counterparty, silence can be an appropriate response? You seem to be saying that you alone have the ability to decide what people think, do and say, and that you can decide unilaterally what should apply in all situations. Then you accuse others of ego. You are cray cray, your sentences lack grammatical clarity, your assumptions are swingeing, you are setting up strawman arguments for the sake of your own ego and adding nothing to a debate on interpersonal dynamics other than wild accusations. Calm down. Stop pointing fingers based on boogie men in your own imagination.
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  13.  @hk5454  It is the women filing for divorce in 80% of marriage break-ups, not the men.
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  14.  @haroldb1856  Until the divorce which is a 50% certainty.
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  15. "Provided each one follows their roles"......and women's roles have changed massively, while men's remain the same. Women are no longer required to play a supportive role, and don't (in general).
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  16.  @yoohoo952  A high value man is what the woman values as high value. That is why it is called a 'market value'. When Orion asks women to consider how they get commitment from a high value man he does not define a high value man that much because obviously it is up to the woman to define it. If he does lean towards a general definition, it is because that is what most women (his audience) define as high value. As women tend to define such men in terms of success, then it is on them. Of course if a woman values compassion, empathy, loyalty etc. then she should seek that. His advice still applies: provide that man with value yourself. Why does all this need explaining in the modern age? Because people have lost sight of what value is, expecting everyone to provide it to them and not give anything back in return.
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  17.  @roses6564  Silly attempt to twist words. Obviously the comment is conditional with the word 'when'. Not always, "when". In those circumstances., when that occurs, in dependence upon that etc. Thus, you agree with me in your use of "Maybe, maybe not". So why are you arguing? For the sake of arguing, or appearing clever? You cannot be trusted to follow a grammatical and logical sequence and do not come across as clever or considered. You have added nothing to the discussion, what a bore.
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  18.  @roses6564  What do you mean? You are babbling.
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  19.  @andersnielsen6044  May be in Sweden and Nordic countries, not everywhere.
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  20.  @masterTigress96  Well said.
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  21. The channel is intended for any-one that has the intellect to understand it. Men and women. You can fairly say that other women have ruined it for genuine ones like yourself. Yes. Of course, some men are ruining it for other men too, in different ways. Society as the aggregate expression of the hearts and minds of men and women is ruining it for everyone too. The only solution is to express your own values, know and be true to yourself, and try to bring the best into your life and create it as you go. The ruination of men and women is a numbers game. You just have to play longer odds.
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  22. Absolutely agreeable personality is far and above the most important thing normal men seek in women. Everything else follows or is negotiable. A kind-hearted women is incredibly valuable and actually much much rarer than people think.
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  23. 6:45 timestamp in the video. Try to understand the significance of the 6:45 timestamp.
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  24. The tone is super important. The question should be reasonable, and not convey serious doubts, unless it is deserved. Of course it is fair to ask reasonable questions. The tone, and openness to a fair answer, is everything.
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  25.  @shyamalidasgupta671  Feminism has not notably led to the massive contribution to society from women that you claim. And your assertion that this would occur if only women were supported more is unprovable. Men still make by far the greatest contributions to human advancements and women opt for less taxing paths.
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  26. Look in your friend zone.
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  27.  @garrettdanielsii2305  And you are wrong right there. That is exactly what #3 is about.
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  28.  @filthycasual9381  Exactly. He is talking about the general transactional (two-way) aspects of relationships where roles are somewhat differentiated. The fact that Melawieeinapfel thinks of it as money shows where her priorities lie.
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  29.  @andersnielsen6044  But has she? And do the courts really adjudicate it fairly? Many people think not.
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  30.  @andersnielsen6044  I point out your conclusions are not generalisable across the world and you accuse me of failing to vote properly. Non-sequitur logical fallacy. Your thinking is feminine.
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  31. A market place set the overall exchange value through aggregating the individual choices, predilections, motivations and activities of countless individuals. Here the market refers to the collective outcome of human action. When people go to a market they each bring widely different reasons, desires, choices and exchange values. Nonetheless the market exists and the exchange value emerges as the average price point. That is why it is a market. Each vendor and purchaser acts independently, yet typically price discovery emerges. It is a model based on aggregated human action, in general, to deduce society wide effects. You are arguing that markets don't exist, have you ever been shopping?
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  32. It is still the black pill. Who says they will ever understand this or care? It is difficult to correct a person's view when their well-being and security requires them to ignore the truth.
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  33. Agreed. The reason he is pitching to a lower level is that unfortunately this is where we are as a society. Most people are operating at a very low level on the AQAL scale. Although your view is valid it would appear it is only accessible to a few. High cultures cultivate higher levels, and the West did until the mid 20th Century, but now the West is in steep declension.
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  34. Leaving is one.
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  35. Agree with the dual-mating strategy you outlined, already well underway and has been for decades. Alternatively, women marry the State and get all their support and protection from the biggest Daddy of them all, with a monopoly on force. Already well advanced in modern society across multiple domains. Other options are lesbianism (increasingly popular but probably only a short-term stop gap for predominantly heterosexual women), and longer -term, we will see the rise of polygamy (women sharing a high value man). Such high value men are likely to be servants of the plutocracy/State, leading to a convergence of interest between women and authoritarianism. Again, well underway.
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  36. ​ @rob21  Things get complicated when one side see themselves as "high value". Seeing yourself as 'high value' is indeed a problem and one that besets one sex in particular. The world is full of examples evertwhere you look and the sex ratio of delusion is highly skewed. I'll let you guess which way it goes.
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  37.  @rob21  That is why Dr. Taraban has to make these videos. To school the deluded.
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  38. Dr. Taraban goes down this route because his female clients identify 'high money earning' as what they value. The transactional issues start with their 'standards' I'm afraid.
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  39.  @Dewane1511  True. They don't care, and resent men for their agency. Freud called it penis envy, and he wasn't really talking about the organ. He proposed that is just the first manifestation in childhood. It grows from there.
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  40.  @masterTigress96  Think carefully about the timestamp starting at 6:45 in the video.
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  41. This is the absolute truth. This dynamic also underlies the problem of male disposability throughout society. People typically deprecate and de-humanise those they exploit, and the lack of empathy for men shown by women (the evidence is everywhere) has its roots in the need of women to use men for their resources while giving the bare minimum in return.
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  42. The world id full of men who want a stay-at-home wife and mother for their future kids. Something is blocking you from meeting them, probably you yourself.
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  43. 6:45 timestamp. 6:45 time stamp. In case you missed it, 6:45 timestamp. Please try to understand more deeply.
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  44. Demonstrate your stead-fast nature, possible not only in regards her, but other aspects of your life. Show her you pursue your goals but are ethical and guided by self-restraint, stoicism. You have character. Show her you are capable of being edgy but also have discipline. You have to mix it up.
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  45.  @QED_  Nailed it.
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  46.  @TheRomans9Guy  Well said, well said, laying out the truth here.
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  47. Funny how things never change right? I guess those old-time women were simply stupid, not like the modern boss babes who know exactly what's up.
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  48.  @jenkech5824  Until a better man comes along...to give you MORE.
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  49.  @shyamalidasgupta671  True
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  50. Put that question to the women and feminists who demand 'equality' while not providing it. Men are calculating the benefit/cost ratio and walking away.
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