Comments by "Armor Bearer" (@armorbearer9702) on "The Japan Reporter" channel.

  1. What concerns me is the lack of trust in Japanese society. She described Japanese society as harsh(6:19). A place that does not accept other peoples hobbies(3:50) and where people are unkind to each other(8:58). Relationships are full of jealousy(0:29). Childhood is lonely(3:46) and extremally challenging (1:43). If this is the experience for most people in Japan, the birthrate will never increase.
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  2. (8:17) It disturbs me that they automatically assume the husband is an abuser. This could lead to situations where the mother abuses the child and pins all the blame on the father.
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  3. I think the most important question was not asked. Nobita should have asked, "Are you aware of the downsides of getting into porn". She said that she wanted to have her own family in the future(8:18). Is she aware of the problems porn stars face when looking for love? She already has great difficulty finding a boyfriend(8:01). I highly doubt securing a husband will be easier.
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  4. (4:46) You have a good point. Nothing can change if everybody is on the defensive. It would be better for foreigners to respectfully tell Japanese people when they feel uncomfortable. Foreigners are held to different standards so they can be a little more direct. As long as it is said respectfully, there should be no problem.
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  5. There are a couple of things that make me wonder how truthful she actually is: 1. She says her husband will understand(2:56), yet she felt the need to sign on first before telling him(3:55). 2. She says she was concerned about her son being bullied(3:05), yet she does nothing to hide her identity. I know she is not ashamed, but she should try to hide her identity for her son. Nobita interviewed a woman who cheated on her husband. She did not have to give her name and her face was blurred. Why did Arisa not ask for a similar conditions? 3. She claims there are no big issues between them(6:34), yet there are clearly some major issues mentioned. Arisa clearly states that she is not sexually satisfied(6:30). When she was getting into porn, her husband thought she was cheating on him(13:59). This indicates their are some trust issues between them.
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  6. Tread carefully, there is much debate in the west whether DEI is a net positive for society. In fact, I am starting to see some of the negative effects of DEI already with Kana getting death threats(3:20). I hope Japan does not get to the point where DEI cannot be criticized like what happened in the west.
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  7. Yoshio makes an interesting claim. He specifically said that older adults looked after younger singles and tried to help them find partners (11:28). These meddlers helped pair up single people. This kind of matchmaking requires some close-knit community to be in place. From what I heard, Japanese people are not close to their neighbors in cities. This is why some people die in their apartments and not have their bodies discovered for months. Perhaps if there was stronger community ties young singles might welcome meddlers back instead of treating them like nuisances(13:03).
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  8. Interesting, it appears the hosts target girls from the country(3:50) and runaways(7:19). The common factor is that both groups are isolated from their family. If possible, rural parents should try to visit their daughters in the city as often as they can.
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  9. This reminded me of what Hugh Jackman said in an interview. When he was filming The Wolverine, he complained that maintaining his superhero physique was getting harder. I imagine something similar is happening to Japanize porn actors. The entire body must be idly proportioned to satisfy their audience. It seems the job might be to difficult to do when they hit their 40s.
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  10. This is why it is important to learn the dark and light parts of history. Perhaps you can elaborate more on what Japanese teach in history class. I heard Japanese avoid teaching the dark side of their history.
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  11. First, I would like to thank the couple for sharing their story. There is an important lesson here that needs more attention. People need to understand their partners love language. Wakapyon never understood that Mika needed physical contact in order to feel loved. He thought spending time with her was enough(3:18). Mika clearly needs physical touch in order to feel loved. The moment Mika felt unwanted was when there was no physical contact(5:18). I understand Wakapyon has trouble performing with a partner(8:16); however, there are other ways to show physical intimacy. He could hold her hand, hug her, or kiss her to satisfy Mika's need for physical touch.
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  12. I would like to hear what the elderly say about the situation. Many elderly do want their kids to get married and have children. Are the elderly aware of the problem or are the kids hiding how much they sacrifice to take care of them?
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  13. (3:24) I know Japan is behind when it comes to volunteer work; however, the reason is probably the workaholic culture. Long work hours do not leave much time to volunteer. If they have a family or parents they need to take care of, they will have only a small amount of time to themselves.
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  14. I picked up that girls that are away from their families have a higher chance of doing porn. Perhaps Japanese parents should encourage their daughters to go to nearby colleges over prestigious ones.
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  15. (4:01) This is the most disturbing part. It seems like the parents did not punish the son for fondling his sister. I know they care about their image; however, Kaho's parents could have scolded him privately. Either her parents never cared about her or they honestly are ok with sexual harassment.
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  16. (5:08) Do they have more specific data on which foreigners are abusing the healthcare system?
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  17. (9:41) It sounds like an interesting topic to cover. What online dating is really like in Japan.
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  18. How much does the host/hostess culture affect the cheating scene? I figure these establishments probably boost the rates of cheating in Japan.
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  19. I do feel bad for women who try to look for help online only to get horrible flashbacks of her sexual assault (2:02). Perhaps the sex educators can teach girls to type some specific words or phrases that will only show help or support for sexual assault in search engines.
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  20. Yeah, most people cannot even speak two languages like you can.
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  21. It is interesting that Rinka said that husbands have wives around their age, but they prefer porn(7:48). According to Mari, Japanese men say that their wives' body is unattractive(6:21). Perhaps the men are not being honest about the real reason they find their wives unattractive. I have heard from another Japanese channel that Japanese woman turn into another person after marriage. On Nobita's channel, their was a guy he interviewed that said he avoided being at home as much as possible. He said his wife was constantly attacking him and making him feel unwelcome in his home. I highly doubt he and his wife have an active sex life. Her attitude is so hostile that he does not want to come near her. Perhaps this is true for other Japanese men. Their wives may be attractive, but their behavior is a huge turn off. I know a lot of guys that will not touch a 9 out of 10 if she has a hostile attitude.
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  22. It sounds like Japan needs to find some way to lower college costs or offer alternative paths to decent careers. It was mentioned a couple of times that young girls go into prostitution to pay off their student loans(2:00)(5:02)(7:38). Does anyone know if it is necessary to have a degree if you want a decent job in Japan?
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  23. Momoko is on point (4:04). I bet the Japanese politicians families are still going to be alright when the country goes under. With the population largely discouraged from voting, these hereditary politicians have little reason to make changes for the masses.
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  24. I heard that before you talk to a Japanese pornstar you need to contact the company first. Some of what she said could have been influenced by her employers.
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  25. Legally, the age of consent of Japan is 13 so the tutor did not do anything illegal(4:04); however, I would be furious if I was her parent. Sadly, it appears that Yuka did not tell her mother about her relationship with the tutor.
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  26. Your second piece of advice(12:54) is probably the most important. It is important that the hospitality workers are appropriately compensated for their work.
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  27. Thank you for sharing your story.
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  28. I think it is great for the elderly people like Pecorino and Urirui are enjoying their solitude. The problem is that this is not good for the youth. More solitude means more people not meeting potential spouses. The birthrate will continue to decline. Additionally, more solitude means the older generations are not going to be able to pass their knowledge down to the next generation.
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  29. Percorino brings a solid point(7:57). How many young adults in Japan grew up in happily married households? How many see their older coworkers in happy marriages? If the answer is not many, then the government can pass any legislation they want, but it will not help. Keep in mind there are a variety of ways of artificially meeting emotional needs. Sexual services can be bought as well.
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  30. If the client is not nervous, then can the shower be skipped(4:46)? I suspect the shower is unskippable for hygienic purposes.
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  31. (4:34) Ouch, what she did was harsh. You said later on that Korean women would be easier to date than Japan women. 😂 Seriously, do you think Japanese or Korean women are more forgiving if you make a mistake on a date?
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  32. I am glad hikikomori are getting the opportunity to work. I hope they do well and show Japan the advantages of working remotely.
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  33. (6:45) I find this the most shocking. Why would they portray them positively when being a porn star is considered disgraceful?
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  34. The odds are not in favor of female hikikomori. If they need to see a female consultant(1:15), then they are probably gonna go untreated. Male hikikomori are the focus and can accept female or male consultant. This means that a female hikikomori will only get help if a female consultant does not have any male clients.
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  35. I would like to hear what her mom has to say about her hiding the bullying from her(3:50). If I was her parent, I would be furious with her for not telling me. I would feel guilty for life for not doing more when my child needed me the most.
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  36. It is a shame that getting therapy is looked down in Japan. Couples should be encouraged to seek couples therapy if their marriage is in a rough spot.
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  37. It is a good sign that many women are wanting to get married and have kids. Japan's population is on the decline. Perhaps it is time to stop shaming "christmas cakes" and instead encourage them not to give up on romance.
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  38. Oh, like that movie with Will Smith, Hitch
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  39. I will have to disagree with Tachibana. He claims that bullying is done in a way that the adults don't notice(4:39). When Chiaki was bullied, her classmates were comfortable enough to shout insults from the window. This video shows a bully delivering a beatdown on another kid(5:01). It seems like the bullies are not afraid of the adults noticing their actions.
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  40. I can understand why Ishiba wants to take a diplomatic approach to China. China does have a lot of power in modern times.
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  41. You have a strong point. Churches tend to focus on poor countries. The church has abandoned more developed countries like Japan to revel in sin. Too bad, you could get more people to be missionaries in more developed nations. Many people do not have the health to go into underdeveloped countries.
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  42. You made me realize that the main problem is education. The young need dating and sex education. Young men need to learn that dating does not have to be expensive(12:34). A cheap coffee date is fine. Money is important, but being confident and taking the initiative are more important(9:32). Dating and romance in real life is different than in media(12:42). Most importantly, a woman's body cannot bear children forever. The entire IVF section[ (15:10) - (21:00) shows that trying to get pregnant in the late 30s and 40s can be an expensive and painful experience. Even if a woman can get pregnant, there is a high risk of chromosomal abnormalities developing(20:31). This means the child has a high chance of developing birth defects and other health issues.
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  43. I am not surprised that only the large companies in Japan follow regulations(3:14)(4:00). The government probably does not have the resources to verify if the medium and small companies are complying with the law. Because of the culture, it would be unreasonable to assume that the employees will report their company to the government.
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  44. Is there any delivery health services available for foreigners? It sounds like an easier and safer way to get sexual services.
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  45. There are several ideas that I believe can require more discussion: 1. Japanese companies do not want to hire women with kids(10:40): Is it because they believe that these women cannot put in the necessary hours? I know Japanese working culture is demanding and requires employees to work extra hours, go to nomikai, and discourage using vacation time. Kids are not compatible with these harsh hours. There are gonna be times when the child needs additional attention from their mother. 2. Japanese women are not very understanding or good at communicating(14:32): The expert mentioned that women are easily triggered by light joking(14:33) and unintentionally offending them(14:40). I remember in a previous video that there was a father that came home late every day. The reason was that he was trying to avoid coming home. The wife complained that he did not help out, but she got angry when he did try to help for not doing it the "proper way". This video makes gives some credibility to his statements. I know in Japan that harmony is highly valued. If the wife is gonna constantly snap, of course the husband is gonna avoid coming home so that he does not disturb the peace.
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  46. (12:16)It is sad the teachers have this kind of mentality. Perhaps Japan should educate the teachers first. Counselors can only do so much when teachers refuse to help.
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  47. It is interesting that Jyuki said people find her scary(5:00). I can understand Japanese people call gyaru girls ugly or disrespectful. Conforming to a certain look is mandatory. What is scary about a gyaru? Are they believed to be apart of a gang or something?
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  48. This is interesting. These girls who work in hostess clubs know their livelihood is tied to their youth and beauty(4:43). Knowing this, they do not marry any of their clients. Even if they despise men and see them as ATMS(8:01), a marriage to a rich older guy would secure financially for the future. She would not need to please a whole bunch of guys for cash(7:33). Additionally, it reduces her chance of catching syphilis.
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  49. I can't help but feel bad for her. Guys basically used her all her life. She was mainly used for sex(3:35)(3:48)(5:13), but she was scammed once(4:11). It is not surprising that she is ok having sex with strangers.
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  50. (7:39) Interesting, it appears that Japenese men learn about sex from porn. The mom does not give her son the "talk."
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