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  1. “Love has nothing to do with getting what you want” as always, great video Orion
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  2. “Sometimes it’s more effective to lose well than to win poorly”
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  3. limbo is the first cicle of hell, where nothing bad happens to you, but nothing good wont be happening, boredom is one type of hell.
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  4. What makes it hard personally for me is that I genuinely love many of these women bro, I've just never been a relationship-oriented dude. Women show lots of love, I show it back, but then they want EVERYTHING, and I can't give them that cause im a solitary person. From the outside it looks like we're "playing" these women, when in reality I show women lots and lots of love and experiences. Sometimes things just don't work out, and other times they understand me and still love me anyway, never abandoning me. Those are the women In my life I love the most, and always will. I feel the happiest and most free when im with them.❤️
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  5. Wow, this hit hard. Society keeps telling men to be strong, independent, and self-sufficient—but at what cost? The fact that so many men have no close friends is honestly heartbreaking. Friendships aren’t just ‘nice to have,’ they’re essential for mental health and happiness. And yet, men are subtly punished for prioritizing them. The part about men outsourcing their social lives to their wives really got me—what happens when that safety net disappears? This video is a wake-up call. Time to start valuing friendships before it’s too late. Who else feels this?"
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  6. 8:25-8:46 really resonated with me. When my ex-fiancée dumped me I had no problem letting her go because it was what she wanted and all I wanted was for her to be happy; I then mourned what I had lost over the following months but had no long-lasting ill effects. I dumped my last girlfriend in anger because of everything she did to me; it took me years to let go and find peace. I loved this episode Dr. Taraban. This is a great message to spread along.
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  7. Imagine paying loads of money on therapy only to realise that you needed set boundaries and exercises extreme levels of self-care by removing yourself from someone's life.. This content is extremely eye opening.. I bet you someone out there is trying to figure out how they can love someone better, but only to find it that they should love someone else 🔥
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  8. Don't waste valuable energy on something you have no control over. Worry about yourself, your immediate family, and your friends. One usually comes by with time. It's better to be ready than to get ready if your future wife/girlfriend comes across you 👍🏾
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  9. Perfect shirt for the topic too
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  10. As a young 20s male your videos have had a massive impact on my life and relationships. You’re awesome
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  11. Saying what needs saying. Bravo.
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  12. The more videos I watch from Orion, the more I enjoy a peaceful existence. I still can't believe how much you changed my life in just 6 months. Thank you!
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  13. Hello Orion: You have described my childhood perfectly. However, in my case my sister is four years older than me. My sister would have tantrums in order to pressure my mother to push me into the background. Ultimately, my sister lost because her approach to adult life is to always have tantrums. That behaviour has failed dramatically. Have a lovely day.
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  14. Or like Teddy Roosevelt said, “It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena…”
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  15. This message is incredible. I was a top sales rep at my last company. I started at a new company and what worked at my last employer is not working here. Same field, same occupation but I’m not getting the same successful results here as I did there. I thought my same way of doing business there would apply here. It didn’t. I’ve had to pivot, humble myself and work a lot harder at this new company to get a fraction of the results I got at the previous company. It’s been challenging but my hard work these past few months is now starting to show in my numbers these past few weeks. Thank you for articulating this so well. It’s helped me to put my situation in more perspective.
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  16. “Anger leads to clouding of judgment, which results in bewilderment of memory. When memory is bewildered, the intellect gets destroyed; and when the intellect is destroyed, one is ruined.” – The Mahabharata.
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  17. Another point: we're accustomed to losing. We're used to it. It's familiar. Winning is unexplored territory and therefore scary. We don't know what might happen. Referencing some of Orion's early themes, men want peace in relationships; we don't like drama. The prospect of winning has the possibility (probability) to upset a lot of apple carts.
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  18. Not sure why his branded living room set up is soooo soothing and comforting. Its like, the common man sharing wisdom, psychology and mother wit, one of our own. Someone just like us. No Hollywood, no big set up, no false pretenses. I think you have the most successful brand around friend.
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  19. I’ve had a similar experience a couple years ago. It was like the ground disappeared from beneath my feet, my eyes teared up and for once in my life I saw the beauty of existence. I’ve never felt a deeper sense of gratitude for being alive.
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  20. Most people who married probably never found love. Marriage was an economic arrangement that made subsistence agriculture more practical and people didn't want to starve, so they got married. How did they choose a partner? You married the girl you got pregnant as a teenager. I don't think people know just how rare the thing they are looking for probably is.
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  21. I did once get a girl to apologize. It wasn't through logic but through feelings - I had flipped the situation for her to give her a perspective of how she'd feel if someone had done something similar to what she did to her boyfriend. In the end she admitted wrong doing and apologized to him (I always fight for the homies)
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  22. A successful man is one that can make more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. - Lana Turner
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  23. Spot on. I work about 13 days a month. When I got a 90%raise two years ago, I was finally able to be of great service to charity, friends, extended family. I didn't by a bunch of "things" to clutter my life. I have improved my mood (keeps the depression away) by active altruism. Helping others with money to progress in their goals has an altruistic multiplier effect. All this isn't possible without my 90% raise. The trick is to not want extravagant material things!
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  24. When I started your book, I thought you were a woman hating ass. When I finished it , I realized I’ve been the ass. It really opened my eyes while I was ending a crappy marriage in which i wasted years of my life being completely disrespected. Sometimes societal guilt, family and even religious beliefs will keep you where you don’t want to be for a long time . I think you’re truly saving some people from a lot of pain, I appreciate that you share so much and you speak so logically. It really hits the mark. I am still a big believer in love and while I don’t want to lost that part of me, now I feel better equipped to make better choices . I won’t let anyone disrespect me ever again either. Anyway, I didn’t want to like you😅, I was hoping you were wrong about everything, but you’re damn insightful. Thanks for sharing so much, Doc . I wish you much success 🎉
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  25. I have owned a construction business for almost twenty years now. I don't really like going on proper dates with women. I invite them to come and work for me. Kind of as a joke. Lots of them are interested in what I do and will actually offer to come and help. Psychologically it gets them into my program and in the mindset of helping me. It also puts me in my element and in a position of authority which is intoxicating for women. This is a win-win for both sides and in any long-term relationship, I want my girl to be supportive of my mission. Like we are a team and she is my side kick.
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  26. This is the best and most practical teaching about love, you've preached the whole gospel without even trying to
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  27. None of the negative feelings you have towards women will help you. In fact, they will make things worse. Women are what they are, you can't control that or change that. Accept it and try to find a "high quality" woman - that doesn't mean someone with a high paying job or a boss babe, just someone with traditional values who will appreciate you.
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  28. Loved you on the soft white underbelly. Either people are ready to hear the message or they are not. They either get it or they don't. Love your work keep it up, Dr. Taraban.
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  29. You touched the Absolute. I have transcended twice; once when I drowned when I was 11, and once when I flat-lined on the battlefield. Profound and enlightening, but also causes revulsion at the shallow, material, bitter state of humanity. Thank you for sharing your experience.
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  30. This underlines the importance of choosing someone who is mentally and emotionally calm and stable, and who can handle the truth. It also underlines the importance of not getting married, because marriage introduces complacency and boredom into the relationship, and makes it difficult to tell the truth without getting financially punished.
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  31. Well some context would probably be useful. I do practice a form of mindfulness meditation and it does help me quite a bit in all areas, but when my wife starts a fight over some petty thing or attacks me over some issue she feels upset about that seems like a massive overreaction or just an unfair accusation I have a hard time keeping my cool. I feel like hell no, I’m not going to allow someone to treat me like this. This was one of those times. She was hurt about something she was reading into and I was getting pissed that she was unfairly criticizing me and it was just escalating like crazy. I kept saying she can’t mistreat me like this, it’s unfair, it’s exhausting, etc. After watching this I changed my tone to basically exactly how he was talking. Sort of detached/cheerful and overall just laughing about my exasperation. I explained everything I said before but in a tone that was warm and kind of like “this is kind of silly” without being patronizing or condescending. It’s sort of hard to explain but almost like self effacing while still standing my ground and pointing out how she was mistreating me and how I’m doing best to hear her feelings, but come on, try to see where I’m coming from. And instantly, and I mean INSTANTLY, her tone changed. And in five minutes she apologized. So fiddle with it, but it works.
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  32. Thanks for this. At 65 I have what you are talking about so it's a blessing to have it put into words so succinctly. We live in our own houses, have our own money, friends, families, etc.. We are basically just lovers, and very comfortable with that, who hook up twice a week and like to go out of town every so often for "honeymoons". Thanks again!
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  33. Love Love Love this episode, Dr. Orion!! 👏🏽 👏🏽 I am a woman & I’m proud to say I do these things for the man I desire.. and I’m dating him…and we’re committed to each other! I’m happy to please him, satisfy his sexual desires, make his life easier, be his support system… more than I would (or have done) with any other man. Ladies, listen up, because it works! Love & Light to all of you & the person that you desire most! Cheers!! 💕
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  34. Psychacks has been very helpful while going through my divorce. God Bless. Much success to you going forward Dr. Taraban.
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  35. It is not a contradiction, there are just different forms of payment. You can pay with money, with looks, with experiences, status, etc.
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  36. I found the good Dr. about a year ago. This channel has influenced my life more than I could have anticipated. It’s my favorite channel and I recommend it to all of my friends. A massive thank you Dr.
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  37. It is one of the precepts in Buddhism. 'Do not unleash anger but seek its source.'
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  38. Look at military planning, options are not initially considered against each other rather against independent measures. Comparison happens only after. And often parts of different options get combined.
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  39. I appreciate the fact that you are using a script- it keeps your communication concise, on point and understandable.
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  40. This might be your best lecture. A lot of truth here. After a 30 year marriage ending in divorce, I'm the general who wants zero causalities. At this point, I'm not sure any losses are OK... so I'm happily single. I would love to hear your opinion on that, and what losses you personally are willing to accept.
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  41. One of the best channels on YouTube. I didn’t miss a single video since I subscribed and of course read the book.
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  42. This is my all-out favorite of your videos. Every young man needs to hear this as early as possible in life.
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  43. In 2019 I took an opportunity to take a year off and do some self improvement in the year. I was taking classes, but I was living a very unstructured life. I was doing everything I wanted whenever I wanted and I was having a good time initially, but about six months in, I started to feel aimless even though I wasn’t losing aim, I just started to feel aimless with my day to day, I’ve always thought I hated structure but it turned out I didn’t like it but I still really needed it and it took me getting rid of it to understand, that just cause I didn’t like doesn’t mean it wasn’t helping me. Structure is like veggies, I may not be thrill to eat, but my health will decline without it.
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  44. This is also how I’ve always viewed love since a child Doc. I’m able to love a woman with all my heart but I’m a very unattached man. I’ve had many relationships throughout my life but they never work out because I don’t like being attached to a woman for too long. Its gotten to a point now where all the women in my life seem to unconsciously know how I am by nature. I’m a loyal dude who stand on my word, they know even if I’m doing my own thing I will never abandon them, so they stay loyal to me. I show my women love, I don’t impose anything on them, they are free to live their lives as they please. As life go by, they always stay attached to me in some way because I stimulate their minds and bodies. Relationships aren’t my thing, but women who understand me always experience the time of their lives.💯💯
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  45. "It must be safe to fall, if children are to learn to walk. However it must not be safe to fail, if children are to learn to succeed" 👌🏾👌🏾
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  46. This is one of the best episodes he's ever made and 100% true. I've seen it with my own eyes numerous time with myself and with my buddies.
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  47. This is most sound advice I've heard on this channel. I would only add that it becomes much easier (and more convincing) to perform these priming moments of quick intimacy when you teach yourself to enjoy them as well. While teasing is more often what women do for fun, it feels powerful to flip things and be the one who causes frustration.
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  48. I like your seed vs. fruit analogy, Orion. In our "modern" world, many men have no real experience in nurturing/cultivating anything besides their bank acounts. We've forgotten our agrarian roots and replaced everything with instant gratification. I also like the Chinese proverb about female sexuality - "You can't bake bread in a cold oven." Maybe most modern men don't know how to start/stoke a fire anymore either 😩 Please also do a video on when it's the man refusing sex in a sexless marriage!!!
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  49. This advice is what most men know to be true deep down, and yet out social and cultural conditioning leads us to imagine there should be more pieces to a good relationship. Turns out it's actually very simple. Thank you Dr Orion for clarity and honesty.
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  50. I've been watching you for a while now on my journey with the girl in the mirror. This message is SO profound!! I've never donated on YT before, and this one is worth way more than what I can give. Thank you for existing on this platform and helping me help myself. 💜
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