Hearted Youtube comments on Cole Hastings (@ColeHastings) channel.

  1. Cole, In all honesty, I believe that tradition is meant for a selective few. Personally, I don't consider myself traditional. However, after hearing so many stories from different perspectives and considering various ethical standpoints, I understand why many people choose to distance themselves from traditions. It feels like everyone is tired of being confined to a single box, expected to adhere to traditions that don't resonate with who we are. Like many others, I want to move beyond those expectations and live life on my own terms, doing what feels right for me before it's too late.
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  2. Nothing is worse in a partner than someone who always plays the victim and every story they tell they were the victim. I used to play into this as an empathetic person, but now it's just a huge turn off when someone ALWAYS acts like a victim.
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  3. Haha I love this title. I was getting sick of those ‘I don’t dream of labor’ videos.
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  4. Actually, out of all the self improvement yt channels, this is the most harsh yet true
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  5. One of the most masculine things I do regularly is hold my daughter's hand. It's up to us fellas. Stay dangerous! ☝🏾
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  6. Heres something from David Goggins that has always stuck with me "You have to keep working hard, climbing mountains. Once you get to the top of that mountain, you throw yourself back down. You cannot stay content with what you've achieved, you have to reach the top of your mountains, and throw yourself back down". Basically, it's easy to start slacking once your reach a goal or do something, but once you achieve what you wanted, aim higher, do not be content. I did this with my weight loss, running, exercise. Yeah i lost 50lbs in 5 months, but that isn't all i wanted, and what i needed. I still need to lose 50 more lbs, do not lose your fire.
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  7. -Don’t wish it was easier; wish you were better -Jim Rhon
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  8. Damnnn I think the universe really watching out for me bc I needed this so bad. Thanks you so much Cole⭐️
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  9. Need for Control guy here In my younger years I’ve blindly trusted employers and other institutions that didn’t serve me. I’m now learning to manage myself and my time so I don’t need to be back in that position to survive.... ...However, this leaves room for analysis paralysis on what I can control and what I cannot. Essentialism by Greg Mckeown helped me deal with this but your video has reminded me of the importance of this
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  10. This is, by far, the best piece of content I've come across in years. This has been on my mind heavily lately, but I just couldn't put it into words the way you did. Will share this far and wide.
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  11. YOU. ARE. UNDER. NO. OBLIGATION. TO. BE. THE. PERSON. YOU. WERE. YESTERDAY. 👏👏 I'm speechless
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  12. Our new purpose is to stay alive to fight for a better future.
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  13. People don't decide their future, they decide their habits, and their habits decide their future
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  14. Sometimes, its nice to let the shit flow, get your shit together and maybe you will bump into somebody. I have always found my girlfriend when i expected it to happen the least.
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  15. Watching your videos being a mom makes me learn more about my sons! Thank you so much for making these positive wise videos from young guy’s perspective! I’ll definitely refer you to my sons!
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  16. Testosterone improvement is something we all need to work on. Keep up the good work bro
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  17. I think that it's mostly hard in your 20's to figure out who you are, you have not experienced lots of experiences yet and with the pandemic going on you are stuck at home where you get trapped in confusion and this is the time where you want to follow society's advice on success, which is mimating influencers with millions of followers, cars and private jets. This is at least for me
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  18. This is one of the reasons get older is actually nice. You just naturally start to realize there’s just about as much you need to ignore as you need to pay attention to in life
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  19. When you define a soulmate as someone who's perfect in any way than sure, a soulmate definitly doesn't exist. I would define a soulmate as someone who makes you happy, shares your values and stands by you trying their hardest even during bad times. I'm very grateful to say, i have found that. I hope everyone reading this will too.
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  20. Those two Pictures...nothing Changed. Still a boy who wants to be a man. Not blaming him. He is lost and pretends Not to be. Its todays culture.
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  21. I think it’s great advice. You are what you allow to define you. I think people take “be yourself” as others excusing or coddling terrible behaviors and bad habits. We are “making ourselves” constantly. We absorb information and adjust ourselves infinitesimally everyday, all day. It’s the choices we make, what we decide to do with the information, how we interpret it into our lives, how it affects us, our reaction etc that becomes “us”.
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  22. In Britain and Ireland self depreciating humour is just the culture, was around a long time before the internet. I’ve often found myself talking to Americans and using some light self deprecating humour and it landing so badly with them haha. Interesting video, I’m not sure on my take on it.
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  23. “Success isn't always about greatness. It's about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.”
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  24. You are spending a lot of time editing your videos... keep grinding. Don’t stop uploading videos
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  25. It was such a privilege to work on this with you! Thanks for always sharing how vulnerability can be part of masculinity. Cheers and HUGE congrats on this huge milestone for you!! 🎉🎉🎉
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  26. Comparison has made me want to quit following my dreams/goals so many times, even to this day lol
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  27. I have struggled with a bad breakup for nearly half my life. Even though I am married with 4 kids. I was a drug addict at 21 and relapsed. I was deeply in love with someone and I had to leave the area and move away. I was cowardly. I went to rehab Feb 14 2003. Two weeks later I finally talked to her on the phone. I never heard a person in so much pain and grief. I did that to her. I couldn't fix or change it. I still feel the guilt and pain of the loss. But the pain has kept me sober to never be that person again. At 40 I had a crohns flare,2 weeks in hospital,almost died and lost 12inches of large intestine. I didnt give up and found strength. I am strong, resilient and worthy of love. I am learning to forgive myself. Your videos have finally helped me learn to move on and finally start to be happy. I am lucky, loved and blessed. Thank you
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  28. I really needed a video on this topic man. You have no idea how much I’ve been thinking about this question. “Why be anything at all?” “What’s the point?” These questions coupled with s*icidal thoughts... it’s been a struggle to say the least. So thank you.
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  29. Im a professional nanny and infant care specialist who has been helping parents raise babies and young children for almost 25 years now. Back in the 90s this was talked about with tv, in the early 2000s it was games, by mid 2000s it was the uncensored way children get access to the internet and now its ipads/phones. Deep breaths parents. Its fine to give your child some screen time especially when you need time to do other things or just to chill. Remember to keep track of how much screen time they are getting and balance that with face time (no electronics) to do things with your kids. But regardless these kids will turn out fine like the other generations and adapt to this technical world they live in far better than older generations
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  30. Life is inherently unfair. Your race, class, upbringing, or worst of all your genetics, makes some things objectively unachievable for people. Jealousy often makes us perceive this unfairness as even greater than it objectively already is.
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  31. Don't worry Cole, HR has received this video and will return to you in a short timespan... Right, HR?
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  32. im 25, as someone who alot of closed ones have died, death has been stuck on my mind constantly, but in a negative way, but as always you tackle almost every content tha runs through my mind, and you make it easier to understand, thank you, im a little less afraid
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  33. Once your videos hit the algorithm you’re gonna blow up, keep grinding bro
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  34. Everybody wants for there to be more good, honesty, loyal, and respectable people in the world. But nobody wants to suffer from the risks that come from doing so. Most are waiting for someone to come along and be that person for them first, before they’re willing to offer the same in return. People always say, “I want to have friends. I want to have a girlfriend. The world needs more good people like him.” Few will stand up and say: I want to be someone’s friend. I want to be a partner to someone. I strive to become the good that the world needs. If everybody desire to have, then there must be some that’re willing to give in return. But we don’t promote that way of living anymore, we don’t teach that mindset. We’re told to give to ourselves instead, to dump other people for our benefit, to “focus on yourself”. Be the change you want to see in the world. No-one else is doing it, so why sit there and wait with them?
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  35. Happiness doesn't result from what we get, but from what we give.
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  36. Money can't directly buy happiness. But it can majorly effect a lot of things that directly effect your happiness. At least that's how I see it. 😅
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  37. I've been doing a journal habit tracker for the past 6 months and the change in my life has been insane. 6 months ago I tested for depression and anxiety and tested severe on both of them and here I am today with no notable signs of either.
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  38. Practicing self-love and self-care is the key for all your problems because why would you greive and rely on someone to love you when you can actually give yourself the ultimate amount love you need? Im going through a painful breakup and I've learned the hard way but trust me, you need nobody but yourself.
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  39. The trauma you mention in "How A Bad Childhood Affects Your Reality" part, where you talk about being neglected emotionally, is C-PTSD, (Complex PTSD). It's a subset of post traumatic disorder that develops over a long time of experiencing not necessarily outright traumatic amounts of stress - it's the fact that it never ends, often for years, that damages the brain. Just thought it's worth mentioning, because this is a completely different faulty defense mechanism. Years of neglect will never cause you to freeze up or have vivid flashbacks when triggered, the trauma there results in feelings of low self-worth, poor emotion control, emotional disconnect, issues socializing and developing unhealthy coping mechanisms that are brought into life beyond the traumatic events. Just thought it's worth mentioning, might help someone. I've heard enough times myself "you can't have PTSD, you didn't suffer traumatic events". No, I didn't. My entire childhood combined is what's traumatic.
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  40. This video is just a magnificently, artistic way of telling people to be open minded haha. "Confidence is not thinking youll always get it right, its not being afraid to get things wrong"
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  41. I found that it's best to forget about intro and extroversion. The label will hinder you. Just go out and get over shyness. You will love who you become and where you fit. After all of that, if you find introversion fits, then go ahead and own it. But the key is to allow yourself to be open to alot of people and fall in where you are at
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  42. Bruh no joke Naruto heavily influenced my life in a big way. It taught me that no matter how hard things get, its a waste to sit and feel sorry for yourself of things you can't change. It helped me cope and remain positive and push forward despite being born with a disability.
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  43. Man needs suffering just as much as he needs joy. One doesn’t matter without the other.
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  44. this is a solid and thought provoking video
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  45. This is so common, it’s just no one is talking about it. Good for you for speaking up
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  46. Location is definitely a factor to consider. I was born and raised in California, and the competition for even the lowliest of entry level jobs and internships is absolutely insane. If you're not highly decorated or the nephew of someone who is, you're not finding a job. I was stuck living with my parents until 26 despite desperately wanting to start my career and work my way up. The only thing that got me out of that rut was moving to a small state that has a labor shortage (my parents had to help fund it for me since I couldn't save up any money without a job). I found a good job right away, and the NEET problem here is almost non-existent. My brother, on the other hand, is still in California, rotting away with his Master's degree that somehow isn't even good enough to get him a part time secretary's assistant position in his field.
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  47. Thank you bro, this gave me a new outlook. And it would always piss me off being in a community where “relapsing” is horrible when truly its all about self control.
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  48. Dude your content is fire I’m so grateful for the amount of time energy and patience you put into these videos. Thank you 🙏.
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  49.  @longlivemklonglivemk4027  imo 90 days is kinda like punishing yourself. I feel like if you're a healthy young guy 21-30 days on no nut is enough to get the benefits. The benefits are supposed to boost your energy and drive levels. Also for guys experiencing ed it could improve that too.
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  50. thank you for this
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