Hearted Youtube comments on Cole Hastings (@ColeHastings) channel.

  1. Your old videos were the classic personal development content that everyone made, but later on, you managed to set yourself apart and become a more realistic personal development channel. Now, it seems like you're evolving into a video essay channel that explores more societal and deeper topics, and this format really suits you. Keep it up
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  2. Overthinking + living in the past, kept me stuck in life for the longest time. It’s not easy to stop something you do naturally but over time you notice how you change your mindset and actions, it’s best to dive in instead of talking yourself out. Great video bro❤️
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  3. Sometimes I feel it for times that I didn't even enjoyed when living. But now when remembered they seem good and I miss it.
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  4. Happiness is found in the present moment. Not in worrying about the future, not in regretting the past.
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  5. I don't usually comment on videos, but I have to say, this video really struck a chord with my soul. For a lot of my life, I've tried to avoid pain, discomfort, failure, all of the things that we often deem negative. I didn't always know it but at times I'd carry this hopeless energy around with myself because of the negative things that we as humans go through in life. But with bad times there are also good times. It is important to acknowledge and embrace both, because there is beauty in both. There will be days filled with laughter, smiles, and success, but there will also be days filled with sadness and anxiety, days where we fail and we struggle. But courageous and brave is what we become when we move forward despite our failures and fears. That is what it means to experience life. Great work Cole.
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  6. I think, men dating in their 20's might still have value but focus should not be chasing potential partners but building up yourself. When you build up yourself, the rest is more likely, to just come to you.
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  7. In my opinion, confidence is just not giving a f*ck about what other people think about you and just be true to yourself
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  8. I don't have a problem with working, I'd just like to know what I'm working for. At times, it can be fun if you're pursuing your own ideals.
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  9. YouTube & cold approaching help my social anxiety too, before I started making YouTube videos I couldn't talk to anyone and had no friends, then making videos help open me up, then I tried cold approaching for videos and that help my social anxiety so much, next things you know I get multiple dates, a girl who wants me to be her boyfriend, a relationship that taught me Im not ready for a relationship yet and need to keep working on myself, im so grateful for both YouTube and cold approaching
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  10. Him: talks about nofap and taking his shirt off to show muscles Me, a heterosexual girl trying nofap: are you joking on me?
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  11. This hits hard. I started self improvement because like lots of people, my mental health was bad, I was lonely, I felt like my life was incomplete and overall just didn't feel like I was enough. A lot of self improvement advice was very helpful to begin with and I did make my life a bit better. But I still felt empty. I dove deeper into all this stuff when I realized there are so many toxic self help youtubers that just make you feel like shit because you're not this or that. My gut was telling my their advice didn't apply to my own spirit. "Bro you have to be really muscular and earn 100k a year to get women" I soon realized (along with therapy) that all my problems were routed in how I framed things in my mind and how I felt about myself and the world around me. I was enough. I was always enough. I just needed to realize that. Keep up some good habits but ultimately pursue what really matters to me.
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  12. "You don't want it bad enough, you have just enough comfort right now that suppresses you from taking action" this is so relatable rn.
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  13. Bruh I always found the “beta/alpha” thing pretty cringe
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  14. I actually did this yesterday, going out clubbing for the first time on my own. Thought it was gonna be really awkward, but I literally made at least 6 new contacts and got several peoples‘ number. Even got invited to a house party tonight by this couple of friends!
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  15. Every time doing "it" comes to my mind, I do 10 pushups to distract myself. Works really well.
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  16. As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
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  17. Remember spirituality or being spiritual is not a religion or agenda it’s just being a better and purer version of yourself
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  18. Nothing is sexier about my fiance than the fact that he has passions and knows his purpose.
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  19. Being quiet makes u mind ur business more, as u should. Most pple dont get that logic. 👌
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  20. Finding a job is so automated now, nine times out of ten you submitting a resume or an application to a robot or some app. Not to mention HR is a complete joke for the most part.
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  21. You're one of the most humble and honest person that I've ever seen. Keep doing the good work and stay blessed 🙌
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  22. your one of the few youtubers i feel i can relate to
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  23. The funny and sad thing about this is...... I'm a girl and no one taught me how to handle my negative emotions. My parents either told me to calm down or just brought up how 'cheerful' I used to be. Even my fiance says "look at the positive things" instead of being supportive. It honestly is disappointing to be there for others, but others not being there for me. So listening to your perspective really is refreshing 😌 Thank you
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  24. The problem is that we watch these very helpful videos but we forget about the message tomorrow and we just continuete our life like always
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  25. That point when you literally go like "okay fine, life wants to throw sh*t at me? Go ahead try your best. I am ready, bring it on." - while tears are running down your face.
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  26. Im guilty of doing this too at times. Self improvement is good, but too much of it can be toxic, things such as "Ditch your loser, lame friends, and hang out with people on your level or above" can be toxic, nothing wrong with wanting better like minded friends, but don't diss your old friends who are content with their lives, unless they are doing negative things, but it's okay that your friend wants a simple 9-5 job, or working blue collar jobs etc. I don't care how introverted you are, how much you love to be alone, us humans are social creatures, too much time alone can be detrimental to your mental health. I still talk to people all of the time online on youtube, discord, twitch, reddit, and I still get together sometimes with IRL friends. Great video Sir!
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  27. Really glad you made this. Self help content sucks in incels like a magnet and I'm glad you made your opinions known. Hopefully it will help some people not go black pill
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  28. Most people know what they need to do. Information often isn’t the problem, and if it is it can be remedied in a few effective hours of research. The problem is executing on the ideas. A good enough plan that you take action on is better than a perfect plan endlessly under development.
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  29. All good bro that's a good streak
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  30. Okay this is my sign to quit coffee.. Incredible video, loved the way you filmed it!
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  31. As someone who has a job that literally requires talking to people a lot I can say my fear of approaching people has gone away, however I do still struggle keeping a conversation but I can definitely say talking to people has definitely made me more confident than I was about 2 years ago.
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  32. "Do not speak bad of yourself. For the warrior within hears your words and is lessened by them" - Old Japanese Samurai Proverb
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  33. Isn’t that crazy. America is easily killing itself with our culture
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  34. was a bit skeptical at first, but this is a real mindset shift, thankyou once again cole for inspiring :)
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  35. Man keeping it real is what makes you really attractive man. That is why I still watch Cole.
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  36. Every time I'm feeling kinda down Cole brightens up my day. Seriously bro, your videos are basically free therapy
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  37. I would say to add on top of going out and meeting people. It's good to follow up with more plans with the people you really have a connection with or would like to know more. I met tons of people my problem was not staying connected. I would go out and do something fun, only to leave and never be seen again.
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  38. Ik ur getting hate, but everything you said in the video makes sense. Don't worry bro im still here to support you
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  39. “Everything sucks sometimes” so true bro. You got a find the thing you’re willing do even when it “sucks”
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  40. Need for acceptance (by everyone) pretty much negatively influences every part of my life. Been working on it.
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  41. Less seems to be more for natural lifters. When I was beginning lifting I found my best results doing full body 3x a week. Recently did a 4x week upper lower split which was also great and each workout takes an hour.
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  42. I'm a believer that you'll always find your true "special one" when you least look for it. And until then you must work on becoming the greatest version of yourself to give them your best when the time comes :)
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  43. You're never too old to start learning, and you're never too young to aim high and achieve great things!
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  44. If life was perfect, what would be the point?
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  45. my first gf was when i was 27. I'm 33 now and of the three relationships I've had (all of which less than 6 months) i've definitely learned a lot about love and what i actually want in a partner. It's gone from the 'i just want a gf' to 'i know what it means to build a future with someone'. Still lots to learn and i feel like i've sped run romance a bit but definitely have grown a lot mentally.
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  46. Urban sprawl and walkability are rabbit holes that, on their own, would take at least a 15-hour video to cover why they are so much better and list the benefits, from physical to economic to psychological, etc. I don't know what kind of mindset one has to have to prefer being in car-centric places.
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  47. This video took me on an emotional rollercoaster. Cole you are a great storyteller and thank you for being vulnerable with us
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  48. I had a moment yesterday where I thought "how can I be productive right now?". I realized that I don't have to be productive every second of the day. I can just be alone with my thoughts and it's all good.
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  49. I went through this in July. Currently in the metamorphosis phase and I’m so happy I’m single my relationship was so toxic. But damn bruh those first couple months were absolute pain
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  50. Cole, I’m a 28 year old man but you help saved me when I was in a suicidal state last year. Thanks man 🙏🏽 Never thought I was ever going to get out of the dark
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