Comments by "exnihilo415" (@exnihilo415) on "Asian Boss" channel.

  1. They're pretty synonymous.
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  2.  @chyffon5454  Not convincing. 25 other countries allow trans women to change their gender on their ID card. No one is forcing trans woman to change her ID. It's voluntary and I'm sure any trans woman that wanted to be legally female would be happy exchanging a astonishingly small health risk in an emergency situation that would somehow be gender specific for hot having to dealt with transphobia literally every time she hands over her ID card to someone. If it was that much of specific situation a medical alert card could be placed in the wallet in front of the ID card so that way it's both available in emergency situation to first responders and the trans woman doesn't need to present this medical alert card to random people who just need to see ID to do an age check, etc.
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  3. Same-sex marriage in Northern Ireland will be legally recognised by 13 January 2020.
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  4. Just ask or put in your dating profile that you’re not interested in trans girls. You don’t need to “be careful”. No one want to waste their time after all. Easy as that.
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  5. You owe it to yourself to talk with a ladyboy or two. They have a very unique take on gender and meaning and you’ll discover, as with the interview with Sauce here, that they live a very considered and thoughtful life. Careful though, you might get hooked. I ended up marrying a Thai trans girl, which was the smartest thing I’ve ever done.
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  6. The only real question is what chutney to pair them with.
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  7.  @texasgun2731  Nothing weird about being gay. Millions of people all over the world in every culture are gay.
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  8. I hear this all the time from conservative media, yet I never have seen a trans person do this in real life. When last have you have experienced this personally?
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  9. Certainly is. lol
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  10. Being gay is a weakness? How do you figure?
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  11. Thai Trans women use this word about themselves in Thailand all the time. It doesn’t have the negative subtext that it does in the west and it’s easy for people with limited English skill to remember, pronounce and understand. Obviously Thai people have their own Thai words, plenty of which are themselves problematic.
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  12. Don't go to Thailand if you're transphobic.
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  13. Asian culture? Look how many different countries there are in Asia. They’re extremely different from one another. Besides, trans women aren’t gays.
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  14. Illegal to be gay in Thailand? That’s funny. Not at all. There are gays and lesbians and trans everywhere, even in parliament. This isn’t Iran. Have you been to Thailand?
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  15. Only the transphobic think it’s weird. Trans people exist in every country in the world. How many you see in any given country is a function of how much discrimination trans people face in their daily lives.
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  16. The safety of trans women clearly is not a concern for you.
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  17. in your mind.
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  18.  @missxmarvel  You would be wrong. From left to right in the thumbnail. Rinrada “Yoshi” Thurapan, Chananchida “Blossom” Rungpetcharat and Treechada “Poyd” Petcharat They are very famous Thai trans women. Look them up and you’ll see how wrong you are.
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  19. You’re asking the wrong person. Trigger Happy was the person who put forward such a claim in a previous comment.
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  20.  @mumberto3557  Not even. Plenty of Intersex conditions exist if we're just talking about hardware (and I'm not). Google is your friend.
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  21. Unfortunately no legal freedom in Thailand. Trans women can’t marry their husbands, can’t change their legal gender and can’t adopt. Legal problems everywhere, sadly.
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  22. The history of cultural interaction is the history of tradition destruction. It’s been that way throughout recorded history.
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  23.  @bethany2658  Many thanks! The wife and I are doing great. We both feel like we landed a rare catch, and that's probably a good place for a relationship. Lots of straight guys (as opposed to bisexual guys like myself) have a very difficult time rapidly adjusting to being with a trans women due to social stigma. It is a culture shock for many that are not in supportive LGBT environments already. They need to navigate that space of not necessarily having their relationship accepted by default by everyone they meet. They suddenly need to do all sorts of stuff they never thought they'd need to do, like come out to their parents that they love a trans girl. Later, wonder what their coworkers are going to think. Wonder what their boss will think. Wonder what the USCIS immigration official is going to say when you want to build a permanent life with a trans girl from far away. At every step they wonder what bridges they are burning with those that are secretly transphobic. There can be losses. My father never talked to me again until the day he died. Don't get me wrong, it's nothing compared to what trans girls like you and my wife go through but it's also a big challenge. I'm not surprised that a lot of guys come for play time but don't return calls when the sun is up. They have the luxury of being incognito and they take the path of least resistance. I try to do my part and be the stand up guy and defend trans women and those that love them in public. Not enough guys do that, but times are changing. I hope that your transition is going (or has gone) well, the people you love are supportive and that you're getting your medical needs met whatever they may be. Thanks for your thoughtful comment. Wishing you the best from California.
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  24. The vast majority of Thai ladyboys are not sex workers. You can see them working retail and salon jobs all across untouristed Thailand.
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  25. These two words mean many different things to many different people. There isn’t a specific set of criteria for either one. Trans women is very much a word of western creation. Ladyboy is a word that’s easy for non native English Thai speakers to know and pronounce to use mostly for the benefit of English speakers. Neither word denotes anything specific about medical transition nor surgery. I’ve known ladyboys that are fine calling themselves ladyboys that have and also have not had SRS. I’ve known trans women that are fine calling themselves trans women (and would absolutely hate to be called a ladyboy) that have had and also have not had SRS. Generally speaking the LGBT community in the west hates the word ladyboy for a number of valid reasons. This isn’t the case in Thailand as the word doesn’t have any of the subtext there it does in the west.
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  26. You’re that transphobic?
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  27. There are pride parades and rainbow flags all over in Thailand. Kindness is a two way street.
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  28. I've got 1000 Won that says if you sent a hot Korean male stripper over there in his underwear Lee Jonah would be ex-gay in name only. I think he's one round of chemotherapy and one blowjob away from putting the bible back in the drawer and trying to grab at the last shred of happiness available to him in this life.
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  29. The word doesn’t have the same negative subtext in Thailand that it does in the US. True of many other adopted English words also. Plenty of trans women in Thailand refer to themselves as ladyboys. My wife is a Thai trans woman.
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  30. It’s not even close to that figure. You’re just guessing by visual inspection. Or even audio inspection when speaking to people over the phone.
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  31. There's a dark history of desperate parents doing desperate things like selling their daughters into prostitution, also. That is not the origin story of trans women in Thailand which goes back hundreds of years into antiquity as it does all across south Asia. A small percentage of the population will always be trans. How many you actually see in any society depends on the discrimination they face. The more discrimination there is the fewer you will see up to this small natural rate. Sex work is more common among trans women around the world because plenty of employment discrimination exists against trans women in Thailand and around the world.
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  32. It impacts their lives more than any other. Many of us want to hear from trans folks about issues that impact their lives. Unlike you, we actually care about trans people and their lives.
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  33.  @justaviewer904  I, in fact, don’t tolerate everything. I don’t tolerate your transphobic intolerance. This is the paradox of tolerance. Karl Popper. I fully support LGBT people and their integration into society. It leads to better outcomes for everyone.
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  34. The interviewer could have done better for sure. Some of this lost in translation, too though. The word cisgender is fairly unknown for Thai people (even more so 2 years ago) and there isn’t really a Thai word for it. When making distinctions between cis and trans it’s pretty useful. My wife is a Thai trans woman so I can see both sides of this.
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  35. ​ @mystyk5896  Education is really key to understanding both the pros and cons of the way things used to be prior to colonialism. I’m with you. The transformative power of a better educated population can’t be underestimated. To see so many cultures adopting this frozen in time version of Victorian ethics is so frustrating when the west has realized long ago the toxicity inside it. It’s true that Thailand avoided some of the worst of it, but was certainly not immune in its precarious position as buffer state between Britain and France. Buddhism and the animistic practices of Thailand also contributed a great deal to a culture of LGBT tolerance, too. The Philippines, Catholicism aside, also managed better than most at protecting LGBT people and creating a social space for them to exist. All the languages and islands probably helped in slow rolling the force of colonialism as well. Unfortunately the historical record of marginalized communities is never very good. “Gender Pluralism in South East Asia since early modern times” does a pretty good job if you’re looking for an academic book length treatment.
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  36. Glad to hear that Thailand avoided another transphobic tourist.
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  37.  @grassguy1154  That’s not a bug, that’s a feature. You’re as young as you feel.
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  38.  @grassguy1154  Your ageist attempt to shame the old by calling them young is fairly humorous. We should all be so fortunate to receive such abuse. Besides, there is no need to make more complex demeaning statements when simple ones will do. I’ve got to take it easy on my my alzheimer's addled brain, as not believing in magical eternal afterlife I really need to focus my efforts here after all rather than phoning it in until eternal happiness (or damnation) arrives.
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  39.  @grassguy1154  I like to have my feelings hurt. Abuse me with your savage wit, young buck. Flagellate me with wanton abandon. Encore, religious edge lord.
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  40.  @dianaufal1260  I don’t want respect. Disrespect me all you like. I love it. I simply don’t believe in supernatural nonsense. You’re welcome to do so. I’m just interested in equality under the law for gay people, which includes legal same sex marriage. What’s so challenging to understand about that?
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  41.  @dianaufal1260  I’ll think about being more cordial when LGBT people are treated better by religious people. Compared to the systematic abuse and discrimination LGBT people face everyday a benign insult like childish doesn’t even rank. I’m not a political ethicist. If you set my world on fire I’m telling you to F off with no apologies.
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  42.  @johnnielson4341  My wife is a Thai trans woman. We've been together for 20 years. She is legally female in the US but not in Thailand. Nor can we legally marry in Thailand (but are legally married in the US). Most of my friends are Thai LGBT people both in the US and in Thailand. I've spoken to endless Thai ladyboys and many are close personal friends of ours. To pretend that you know more about the enormous diversity of opinion of Thai LGBT people with your cis het resume is pretty humorous. What's next? Are you going to tell me how to give a bj? lol Trans women can be legally female in many countries in the region. Korea. Japan. Taiwan. Vietnam. China. Go look it up. There is no reason that Thailand won't make this happen after marriage equality, which is the current legislative priority. กบในกะลา
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  43.  @mboihk3796  Safety, for sure. Other discrimination, I doubt it. No marriage equality, that’s quite poor.
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  44. Women in Thailand have easier lives? Not hardly.
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  45. Mostly due to desire.
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  46. Parents want their children to be happy. Parents don’t have a say in the sexual orientation of their children. They are who they are.
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  47.  @TarTw45  I do remember seeing those inflatable dinosaurs during the student protests. I know there are a lot of reforms that need to happen. I wish you guys the best of luck to make that happen. It won’t be easy.
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  48. That kid in the red shirt knows his stuff.
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  49. The US is a very diverse place, unlike Thailand. Acceptance of LGBT people really depends on where you are. The difference between West Hollywood and Tupelo is night and day. That said the difference between Pattaya and Yala in the Muslim south very significant also. It works both ways. The US could learn a lot from Thai culture and Thais could learn a lot from US culture. The good thing about modernity is that this cross cultural exchange happens quite a bit. Plenty of Thai expats in the US (LA even has a Thai-town) and plenty of US expats in Thailand.
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  50. Do you think LGBT people in Indonesia feel good about most of those comments in the video? LGBT people are treated vastly better in the west and its difficult for many foreigners to imagine their LGBT friends and family treated that way. Thus the comments.
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