Comments by "Elaine R" (@elainer8288) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. ​ @wayward03 I'm taking my time to write here because I think people could be so much happier if men could understand women a little better. A lot of womanizers know how to treat a woman (but with bad intentions of course). Why can't the nice guys do this too? Men seem so clueless when it comes to understanding women's complaints.
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  2. ​ @RedOakPictures  Most women are victims of physical violence, infidelity and drug abuse on the male part that's why they get a divorce most of the time.
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  3. ​​ @scartissuefilms I agree. Not having to work because you have enough passive income is freedom. Everybody's dream. But getting married and not having your own money and having to clean everyday like like a slave with no help is definitely not freedom.
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  4. Everybody likes to spoil people they like, specially women. But there has to be RECIPROCITY, or people feel taken for granted, and undervalued. BALANCE is the key. SELFISHNESS destroys relationships. If she is the only one doing things for you, she will fall out of love very quickly.
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  5. ​ @RameshbabuKoonan  I meant to say that I think most of the time it has nothing to do with manipulation, or power. A woman wants a man who is her best friend, not someone distant that just comes to her to have sex. That's what I see women complaining about.
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  6. ​ @Emundas455  But if a woman is working, she is not another mouth to feed. Only when she is pregnant and taking care of a young baby and child.
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  7. Women like a little suspense. Exactly. I agree. Great comment!
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  8. I recommend watching Jordan Peterson's video: "The Main Sign that SHE IS GOO.". A lot better advice to a woman than this one. Don't listen to this BS.
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  9. I'm a woman and I agree. It's unnecessary to do this good morning texts. Talking after work during a call is better. We all need to focus at work in the morning.
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  10. ​ @hizzle1885 Why do you say this? What is wrong with that in your opinion?
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  11. ​ @BlackLion76  It is good to be with a financially independent woman because she will be with you because she wants you and loves you. The presence of a good man in a woman's life is something great that no kind of independence can replace. 😉
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  12. Not true. She may be a lot more attractive, make the same amount of money as you, and have a lot more options than you, and still like you and want to spoil you. It happened to me. Not everything is so "economic" in real life. This is too pessimistic. Women don't see you as a cold list of characteristics and benefits. Your essence, sense of humor, intelligence and other fascinating human qualities go way beyond this cold evaluation.
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  13. Not true at all. My mother took care of my dad after a stroke, my friend's aunt took care of her husband for 10 years personally after he had a stroke and couldn't move or talk anymore. For 10 years took care of him and dedicated her life to him. Love still exists!
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  14. I agree with what was said in this video. I had a friend twice my age who was the author of more than 80 books. And continued working 12hs a day even after he was 80! He was writing 5 books at the same time when he passed away at 89. One day, I asked him: "How do we find motivation?" He said that we have to build our motivation through discipline. That would create the energy that we can use to do things. Discipline, he said was doing useful things: exercise, go to bed early, work, study, eat very healthly, meditation, prayer, being grateful and avoiding wasting our time. He also said all people that get clinically depressed are always someone with no discipline. So wasting time, eating too much or in the wrong way, wasting the body's energy too much are not discipline and, therefore, lower's your energy and motivation to do things. So discipline in general, I guess, is the key to building motivation. Excellent video with which I agree 100%!
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  15. Good deal.
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  16.  @kreativeforce532  How do you know? Where do you get this information? It is wrong. All the women I know who got a divorce was because of infidelity and physical violence. And all divorce lawyers say the exact same thing. We should try to find this statistics somewhere, so all the discussions could be on a solid basis. Do you have a source?
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  17. I think most of the time the problem is that sex for men begins in the bedroom and for women it starts way before that. In the beginning, the circumstances lead to what women want: the context + the sex. The context being: going out, dinner together, a lot of conversation, maybe flowers, a simple gift, some compliment, companionship, and a man who is a gentleman. All man do this in the beginning and then, they stop, since "the job is done" and they don't need to put in all this "effort" anymore. A lot of married women feel they are now trapped: the guy just wants something raw, just a "little relief" and throw all the rest away. And then the men say the women are not "fullfilling their obligations" in the marriage, which makes it all worse. They don't understand that it s because they took all the fun of it for the woman removing the "context." The video above ilustrates this point by saying that it is possible to get "all the rest" (companionship, etc from other sources), but for a woman the whole package has to be inside the relationship for the sex to be good. Or else, they just feel frustrated and lose interest. Sex for a woman is the final result of a long process with many phases of connection and most man don't get that at all and just want to skip to the final phase, which is really frustrating and boring for a woman. Although he does a lot and is a good husband, he is not giving her what she wants and I think she feels like she is not being appreciated, is offended and the guy just wants a sex slave.
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  18. ​​ @ariannecapote7260  But being easy and promiscuous is not going to help a woman in any case. Even in this channel, there are videos showing clearly that Dr. Taraban recommends picking a woman with low "body count." It is better to try to get to know the men you like better and not sleep with him right away, and if he doesn't want you, find somebody else.
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  19. But was a she a wife or a girfriend? Did they live together? If she was only his girfriend, living in a separate home and paying her bills as a waitress, it doesn't make any sense to want her to do anything. It would make sense for her to help with the house and kid only if she is living with him and he is paying all the bills. I don't undertand what the situation was. She was just a girfriend and living with them and working as a waitress at the same time?
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  20. ​​​​ @brera2434  Over time, that may be room for someone else as we heal. But I think it is important to enjoy some time alone with no dates, etc, after a break up. When we find someone again after there has been some time after the break up, it would never feel like cheating because it is not cheating if you are broken up. Why would it feel like cheating? I think it can only feel like cheating or anything weird if we don't spend enough time alone before being with someone new.
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  21. Sure. His video lacks common sense.
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  22. ​​ @alice-hp7dh  Sure. I have the impression that some men (not all men) don't see a woman as their life companion and best friend first and foremost, but are more focused on what she can provide to them: sex, reproduction, housework, etc, the same way some women are also only focusing on receiving some advantages from the relationship, instead of looking for companionship and love above everything else. I think maybe that is the root of the problem.
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  23. I agree. A man should like you for who you are, not the "services" you provide.
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  24. ​ @martinjewell1335 I am sorry this happened to you. Some women are not acting right either.
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  25. ​ @wayward03 It is not just about going out, it's a hole different attitude of respect, kindness and companionship.
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  26. lynnferry291's comment in this video, also states she would leave a man that said that. I agree. If a man told me I need to sleep with him whenever he wants or else he will look for it elsewhere, I would leave him and think of all the other demands he would try to force on me. Take a look at her comment 8 months ago.
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  27. Very important for both. Only people who are happy with their own lives can be happy with someone.
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  28. Find a high-character woman: takes care of parents, treats everybody well, calm, disciplined, helps other people, not promiscuous, works hard, studies hard, loves to spoil you, generous, nd not selfish..
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  29.  @janidani1  He was an actor before being a psychologist.
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  30. Come on! It's not like that are all! Once attracted, always attracted. You just have to be a good person and hard-working. It's a lot simpler. We, women, have to go through countless beauty procedures just to be attractive:hair blow-dry, blong highlights, hair removal, skin care, make up, nails, etc. Endless hours again, and again, and again. That's exhausting. Be happy you are a man! 😉
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  31. ​​​​ @pappajohndodgybob So you are saying that a woman shouldn't go to university and have a job if she likes her job? (I'm a teacher and I like my job. I was in finance, but hated the environment. I changed careers. Too masculine and agressive for me. All about competition and I hate that. I prefer a job that is about helping people. Less money, but a more loving environment.)
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  32. ​ @feedyoursoul6630 But a man would want to commit to a woman that is so easy? If I were a man, I wouldn't. Get to know somebody better makes a lot more sense to me.
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  33. It's having the opposite effect on me when I read the comments like yours, and I see there are romantic men that care about more things than sex. A lot of women have a distorted view of men, and when I saw this channel with so many men being so wrong and blind about women, I could realize how blind I was about men.
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  34. Absolutely! Great comment.
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  35.  @fineless  I have apologized sincerely to a man and other people a thousand times like any other human being. It is never too much to say this. I think mostly when we are very young, teenagers and kids this is really more difficult. At least it was like that for me.
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  36. These descriptions of women in this channel are very caricatural, so we have to take them with a pinch of salt. They tend to be exaggerated.
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  37.  @neilmckay8649  Unfortunately some man act this way and seem to not even realize it.
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  38. That's real love. 😊❤
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  39. ​​ @Reallgeemachine  What I have seen happening to all women who got a divorce in my life was what I said: physical violence and cheating . But I forgot one more reason I have also seen: the 40-year-old husband left his wife with three kids for a 20-year-old. There was also a friend of mine from college who was a womanizer and suggested an open marriage to the mother of his two kids. She was furious and filed for divorce.
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  40. ​​ @smokingcrab2290  No. When a woman cheats, it is just as bad, of course. There is no difference. If people want to cheat, just don't get married and ruin somebody else's life.
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  41. ​ @smokingcrab2290  So instead of learning how to select high-character women, just be alone forever believing that bs.
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  42. All women want a boyfriend t enjoy life with. Most women don't care about flings and casual situations. It's better to be alone than waste time with something casual in the view of most women. Casual sex is trash, worth zero to most of us.
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  43. Perfect comment.
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  44. ​ @pappajohndodgybob  But clueless about what? That women shouldn't be so promiscuous and easy or that they should have their own income?
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  45. Exactly. He is only talking about a rich man who will do that, but many men in the comments seem to think they should get this too.
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  46. Great topic. How to select a high-character person. Still no video on that. Find a womam who loves you, and wants you to grow and be happy. One that took care of family when they were ill and helps people is a good start. 😊 Hard-working, disciplined, eats healthly I think is also a good start.
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  47. ​ @sirmeurtrier6951 This is good advice. Not the manipulation suggested in the video. You should be the one making the video.
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  48.  @iamtheoffenderofall  Sometimes it is a man's fault and sometimes it is a woman's fault. Sometimes a guy or a woman are just promiscuous and can't control it. I don't know what that feels like because I don't feel this way, but I've heard people tell me they just can't be with only one person.
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  49.  @KeyaCares  I agree. Even as a joke, it sounds like the joke of a snob womanizer that does not care about you or respects you.
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  50. ​​ @dekev7503  Would you envy younger guys and be hostile to them when you get old and less girls want you? I'm not old, but that's crazy.
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