Comments by "Elaine R" (@elainer8288) on "PsycHacks" channel.

  1. ​​ @BH-he3wg No. A lot of people who want to immigrate start out in cleaning. I saw a Brazilian doctor working as a cleaner. It does happen.
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  2. ​​​ @hman2912  Please don't give a woman any tasks. Women fall in love when men reciprocate what women VOLUNTARILY do for them And fall out of love with selfish men. Just common sense.
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  3. Come on! If attraction is there in the beggining, it will always be there. Men get sick of the same woman (my male friends say), but women never get sick of the same men. Physically. If the man is a good man (hard-working, not violent, not drug user, not a cheater, no major character flaw, etc), if there was ever a strong attraction, it will always be there for a woman. For us it is worse because men seem to get sick from being with the same woman.
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  4. I usually really like a lot of the videos here and always pay a compliment and think they are great. But, as a woman, I'm sorry to say this, but I don't know about that... I think it sounds a little agressive to me. I've never heard this, but I think I would consider breaking up with a man that said that. It makes him look agressive and women are afraid of this kind of behavior. A man that gets angry or annoyed about this shows a red flag to a woman... Sex is supposed to be spontaneous and fun and that would kill the magic. I think this is not a good idea. Better to try to be with someone that has similar eating habbits: carnivores, vegetarians and vegans because they will have a more similar drive or just try to insist a little in a more subtle way.
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  5.  @ForceAlfaF1  Yes, I agree that there are a lot of psychopaths (people who want to take sth from other people and feel no love), but saying that all women or most women are psychopaths and just a few are exceptions is a little too much, don't you think? Or saying that most men are.
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  6. ​​ @Kharnellius  I'm not saying anything should be given to anybody. I meant to say that everybody should work hard to achieve financial freedom. And a married woman should go back to working and studying after the kids grow up. And the cleaning tasks can be divided by everybody in the family.
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  7. Only the male perspective is shown.
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  8. ​​ @Dejavu20248  Maybe he could do a second part to address the problems it creates for women. Not being independent financially is the problem, not cooking and cleaning.
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  9. I think the problem is survival strategy and self development, not ego, and that this structure needs adjustments. First, this scheme has flaws because the woman puts herself in a very vulnerable position. What if the guy gets sick and can't work anymore and doesn't have money anymore? What if there is a divorce and she has to work? What if the guy cheats? What if he becomes violent? What if he dies? Second, every humam being needs to study and work to constantly develop their minds and capacity to survive in this world. Not having that, is very frustrating. And third, I think a woman needs time to be a mother and time for herself too. With so much cooking and cleaning, my mom never really had time to play with us and spend time with us. Properly cleaning a house, specially with kids, takes a lot more than 2 hours a month. What about the bathrooms? When everybody was on vacation, my mom was still working. She could only rest when we traveled. She didn't have a vacation. And also: what happens when the kids grow up? They will spend most of their days out of the house and the woman will be doing what? So, if the guy has a lot of money, and if he really loves a woman, he should take all that into account. And women: money = freedom. So I think it is better to pay a cleaning lady and leave only the cooking and child raising for the woman so she really has time to be a mother. And after the kids grow up a little, the woman goes back to studying and working in a job she loves. The cooking in the woman's hands I think is important and strategic so she can create healthy habbits for the kids and improve the husband's health and quality of life. She can feel like a woman and spoil him creating healthy and delicious food. But the cleaning, I think it doesn't make sense for a woman who went to university and grad school quit her work permanently to become a maid. It is better to invest more time raising the kids and cooking. And going back to work when the kids grow up.
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  10. I think this is an excellent piece of advice that applies to everybody. Thank you.
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  11. ​​​​ @babyamyxo-o6c  Exactly. I agree with you 100%. It is better for the woman to keep working or else she has no power in life. They don't care about the female perspective. Why not go back to working and studying after the kids grow up? I wrote it in the most recent comments. If the man has money, it makes no sense to want their wifes to have such a miserable life.
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  12. I agree.
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  13. ​ @andrew6815 Excellent tip!
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  14. But do you want a romantic relationship with a woman? Or you just don't want both? Because as a woman, I don't need a lot of sex, but want a partner. People exagerate, I think. So I am curious to know if there is a man who wants a relationship with a woman with not so much sex or no sex.
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  15. There was a fantasy that there was enough affinity to make it work, but there wasn't.
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  16. I agree.
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  17. I think people should be more focused on giving then receiving for relationships to work peacefully. Both men and women.
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  18. I love Japanese culture and high ethical values. There are a lot of Japanese people in my country. The happiest couple I know are my friends who are Japanese. There is a big Japanese community here and they became a mix of high ethics and the easy-going sociable friendly Brazilian way. All women I know married to Japanese guys are happily married. Maybe I should try this out too. 😂
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  19. Maybe all humanity will end up in relationships with robots that act exactly how we want. It will be a tempting option.
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  20. ​ @elibennett6168  Women fall in love when men reciprocate what women VOLUNTARILY do for them.
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  21. ​ @anthonynosike  Excellent comment!
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  22. ​ @tinap8227 Good one! 😂
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  23. ​ @nickim270  Exactly. Some people, men and women, are abusive and selfish by nature. We have to find someone loving, or it's just better to be alone and free.
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  24. ​ @celiajames600  Exactly. This is not more common in women. A better tittle would be "why some people don't apologize".
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  25. ​​ @mminniear984  You don't have to be. I don't know your age, but a lot of women are single at a later age because they thought it was better for them to have a serious boyfriend, but have their own house or did not want to have kids or wanted to go to grad school, travel, achieve financial independence first. It's not necessarily a bad person. Probably more mature to deal with the responsabilities of marriage.
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  26. ​ @kathsmith4749 Exactly! Very well put! You should state all this in the general comments.😊
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  27. There should be a video adressing male hypergamy too. Women's hypergamy tend to be intelectual and financial and male hypergamy is biological. (Always want to date a younger and more attractive female.) Both hypergamies creating problems nowadays for both sides.
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  28. Not getting to know somebody first sounds so superficial. It is amazing it became so normal nowadays. No courtship removes all the fun for women.
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  29.  @fte6525  Both, of course. A transaction would be the opposite. If these basic things are not present, expecting something as an obligation.
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  30. ​ @smokingcrab2290 This is not complicated. It is actually very simple and basic.
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  31.  @michaeldowd5545  But is not jumping ropes. It is the attitude that matters.
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  32. ​ @davidhaines238  I'm sorry to hear that. It seems you were being so nice and doing all the right things. I don't know what the problem was then. She should have told you. But please don't do what you said (stop winning and dining) because I think it is just going to make everything worse with another woman. I think women should be honest and give the men a reason, whatever it is.
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  33. The 2 things women want: 1. high character; 2. an intelligent man who is always working on developing himself and his mind (high character includes: hard working, kind, helps other people, faithful who are able to be happy with a monogamous relationship and not promiscuous. intelligent includes: takes good care of his health).
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  34. ​ @Straga_Severa  What you are saying makes a lot of sense. I probably misinterpreted what he said then. Thanks. 😊
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  35. My grandpa played chess and botcha and made a lot of friends this way. 😊
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  36. I also had the same impression.
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  37. ​ @EE12CSVT But a trad will be like a child: can't help pay the bills and be a real partner. Not so good for a man too.
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  38. Everybody likes to spoil people they like, specially women. But there has to be RECIPROCITY, or people feel taken for granted, and undervalued. BALANCE is the key.
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  39. TO ALL MAN: All women want a calm rational angel like Dr. Taraban teaches you to be in this video and seems to be so himself. Learn to be like this, respecful and calm and as long as you choose well, you will have a peaceful relationship. I tested it myself and I can say that it really works. Do whatever it takes: meditation, passiflora tea, etc.
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  40. I would do this too if I could.😊
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  41. It will lead to attracting gold-diggers that just care about money. Really successful men are gentlemen and nice to everybody.
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  42. ​​ @Beethovenviolin  Very good. You are right. When it is not about love, and so much about selfishness, not about giving, but only receiving, we get what we see today in so many cases.
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  43. ​ @lauracolo06 I am amazed to see men nowadays still think a woman should be their maids!
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  44. ​ @lauracolo06  So if I work and make good money, I would want a man to be my driver, plumber, construction worker to renovate my house, chef and sex slave with no free will, available for the service all the time. Plus: with no salary or vacation. He can't have a job or an income because if I cheat or become violent to him, he can not do anything about it. Would they be happy with that???
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  45. Agree. They can just look for a professional service.
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  46. Ask a "professional lover" to take care of you if you are ever old and sick with no money and you will see the difference between a professional and wife who loves you. Don't let a bitter man who made bad decisions in life ruin yours. Just choose better than he did.😉
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  47. ​ @Casutama Excellent. I agree 100%.
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  48. ​​ @ggrthemostgodless8713  That's a new one I've never heard! I thought all sugar babies were providing "the service" right from the beginning. But I guess a lot of these men are gentlemen deep inside, so they don't act this way even in this situation.
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  49. It's funny that nobody talks about how delusional are the men in their 50's wanting to date women half their age, and thinking the gold-diggers that they end up with really want to be with them. I had a teacher at the university who was from a Greek descent. She and her brother were stunningly attractive. She said her brother "played the field" a lot for many years because he could. When he turned 50, he finally wanted to commit, and was depressed because no girl in his target age wanted to be with him. I'm not saying this to be bad to men. All I'm saying is if you care about finding true love, don't wait until you're 50 to commit. A woman in her 20's and early 30's is full of options and prefer to date the youbg guy her own age. Women like youbg men too. They are not from another planet. So a lot of people are delusional, not only women. How many unattractive or not rich man do you see with a much younger woman? I see a lit if delusional men in the comments of these videos too. Be careful.
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  50. There has to be a balance in giving. I 100% agree. If a woman is not contributing 50%-50% with money they should compensate with housework. I agree. It's just common sense. That's why women who want more freedom should work hard to make more money or be single and only date the men who has more money. Each one can pay their own bills and do their own housework this way. I think the real problem is a lot of people being too selfish; always wanting the arrangement to benefit them more than the other person.
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